Song Siming in the TV series "Snail House" betrayed his marriage in his middle age and was with the beautiful seaweed that was several years younger than himself.
Song Siming said that he and seaweed were together because seaweed had the shadow of his first love, in order to make up for the regret of the relationship that ended without illness.
In fact, Song Siming's betrayal of his marriage is essentially because he sees different thoughts, because he likes the new and dislikes the old, because he feels that there is no freshness with his wife.
Situations like this are not uncommon in everyday life, as if many men have lost interest in their significant others when they reach this stage of middle age.
Or perhaps at this stage of middle age, the woman loses her attraction to her husband and the marriage becomes a mess.
At this time, when you see women who are still held in the palm of your husband's hand, you will be envious from the bottom of your heart.
However, in the relationship between the sexes, when a woman reaches middle age, she can still make her husband "infatuated", for a reason.
They don't put all their energy into their husbands, because half full can be consummated
Instead of focusing on "one basket," we learn to spread out to reduce the risks we may face in our relationships.
We need to focus our energies on career, friendship, love, and family, rather than focusing all our energies on marriage.
People are inferior, the more they do not leave their own, the more they can make themselves feel that the other party has been completely pinched by themselves, the more they can not get what they should care about.
These truths are not understood by those women who are "low emotional intelligence", but they are precisely the high emotional intelligence methods of women who can make their husbands obsessed.
They don't go around the stove and the house one by one every day, they will please themselves, do what they want, go shopping, exercise, skin care, improve their skills, and so on.
Such women are incomprehensible to their husbands, and it is precisely because they are elusive that they will be infatuated by the other half.
Just like there is a sentence in "Flowers Not Flowers and Fogs And Non-Fog": "You seem to be a flower but not a flower, and I seem to be a fog but not a fog." You seem to exist and not exist, and I seem to have you and not have you. ”
They don't lose their balance when dealing with marriage, and they still retain their freedom and comfort
Mr. Ma Weidu, director of the Guanfu Museum, once discussed an interesting theory in the program: "A good marriage must sleep in separate beds until middle age, and if there are conditions, one person and one room, no conditions, one room and two beds, like a standard room." ”
In real life, when many couples mention sleeping in separate beds, they will be in a state of scorn.
Because in their view, sharing a bed reflects the feelings between a couple, when will people sleep in separate beds?
quarrel? Conflicting?
Therefore, in their view, when there is irreversible damage to the feelings, they will sleep in separate beds to achieve blindness and no annoyance.
When we deal with feelings, we always fall into a blind spot, that is, we feel that the closer the distance between husband and wife, the better, and the more intimate, the better.
As everyone knows, everything must have a degree, and once this degree is exceeded, it will develop in a direction that is too late.
People will involve sleep problems in middle age, and putting the two people together may not have a complete ending, so it is better to sleep separately at this stage of middle age, after all, it is possible to maintain a sense of freshness through a short separation.
They will not be completely self-centered, but will consider the feelings of their other half
Jiang Bo in the TV series "Growing Up with You" is a son-in-law, so in his marriage, he always has a sense of inferiority.
His father-in-law and mother-in-law always sneered at him, saying that he was incompetent and not a man.
At this time, Jiang Bo's only backing was his wife, but He Jinghua never said a word for Jiang Bo, not only that, she also counted down and belittled Jiang Bo with her parents.
All kinds of pressure and humiliation finally crushed Jiang Bo's psychological defense line, and he proposed a divorce, refusing to change his mind no matter what He Jinghua said.
Zhang Ailing's "Half Life" said: "Men after middle age often feel lonely, because as soon as he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who want to rely on him, but there are no people he can rely on." ”
Many times, part of the reason why a marriage becomes a cup and plate is that the person in the marriage is too egotistical.
They only see what grievances they have been wronged, they only care about their own feelings, but they forget that marriage is originally a community, and it is not enough to care about themselves.
And those women who can be pampered by their husbands for a lifetime, most of them understand that love is mutual, you sympathize with the hardships of my October pregnancy, and I am sad that it is not easy for you to support your family.
In this way, after men experience the feeling of being cared for, they will naturally give back to women in the same way.