Wen | Fang Xiaoju
In "Snail Residence", Song Siming is a selfish man with a deep "strong desire".
He not only has a very deep "strong desire", but also a strong "possessiveness", and his dream is to have a glorious life of "wife and concubine win-win" left and right.
Therefore, he betrayed the marriage, failed the wife who paid for him, and let his lover Guo Haizao conceive the "only male" of the Song family.
In the original work of "Snail Residence", when Song Siming had a premonition that he was about to happen in the East Window, he did something that subverted the three views and surprised people - "entrusting orphans" to his wife:
"I want to ask you one thing, originally this matter could not be entrusted to anyone, but I want to come and go, I can trust in my life, I can please, only you."
She was pregnant, she was a boy, and I didn't know what kind of ending I would have, it was a sin I had made, but the child was innocent.
I'm afraid that in case, I don't care, and she won't raise that child, can you... This is the only male member of our Song family."
In the face of this kind of bridge section that only exists in the movie, Mrs. Song, who has always thought about her husband, refused without thinking:
"Don't please, you think I'm too great... You'd better tell your parents to go."
Knowing that he had betrayed his wife and still wanted to "entrust her with loneliness", what kind of thinking logic did Song Siming have?
When watching the TV series, I have not been able to understand Song Siming's approach, and after reading the original work, I understand the reason.
Eat the obsessive kindness of the wife
When the "Snail House" TV series was first broadcast, there was a saying among female college students: They were willing to be conquered by Song Siming.
In the TV series, Song Siming is not only handsome in appearance, elegant in temperament, personable, but also knowledgeable, classic in speech, and exudes the charm and sexiness of mature men all over his body.
In the original work, Song Siming is a full king in the relationship between the sexes.
Because of his high authority, the great difficulties have become effortless small things for him, and he can solve the problems of ordinary people who are difficult to die with a single phone call with his fingers.
Such a Song Siming, even female college students are willing to be conquered, how can Mrs. Song not love?
Mrs. Song not only loves Song Siming deeply, but is also obsessed with sacrificing herself for him, and is kind enough to take care of the original family for him.
Song Siming comes from a poor mountain village, and it was his brother who gave up the opportunity to go to college to fulfill his "proud son of heaven".
As a "second generation official", Mrs. Song never hated Song Siming because of his origin, but instead thought about him everywhere.
Mrs. Song's infatuation and dedication to her husband, few women can do it, in the original work, Mrs. Song said something like this to Song Siming:
"From the time you were in a single dorm room, we had a baby, and I took her alone. You go abroad for a year of study, and I cover all the inside and outside of your home, from the degree of subsidies your family needs every year, to the medicines your parents need to use when they are sick, and even the gift money for the birth of your niece, all of which are all I am busy with."
In this seemingly honorable marriage, Mrs. Song was constantly busy with her children, housework, husband and work every day, almost forgetting her own existence.
She once said to Song Siming with a loud voice: "Song Siming, I have been with you for so many years, and there is no place to be sorry for you."
As Song Siming's wife, Mrs. Song must be patient and restrained, and no matter what she likes, she can only look at it and smile.
Looking at the luxurious dining table in the mall that she had long wanted, she could only shake her head regretfully, because her family's suffocating house was not worthy of or put down better furniture.
Although her husband soared and held a high position of power, she did not enjoy much benefit from power except that she wore the top hat of Mrs. Song Siming on her head and always wanted to think about him.
Whenever she wanted to live a little, Song Siming would scare him:
"If you really enjoy life so much, then you will carry my head to go, you don't forget your identity, you are my wife, you have tens of thousands of hundreds of thousands of dollars, where does the money come from?"
I tell you, money comes and goes quickly, and if you receive it now, it doesn't mean it belongs to you, and sooner or later, one day, they will all have a place to go."
Mrs. Song did not enjoy the benefits, Song Siming's second milk Guo Seaweed all enjoyed, Mrs. Song did not dare to collect the money, all into the hands of Guo Seaweed.
Her husband developed, Mrs. Song did not dare to enjoy the benefits of power for his future, but after the husband's East Window incident, she fell into trouble.
When Song Siming felt that something was going to happen to her, Mrs. Song sold her parents' and brother's house in order to fill the vacancy and alleviate her husband's guilt.
She even said to Song Siming obsessively: "You are my husband, you are in prison, and I will send you prison food."
Song Siming ate the infatuation and kindness of his wife, and after the "orphanage" was not successful, he gave Guo Haiweed 5 million yuan and let her plan for herself and her children, without considering the future of her wife and daughter at all.
Mrs. Song's infatuation and kindness have created an illusion for Song Siming: even if she dies, her wife will honor her parents and take good care of the only male in the Song family, because her wife has been willing to pay for herself for more than ten years, and this time will not be an exception.
Accustomed to the wife's concessions
Mrs. Song's first time, failed to keep it for her husband.
Although Song Siming never mentioned this matter, Mrs. Song knew that this was a hurdle in her husband's heart, and he was always buried deep in his heart, so she felt ashamed in her heart.
Reading the original work of "Snail Residence" again, I always feel that Mrs. Song lives a little bit.
Her weakness in front of Song Siming made Song Siming accustomed to her step-by-step concessions.
When Song Siming first took Guo Haiweed to appear at a classmate party, he actually thought that as soon as Guo Haiweed appeared, the news would immediately reach his wife's ears.
He wanted that effect, because it was much easier to have a showdown with his wife, who had long been suspicious, than to speak in front of her.
Things are indeed exactly the same as Song Siming thought, in the face of her husband's cheating and blatant provocation, Mrs. Song did not make a noise, she made the following two reactions:
First, do not say a word and bury your head in work.
Second, accept reality after crying.
Song Siming was ready for his wife to make a fuss, but his wife's performance was a bit unexpected.
Seeing that his wife had such a measure, Song Siming's hanging heart let go, and he took his wife in his arms and used a sentence that sounded very intimate, making her half push and half accept the fact that she was having an affair:
"I'm just playing a trick, and in my heart no one will ever replace you, so why should you be angry with an irrelevant person?"
Under the soft and hard treatment of her husband, Mrs. Song easily gave in like a boat. The price of her concession was to follow Song Siming's method of dividing the Eastern and Western Palaces: four days a week with her wife and three days with her second mother.
Mrs. Song's step-by-step concession made her husband and second grandmother more unscrupulous, and Guo Haizao shamelessly said that if Song Siming did not often accompany her, she would sleep between Song Siming and his wife.
The biggest counterattack made by Mrs. Song against Song Siming and Guo Haiweed's naked provocation was to hide her husband and go to Guo Haiweed twice.
When Mrs. Song first went to find Guo Haiweed, she gave Guo Haiweed enough decency, she did not speak foul language like other originals, she just peacefully persuaded Guo Haiweed as a person who came over:
"Miss Guo, you are so prosperous, it is a pity to be with him." I know better than you what he is, in his life, he does not say a wrong word, does not do a wrong thing, all people and things, are pawns on his chessboard, like me as a pawn, but you are too young, you are too sorry."
As the original match, Mrs. Song maintained her demeanor in front of the second grandmother, and tried to make herself calm, but her forbearance not only did not impress Guo Haiweed, but also exchanged for her ridicule:
"Thank you for your kindness... I'm getting married soon, I have my own lover... Whether your husband loves you or not, you know in your heart, please don't send anger to me because you can't get it."
Guo Haizao's words hit Mrs. Song's sore spot directly: because her husband did not love, even Xiao San was laughing at himself.
Mrs. Song heard her heart dripping blood.
When Mrs. Song knew that her husband had disregarded the interests of herself and her daughter and gave Guo Haiweed more than half of the money she had raised from the sale of the house and every effort, she found a place for the two of them and wanted to return the money that was ready to alleviate her husband's guilt.
Stepping into the "love nest" of her husband and second grandmother, looking at the large house and luxurious furniture she once dreamed of, Mrs. Song's heart began to sting.
In order to save her husband, she even sold the house of her parents and brother, but her husband gave his lover all the things he had always dreamed of but never had.
Mrs. Song felt like a dying fish on a board, the scales were peeled off piece by piece, revealing the bloody flesh and blood, and the pain was indescribable.
She followed Song Siming once, and she didn't get anything but fame, and this name was just a decoration for Song Siming to climb up.
Mrs. Song's step-by-step concession in the marriage spoiled Song Siming, making him feel that everything had become taken for granted, so he had to shamelessly entrust the second and second milk's children to his wife.
He not only had to drag his wife as a crutch for himself, but he also had to pull her to give the second milk as a cushion, and he wanted to trample on the wife's true heart and show off his omnipotence to the second grandmother.
Treat your wife as a pawn
Song Siming is a man who clearly distinguishes "love" and "fit", he knows what kind of woman he likes, and he knows what kind of woman he needs.
In Song Siming's heart, there has always been a white moonlight, although he has never got it, he has always kept it in his heart.
After experiencing the first love that could not be loved and tasting the bitterness of love, when he reached the age when it was time to get married, he rationally chose his wife who had the identity of "official second generation" and was kind and generous.
Mrs. Song's whole life has been a chess piece on Song Siming's chessboard.
Mrs. Song once said a famous saying:
"Men need stepping stones when they are young, they need to strengthen their hearts in middle age, and they need crutches when they are old."
Mrs. Song's philosophical quote is not a summary of her marriage relationship with Song Siming.
When she was young, she was a stepping stone for Song Siming, who not only achieved a class leap through her status as a "second generation official", but also brought benefits to her original family.
Mrs. Song is a kind woman, she loves Wu and Wu, because she loves Song Siming deeply, she treats Song Siming's family well.
When watching the TV series, I think that Song Siming has been unwilling to divorce his wife, it is because he still has feelings for her, and after reading the original work, he understands that Song Siming's refusal to divorce is a chess game, and he has his own plans.
His native family and his parents and brothers rely on the help of his wife, and Mrs. Song has taken care of Song Siming's original family since she got married, so that he has no worries.
In middle age, Song Siming set up another step, he had already planned, people in the system, can not have a second child, the wife gave birth to a daughter, he wants to give the old Song family a successor, Guangzong Yaozu, he will borrow the woman's belly to give birth to a son.
So he used his wife as a pawn, first taking his lover Guo Haiweed to appear publicly on some occasions, and then forcing his wife to accept reality.
He knew that for the sake of his face and career, his wife could only aggrieved herself step by step, and after the fait accompli, the kind wife had to endure the existence of Guo Haiweed.
The appearance of Guo Haizao made Song Siming seem to be back to 18 years old, she not only injected a strong needle into Song Siming, activated his insufficient energy, but also continued the incense for the old Song family.
Some things in people need to be released, just like power and glory, if you suppress it for a long time and have nowhere to show off, you will get sick, and Guo Haizao is the best way for Song Siming to show off himself.
In Guo Haizao, Song Siming saw the omnipotent self.
"When people walk by the river, they can't get their shoes wet", when desire swells sharply, sooner or later there will be accidents. When Song Siming was at the end of the road, he once again regarded his wife as a pawn.
This time he imagined his wife as a crutch that could be relied upon, a crutch that the old Song family could support in the future.
Feeling that he was not coming much, Song Siming, who had betrayed his marriage and failed his wife, begged his wife to take care of his parents and the children in Guo Haiweed's belly.
Song Siming is very clear, Guo Haiweed is like an embroidered pillow, in addition to satisfying his desires and passing on his lineage, other aspects are useless. Only a kind and generous wife can share happiness and hardship with him and give him stability in the rear.
However, Song Siming made a mistake in this last move, he mistakenly regarded himself as an ancient emperor, thinking that he was dying and "entrusting orphans", and his wife would look at the years of marital love and shoulder the burden of taking care of concubines for herself.
He forgot that he was not an emperor, his wife was not an empress, and his wife did not yet reach the dignity of a mother.
Mrs. Song can suffer for him, can willingly be a stepping stone to his career take-off, can take care of his original family without complaint, and can also grievance herself for his future, but she is not generous enough to raise illegitimate children for him.
When Mrs. Song went to Guo Seaweed to beg Song Siming for the 5 million yuan that Song Siming gave her, guo seaweed, who did not say a word, refused to repay the money angered her, she temporarily lost her hand and pushed down Guo Seaweed, the only male of the old Song family disappeared with Guo Seaweed, and Guo Seaweed also lost her uterus.
Write at the end:
In the original work of "Snail Residence", Mrs. Song said this to Song Siming:
"You are my husband, what I want is not how beautiful and brilliant you are, how soaring you are, that is all for outsiders to see." All I want is to have a partner when I am old, and my child has a father.
However, now I know that what I have paid for more than ten years is not that when I am old, there is a person who can support each other to go to the cemetery, but I am making wedding clothes for others, and I have spent all my hardships, but I have left Gan Lai to future generations..."
When Mrs. Song said these words, she had already woken up a little late.
Mrs. Song's final ending: Song Siming is dead, she is in distress, and her mother and daughter have lost their dependence.
However, Guo Haizao took the money that Song Siming gave her, and was picked up abroad by the people that Song Siming had arranged early on and started a new life.
In this world, not all infatuation can be exchanged for true feelings, not all kindness can be exchanged for gratitude, excessive pay, will make men feel accustomed to it, and finally become inching forward.
Your step by step retreat will make men get carried away and eventually forget who they are.
You can be affectionate or kind, but you have to see the other person as a person.
As a woman, even if you step into marriage, you must make yourself an independent individual, do not have to be too attached, do not have to expect too much, and do not let yourself become an appendage to men.
Sacrificing oneself to become a man is what fools do.
Smart women are not too obsessed, because excessive kindness and concessions will indulge men's selfishness and ruthlessness.