Sometimes, we think about what we've been busy all our lives for.
Later, we gradually understood in the continuous rush that we were busy in order to have enough time and space to spend the old age in the second half of our lives.
That is to say, the reason why we are so busy is to exchange for a peaceful life in the future, which is the so-called first bitter and then sweet.
However, fate is sometimes willing to tease people, some people are already very bitter in the first half of her life, but the second half of her life has not been able to achieve bitterness, so they feel that they have been busy for so long but it is still such a result, and what is the meaning of being busy.
Thus, he began to complain and give up on himself.
What life will look like in the future depends a lot on what we choose and pay for in the beginning.
In fact, whether a person's future life is good or not is directly related to whether she has done meaningful things in the past.
So, what kind of woman, in her later years, will be very bleak?
Psychological research has shown that these three kinds of women have a bleak life in their later years, but I hope you are not.
Pushing people who care about themselves away again and again
Jiang Bo in the TV series "Growing Up with You" was a poor boy who was poor and white when he married He Jinghua, no house, no car, no savings, but fortunately, He Jinghua did not dislike him, these material conditions did not matter, Jiang Bo could enter their home.
Therefore, Jiang Bo felt that he could have such a good wife because of heaven's favor, and he cherished this hard-won happiness, so when he got along with He Jinghua, he always tolerated her and tolerated her.
But He Jinghua's parents looked down on this poor son-in-law, they always mocked Jiang Bo for his incompetence, not a man, at first He Jinghua would not say anything, but later, she also began to taunt her husband, pressing her self-esteem to the ground again and again.
Finally, Jiang Bo could not bear it any longer, and he proposed a divorce, even if he left the house.
Originally, it was a very happy marriage, but because He Jinghua personally elected his lover, a tragedy was staged.
However, in real life, such a situation is not a minority, many women will have such a common disease, polite to strangers, but all the bad temper and impatience to their closest people.
Hurt again and again, making the distance between each other gradually drift apart until they become strangers.
In such a situation, the loved ones are far away from themselves, and in their old age, they are alone, how can such a scene not be desolate?
People who don't know how to plan ahead when they're young
Why do some women live well in their later years?
Nan Li's mother in the TV series "Little Shed" saved money for herself when she was young, and when she retired, the retirement salary in her hand could support all her living expenses.
Therefore, she does not have to rely on her children, she can be self-sufficient, do beauty every day, dance square dance, and live a good and unhappy life.
In contrast, most of the women who reach their old age but still can't enjoy the good, most of them have a commonality - that is, they don't know how to plan ahead when they are young.
For example, the moonlight family does not have a clear concept of financial management and consumption, how much to spend, never know how to save money for future planning, in case of emergency;
For example, after getting married, they became housewives, had no source of income, had no money in their hands, and when the marriage relationship broke down, they had been derailed from society for too long and did not know how to adapt to this society.
The economic base determines the superstructure, and the economic foundation is not solid, so how can the superstructure be made strong?
Therefore, if you do not know how to plan ahead when you are young, you will experience sadness in your old age.
A woman who only relies on others but doesn't think for herself
Ma Weidu once said: "Each of us will definitely encounter obstacles in our lives in terms of physiology, psychology or surrounding environment, and the ups and downs in everyone's heart must be overcome by themselves, no matter how others help you, you need to cross this obstacle yourself." ”
Unfortunately, there are many women in real life who don't understand this truth.
In childhood, listen to the arrangements of parents, when in love, listen to the arrangements of the boyfriend, when dealing with friendship, only know to listen to the collective arrangement, after marriage, and only rely on the arrangements made by the husband for himself.
They never think independently about what they should do in the future, they are obsessed with exploring the value of others, but they never want to tap into the real needs of their hearts.
As a result, over time, their personalities also lack independence, so that in their later years, they do not know how to arrange their lives.
Such a life is pathetic, it is out of our original purpose in coming into this world, to experience the beauty of life, rather than to rely on others from beginning to end.