"I tell you: your daughter married me, I married first, she married twice, and you will not lose..." In this marriage of the first marriage and the second marriage, Jiang Bo, who could not bear it, finally broke out.
In this unequal marriage, Jiang Bo's resignation was actually doomed from the beginning.
01
The first-married man marries the second-married woman, and the rural boy marries the city qianjin. Although everything is just to take what you need, Jiang Bosheng lowered his posture to dust.
In the play, we can see that He Jinghua's whole family does not look up to Jiang Bo, and even He Jinghua's daughter from her ex-husband looks down on her stepfather, often with all kinds of sneers.
Jiang Bo has also been playing the role of a "little daughter-in-law" at home, who is hard-working and bitter, and he has to obediently listen to the insults of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, and his wife has all kinds of instructions to accept all orders, and his stepdaughter looks down on him, and he has also been careful to provide. Even the education of his own son has become a matter for other people's families. And whenever He Jinghua encountered such a situation, he just chose a person to drink alcohol in the car downstairs.
He Jinghua's parents looked down on him in this way, if it were not for the only daughter He Jinghua's second marriage with children, he was such a rural and no formal job of a college boy could not have entered the eyes of He Jinghua and her parents.
02
The reason why the party with a low posture in an asymmetrical marriage lowers the posture is also divided into two situations, one is the reason for subjective love, and the other is the reason for objective interests.
And Jiang Bo, I think, belongs to the second kind.
I don't deny that there may be subjective love, but it definitely doesn't allow him to tolerate his family while being good to He Jinghua.
In the final analysis, it is only that he thinks that he has already gained more in this marriage, or will get more.
Therefore, the weak party has chosen to tolerate, accommodate and tolerate everywhere in the life after marriage. It even makes people feel a little flattered.
03
In this marriage, Jiang Bo put his posture so low, and there is also an objective reason for Jiang Bo's several personality characteristics.
1. Inferiority from country boys
Although it is not explicitly stated in the play, it is a little inferior to face He Jinghua's family Jiang Bo, otherwise he would not have blindly endured for so long. In the episode of the emotional outburst, it can be seen that Jiang Bo knows everything, and also said that he is married first, He Jinghua is married for the second time, marry him, He Jinghua does not lose.
Since he did not lose money, he himself did not willingly continue to suffer and be angry like this, but he still chose to endure it all the time. A sentence from He Jinghua's mother said that the problem was, you are not satisfied, you should talk about it earlier.
And Jiang Bo, or in the end, was completely intolerable before he broke out. In the past, I did not dare to resist, did not dare to say no to things that should not be borne, it was nothing more than my own inferiority complex.
2. The desire for a better life
With the conditions of He Jinghua's family, Jiang Bo chose to enter the family, and he chose a better life. It is also reasonable for people to go to the good and the water to flow to the low.
Jiang Bo's conditions in all aspects are very general, if you choose a girl who is almost equal to get married, you may also have to struggle for more than 20 years and not necessarily have the current life. The He Jinghua family, who chose to marry for the second time, is undoubtedly the fastest way to enter a better life.
3, the vanity in the bones
Jiang Bo, who was not more like an upside-down door, entered He Jinghua's house, and everything he wanted was available. A rural boy who married Miss Qianjin from the big city. If you go back to his rural hometown, how many people should be envious!
The so-called poor in the downtown area no one asks, the rich have distant relatives in the mountains, life is so realistic.
In addition to the second marriage, He Jinghua's conditions in all other aspects are very good, with high education, good work, solid family, and Shanghai natives, which can be said to be a proper Bai Fumei. As for the disadvantage of second marriage, it was also overshadowed by too many of her advantages. Take out one at random, all of which can satisfy Jiang Bo's vanity in a certain aspect.
4. Be self-aware
Part of the reason why Jiang Bo lowered his posture in marriage is also because he is self-aware.
Rural babies in other places, college education, not even a formal job, every day at home to do beauty bloggers, engage in live broadcasting, from becoming Li Jiaqi's kind of "brother" with goods, it seems that there is still no end in sight.
His only strength is that he is young and looks like he can still get his hands on it. Not only are He Jinghua's parents and her daughter in the play, but even many viewers think that Jiang Bo eats soft rice.
In such unequal conditions, since Jiang Bo has chosen, he is also destined to have self-knowledge, and only by lowering his posture can he maintain the balance of all aspects of married life.
04
In this marriage of the first marriage and the second marriage, in fact, it is just an exchange of value, Jiang Bo's initial value is low, so he can only enhance his value in marriage through more pay.
After experiencing a failed marriage, He Jinghua only wanted to find someone who was good for him. Although she looks like a very motherly girl, she is still very discerning in this matter.
She did not look at the wrong person, she calmly helped her parents to say Jiang Bo, although there was occasional maintenance, but in the end she still sided with her parents.
The reason why she can enjoy all the efforts of Jiang Bo so safely is only because of her own sense of superiority. She believes that with Jiang Bo's current conditions, it is inseparable from their family no matter what. This is also the reason why they treated Jiang Bo recklessly at the beginning.
And Jiang Bo can get more in this marriage, and the more he gets, the more he must pay. Therefore, both parties choose marriage in this way, and they also have their own reasons, and they all know very well what they want.
However, this unequal marriage is doomed, and the weaker party can only lower its posture if it cannot improve itself well. Jiang Bo's resignation was nothing more than his own choice, and it was already doomed from the very beginning.
epilogue:
The so-called marriage is actually a cooperation!
You need me, I need you, to form a family together,
Enjoy the joy together and face the wind and rain together.
As long as it is cooperation, it will inevitably require the exchange of value,
If your own value is low, then you only have to work harder to pay and change,
in order to maintain the balance of a marriage!
END.
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