Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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Like is the joy of first sight, love is not tired of it for a long time!
The truth is straightforward and clear, no one knows, no one knows. And liking and loving are never the same thing!
Like, is to generate the desire to be close. Love is the desire to accompany you for the rest of your life.
Some women don't understand why they have been with men for so long, why they always feel "unsteady"! This point should be analyzed from two different aspects of men's psychology and women's psychology.
When women face feelings, it is usually a process of sensibility to reason. And men are just the opposite!
Women treat feelings, and it is easy to identify and pay all their feelings when they like them. Then, in the real relationship, slowly sober, rational, and then determine whether the man in front of you is worthy of the rest of his life.
Men will take the initiative to approach when they treat feelings and like them, but this does not mean that they have identified anyone in this regard! They will analyze whether to continue the relationship from the process of getting along in a rational and reserved state.
Once men have determined the continuation, they begin to release the sensual energy, gradually opening up the "things" they had retained before to the women.
As long as the woman has not reduced her "existence value" in the process, the man will never beat her with "reality".
In the eyes of women, wanting to make men emotional is comparable to ascending to the sky! In fact, it is because at the beginning, men are rationally told that the value of the woman in front of them is "insufficient".
In fact, men are really direct in the face of feelings! He likes who to decide who to spend the rest of his life with, and it only takes a few necessary stages! This is also the process of a man moving his true feelings to a complete identification.
Men's true feelings and the identification of a relationship need to have the following 3 necessary stages. After reading it, the woman understands:
1: External senses
A woman's appearance and figure determine the chances of a man approaching her. A woman's speech and demeanor determine the follow-up attention a man pays to her.
When a woman's appearance, figure, and mannerisms are perfectly matched, men will initiate enthusiastic initiatives.
Yes, this is the most real "joy at first sight".
In the initial stages, men will sow seeds of hope for women who transmit their good external senses. However, the enthusiasm of men at this stage is definitely not a recognition.
Whether it is the companionship of time or the form of payment in money, it will be a man's intellectual "temptation" to women.
Like women, there is no man who does not want to pick the right person. In the process of wasting time and money, what kind of misfortune should it be to be "teased" by the wrong person?
Some women will feel that the man is very generous to himself and must be very satisfied with himself at the same time, proving that the man is "reliable".
In fact, a man's generosity or slamming the door is only an "evaluation" of the beginning of the relationship. As the understanding deepens, the score of the assessment increases or decreases.
This is also the main reason why some women wonder "why he was generous after he cut the door before" and "why he was generous to me before and then cut the door".
Men don't expose their rational thinking, he just uses his own practical actions to pass on women, what they think is "worth it"!
2: Inner Exploration
The biggest reality in the relationship between men and women is that a man who is full of mouths and says that he likes you and has always been enthusiastic has suddenly proposed to break up with you or is lukewarm to you!
If any woman thinks she will be forever loved by a man who is always enthusiastic and proactive with herself, she is wrong!
The woman who can retain the man's heart and make the man's lasting deep love is often a decisive role in her inner life. And the woman's innermost is precisely the value assessment that men make after exploring her.
Please believe that no one in this world except your parents will give you and love you no matter what you are inside and outside, regardless of your returns!
No one will keep a person who has no value in his life and continue to love and care deeply.
Individual men, the same is true for mate selection!
In the face of feelings, the joy at first sight is the desire for men to be close to the external senses, and the existence value of women to men is the basis for whether men can be dedicated, dedicated, and long-term to her.
When a woman's intrinsic value satisfies a man's need for feelings, he will squeeze in time to accompany and gradually be willing to give more of his feelings.
In the stage of inner exploration, men will still have a little reservation! Because, in addition to the woman's inner, it also needs to see whether the woman's "rating" of the man is up to standard.
Although the rational man is calm, once he begins to give affection, he will occasionally feel unsteady. In this regard, they will try to do a good job in the present moment as the top priority. As for the rest of their lives, they don't really "identify" it.
After all, feelings are a matter for both parties!
3: Full acceptance, complete tolerance, and sincere recognition
Two people have been together for a long time, mutual understanding and running-in, the value of each other's existence is rising, and they have become dependent because of habits. At the same time, the two sides are also in daily life, and have a certain grasp of each other's advantages and disadvantages.
At this time, if the woman and the man are synchronized, can accept and tolerate, then the man will naturally and sincerely believe.
Some women, she can indeed arouse men's initial desires externally, and her inner value also meets the standard of men's help, but later she stops growing and learning, then men are easy to like the new and tired of the old.
Chen Junsheng in "The First Half of My Life", attracted by Luo Zijun's appearance and calmed by Luo Zijun's inner happy personality, finally because Luo Zijun stopped growing and transferred his feelings to stop falling in love!
Men's requirements for the other half are often much higher than women's.
As long as a woman is identified at first glance, she will remain largely unchanged for the rest of her life. Men are just the opposite!
The real thoughts in the depths of men's hearts often need someone who can not only make themselves feel the value of existence, but also really not make themselves feel uncomfortable.
Once the value of the woman's existence in front of him disappears or he can't keep up with his own needs, he will choose to give up or shelve.
When women constantly improve themselves and ensure the value of their existence, men will truly be reassured, loyal and single-minded for the rest of their lives.
For a woman, whoever touches her heart at the first time will emotionally fall in love with whom. For a man, who can not lose value, he will choose who, and in the process of selection, gradually release affection!
In the red dust, we often hear that "if you love one person, you will accept the whole of him." In fact, when faced with reality, love and non-love are less important than their own value.
Countless realistic marital relationships tell women not to give up being themselves no matter what, and to maintain their beauty and ability no matter what. It is because, in the current situation of changeable love, whoever has more sensibility in the face of feelings will lose.
When men and women face feelings, it is a game of sensibility and rationality. If a sensual woman gives up self-growth, she will not only lose the man she loves, but also fail her life.
In the interaction between men and women, women should appropriately change their thinking ability, and use male thinking to consider the current emotional relationship appropriately.
This is not only to maintain the current relationship, but also to allow yourself to meet a relatively better person while constantly improving yourself.
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
Topic Discussion: What do you think is the most realistic side of men in relationships? Leave what you are sorry to say to others in your heart and leave it in the comments section below!