A high emotional intelligence mother-in-law reminded her daughter-in-law: Women do not have these three things, and no matter how beautiful they are, they cannot keep men

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It is said that women are pleasing to themselves, which woman does not have facial anxiety in front of the men she likes?

On weekends, the daughter-in-law is in the bedroom "mirror appliqué yellow", standing in the doorway of the mother-in-law from time to time with her eyes to sweep the daughter-in-law, sometimes feel funny and shake her head.

The daughter-in-law knew that her mother-in-law was laughing at her again, and she said to her mother-in-law, which woman did not love beauty when she was young, and which one did not carefully dress herself for her own man?

But the mother-in-law said to the daughter-in-law very seriously, if beauty can retain men, then there are more young and beautiful little girls outside, even if you apply more fat powder, can you compare with young girls?

As soon as this sentence was spoken, the daughter-in-law's originally proud heart suddenly sank to the bottom, yes, no matter how beautiful a woman is, she will have an aging day, and when the time comes, how easy is it to keep a man's heart?

Just when the daughter-in-law swept away the excitement, the mother-in-law standing at the door spoke again, and it is not impossible to keep a man, but it is definitely not beautiful, a woman who can really grasp the heart of a man, she must have something different in her.

When I watched the TV series "Wu Zetian", I remember xu Cairen saying a word to Wu Zetian, who was still a martial artist: "How long can the Israeli servant be a servant?" ”

Xu Huicai, who was born with intelligence, was being favored by the emperor at that time, although she was also beautiful, but what attracted the emperor was definitely not this skin bag, but her "belly has a poetry book", the clever Wu Meiniang was in disapproval at the time, in an instant, she suddenly understood Xu Cairen's words, so she no longer went to compare beauty with which talent or beauty, but began to invest in herself, desperately studying, and finally no longer only "Israel waiter" silly white sweet.

It's true that men like beautiful women, but it's not just beauty that keeps men, but more importantly, the following three things:

01 Economic independence

It is said that a woman's temperament is much more important than beauty, but where does temperament come from? Temperament comes from the path a woman has traveled, the books she has read, and the world she has seen, and the premise of all this is that there must be enough economic foundation to support it.

A woman, if you do not have a native family that can enrich you, you must first make yourself financially independent before talking about love and considering marriage, otherwise one day you will be alerted by the phrase "the economic base determines the superstructure".

In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", on beauty, Luo Zijun is far better looking than Ling Ling, the temperament is elegant, the brand is added, the gentleness and cuteness of the little woman are many, on talent, she is also a key university graduate, and has also been a white-collar worker in a foreign company, no matter from which aspect, she does not lose Ling Ling, why was she robbed of her husband by the other party later?

It is because of her later willingness to be a housewife, since then the world in her eyes is only as big as a home, the things in her heart are so short of parents, she encountered all difficulties and problems that need her husband Chen Junsheng to stand up and solve for her, and even her mother, sister and brother-in-law have become a burden to her husband.

Chen Junsheng is rich and handsome in her eyes, but in reality, he is also flesh and blood, and there will also be pressure and confusion, and all this Luo Zijun cannot help him solve, because she can't do anything.

The loss of financial ability will be lost along with other abilities, and when a woman is beautiful in front of men, nothing else, even a common language, will men still treat you as they always have?

Along with the loss of financial ability, there is also the dignity of a woman.

A friend often sighed and said that every time she reached out to her husband for money, she would feel like a beggar, but it was obvious that she had paid much more than her husband. After getting married, she gave birth to two children for her husband in three years, her in-laws could not help, and her mother's family lived far away, so she had no choice but to become a full-time mother.

Every time her living expenses are exhausted and she reaches out for money, her husband's face will always flash a reluctant expression, and at that time, she will be like a child who has made a mistake, waiting to be punished by some unknown words.

She said she hated the feeling so much that she would rather pay for a babysitter and give all the money she earned to the nanny than stay at home and live a begging life.

02 Spirit rich

Some people say that what is more terrible than economic poverty is spiritual scarcity, which is a good point.

Sometimes a strong heart will cause unexpected changes in people, and this strong inner is where a person's real charm lies.

There is a movie about two people exchanging souls, an obese high school student who is bullied by the school and accidentally falls from a high place, just hit a domineering president, so that both faint on the spot. But when the president woke up, he found that his body had become the fat high school student, and the body that originally belonged to him was lying on the hospital bed, helpless, he could only appear as a high school student in life.

After returning to school, the students who had bullied him still refused to give up on him, but he never gave those people the opportunity to bully him again, and when he first fought back, those who had bullied him were a little shocked, and when he fought back the second time, some people had begun to be afraid. The body is still a fat body, but the inner soul is no longer the cowardly little boy.

In the end, what determines everything about a person is naturally the inner soul. Regardless of the appearance, if a person's heart is strong and abundant enough, then his life must not be wrong.

As the saying goes, "Good-looking skins are the same, and interesting souls are one of a thousand." "If you want to become the one who is different, you must first have a different inner temperament."

03 Always be yourself

There is a plot in the movie "The Shawshank Redemption": Andy, who was wrongfully imprisoned, was locked up for two weeks because he did not follow the rules of prison and played the record privately.

But after he came out of the small dark room, he was not decadent at all, on the contrary, his face was still glowing. The inmates inexplicably asked what made Andy live so well in the little dark room, Andy said that he had music in his head, he was in prison, but his heart was free, although he was named a prisoner, but his heart was always himself, he wanted to pursue his music and even ideals, which no one could deprive.

It is also this belief in having to do it again, which makes Andy finally free in his own way.

A woman, if she can do the above at the same time, I think, she must be a sparkling person, such a person can attract anyone, but also not afraid of anyone leaving, because she is her own wonderful world.

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