Women who firmly grasp the true heart of men are good at "attacking the heart", and they can't be wrong

There are always people who feel that as long as they are good enough for a man, they can make the other party die for themselves, so they would rather be wronged themselves than pay for men at any cost.

But in fact, no man is inseparable because women are good to themselves.

Zhen Furong in the movie "Hua Yang", her husband spends all day outside drinking, and she runs a tea house in her hometown and guards her husband's family property.

In order to win Hua Kui's heart, Li Gongzi and Hua Kui bet that they had been kidnapped by kidnappers and needed one thousand taels to redeem themselves, otherwise they would be deceived.

See if Zhen Furong will guard the family property, or will she sell the tea house to save Li Gongzi.

As a result, as expected, Zhen Furong sold the tea house, but when her servants rushed over, the sky was filled with fireworks for the wedding of her husband and Hua Kui.

At this moment, Zhen Furong felt that she was a jumping beam clown, being toyed with by her beloved.

But isn't this her own choice, to exchange sincerity for sincerity, in the end it is just to be disappointed.

It can be seen that being too good to men may not be rewarded, but more of a failure.

In the relationship between the sexes, women who firmly grasp the true heart of men are good at "attacking the heart", and cannot be wrong.

Clarify their role positioning, only screening and not tuning

Many women will blur their positioning in their feelings, often putting themselves in the role of "mother", forgetting that their true identity is actually his lover.

For example, when men are worried about things at work, they will rack their brains to think of a solution, but unfortunately in the end, they are also busy in vain;

For example, when men stay up late to play games, they will tirelessly tell men to go to bed early, staying up late is not good for their health, and going to bed early and getting up early will be in good health.

But we found that there is no such statement, such a saying, such a command will only appear in the role of the mother, but we are the girlfriends of men.

What we have to do is to give each other emotional value, or to respect each other's choices, after all, in the adult world, we should know what we should do and what we should not do.

If the other party knows, naturally we do not need to preach; if the other party does not know, it is useless for us to preach, and even make the other party feel bored.

Mary Warsteincraft said: "Independence is the greatest happiness in life, the basis of all virtues, even if I live in a barren land, I have to reduce my needs to achieve independence." ”

Adults do not need to deliberately change, to enjoy the beauty of the identity of lovers.

In this way, if you do nothing and do not deliberately manage it, you will never forget it.

Learn to be a fake sweet girl with a sweet mouth

There is a kind of girl, they are "mouth honey belly sword", that is, the mouth is particularly sweet, very good at saying what men like to hear, but their hearts are very rational.

They will put nice words on their lips, but they will not be carried away by love and do a lot of irrational things.

For example, giving unconditionally to men, such as forgiving each other bottomlessly because of men, etc.

Such women know the charm of language, so they never skimp on praise for men.

Bi Shumin said: "Love is afraid of silence, too many people, think that love to the depths is speechless." In fact, love is a difficult emotion to describe, which needs to be expressed and transmitted in detail. ”

The ear is the shortcut to the heart, and language as a tool can convey our emotions well to each other's hearts.

Don't feel embarrassed to praise men, in fact, men are more inclined to women being interested in themselves because that's an affirmation of their sense of worth.

Therefore, we must learn to be a fake sweet girl with a sweet mouth, so as to make men dream of themselves.

Don't lose yourself because of love

The way Andy handles feelings in the TV series "Ode to Joy" can be used as a textbook for us to get along with men.

After Andy fell in love with Bao Yifan, he did not take love as the whole of his life.

She works every day, takes things seriously at work, and when she is not busy, she will learn boxing, she will go running, she will learn to dance, and she will have dinner with friends.

In short, Andy will not spend all his time and energy on getting along with Bao Yifan because he is in love.

She has not lost herself, she has always been independent and sober in love, such an attitude makes Bao Yifan feel that Andy is not completely her own.

In this uncertain state of mind, Bao Yifan became more and more dependent and obsessed with Andy.

The most important thing in love is to be equal to each other, if we lose ourselves in love, then it means that we will lose the initiative, which is not good for us.

Yang Xiwen once said: "A wise woman has long known that under the premise of not hurting others, going my own way is the most beautiful posture of life, and it turns out that we never have to please anyone." "You know, learning to love yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."