In this life, a person must receive three kinds of education, namely, family education, school education and social education.
The most important thing for a child is the beginning stage of life, which is called family education.
Family education is very important for the growth of children and will affect the development of children throughout their lives.
Therefore, if parents want their children to have a good future, then don't be lazy on these four things.
01
Lack of companionship
The elderly are raised on their behalf
Companionship, this seemingly simple two words, is extremely "luxurious" in today's parent-child relationship.
There was a saying on the Internet that was very popular before: "I only have two hands, either move bricks, or hold you, I can't move bricks if I hold you, but I can't raise you without moving bricks." ”
Yes, if you don't work, you can't afford to raise children; you can't go to work and you can't accompany your children.
Now most families are like this, parents come out early and return late, work is busy, and the time to spend with their children can be said to be very little.
But is this really good for children?
In a parent-child program "Mom is Superman 3", the mode of getting along between Huang Shengyi and her son Andy is a good interpretation of how the absence of a mother's company has affected children since childhood.
When Andy was three months old, he was sent to his grandmother by Huang Shengyi, and Andy can be said to have been brought up by his grandmother.
His mother Huang Shengyi rarely accompanied him, which led to his mother's little understanding of Andy.
In a test of tacit understanding between mother and child, Huang Shengyi scored only 28 points.
Because he rarely accompanies his children, Huang Shengyi does not understand Andy, and Andy is not familiar with his mother, and he is very resistant to his mother.
His mother took him to buy clothes, but he always refused to hold hands with his mother;
Mom wants to take pictures with him, and he keeps saying I don't take pictures;
When asked: If your mother doesn't accompany you, will you be alone? Andy said: I'm used to it.
Parents do not establish intimate contact with their children during the years when they need companionship the most, which leads to estrangement from the parent-child relationship.
As Long Yingtai said: "Parents also have a "validity period", in the ten years on which the child is most dependent, carefully nurture and provide dependence, once the child grows to adolescence, no matter how hard the parents try, they can no longer provide substantial influence. ”
Parents are lazy in raising their children, absent from the most critical years in the growth of their children, and there will be more and greater troubles waiting for you in the future.
Know that every child's growth needs to be accompanied by their parents.
02
Reluctant to educate
Indulge children unconditionally
03
Education depends solely on teachers
Parents do hand-waving treasurers
04
Follow your child's wishes
Let him grow up happily
I don't know when it began, Chinese parents are more and more respectful of their children, more and more advocating happy education.
They believe that the child's feelings are the most important and that the child should learn in happiness.
If your child is suffering from learning, then don't force your child to learn.
As everyone knows, what seems to be respect for the child is actually laissez-faire to the child, which is an extremely irresponsible performance of the parents.
Source: The picture and text come from the network, invaded and deleted.
EDIT: Xiao Huang