The love thing is very strange, when there is no time, it will never hurt the spring and the autumn, and when you have it, you will start to suffer from gains and losses.
Once upon a time there was a beggar who lived a life of starvation every day, but even so, he was able to hum songs happily every day with a contented attitude.
One day, a rich man was infected by his happiness and gave him a bag of gold coins.
As a result, the beggar obtained the bag of gold coins, and although he became rich, his happiness was gone.
Because he will worry about it every day, worried that someone will steal his gold coins, someone will rob his own gold coins, he spends every day in fear, naturally there is no time to be happy.
When we fall in love with someone, we will be in the same state of mind.
Because there is a particularly important existence in the depths of the heart, it will want to have it all the time, and then there is a fear of loss, a fear that the other party will not love itself, and a fear of wishful thinking from beginning to end.
Therefore, we will ask each other over and over again "Do you love me", and we will be satisfied with a positive answer, however, people are good at acting, even if they do not love, they can not blush, and their hearts do not beat to say love.
The verbal expression of "I love you" cannot actually be used as a basis for measuring love.
In a relationship between the sexes, whether a man really loves you or not is easy to judge.
You see if he can be tolerant in the face of your shortcomings
In the TV series "Ode to Joy", Tan Zongming and Andy are very good friends, and due to personality reasons, When Andy was on Wall Street before, there were very few friends.
In addition, she herself will not handle complex interpersonal relationships, so Tan Zongming is worried that after Andy returns to China, she will suffer losses because of the strangeness of interpersonal relationships.
So he told Andy to remember that if someone just ignored Andy because of some of his behavior, then that person wasn't qualified to be Andy's friend.
The reason is very simple, although the rose has thorns, no one will hate it because of the thorns, so there are people who really hate us, and they don't really love us.
The same principle applies in relation to gender relations.
Smoking is harmful to health, but no one will give up smoking because of this sentence.
So why, some people will choose to give up this relationship because of some flaws of others?
Obviously, it's because I don't like it enough, I don't love it enough.
Because there is not enough love, so you can only appreciate the advantages, because you do not love enough, so when you see the shortcomings of the other party, you will have the idea of quitting.
You see if he is willing to pay for you
There is a saying that goes well that the man who spends money on you doesn't necessarily love you, but the man who doesn't spend money on you doesn't love you.
The reason is very simple, if a man loves a woman, even if he does not know how to express his emotions, he will definitely show it through practical actions.
Because he always has to have a way to let the other party know his feelings.
If you don't love, you will take sweet words as the whole of love, but you will say nothing about giving.
Even if it is paid, it is clearly marked with a price, and it needs to be returned by the other party in the form of equivalent exchange.
True love is to give, to be willing, to be reckless, to be rewarded.
Stetson once said: "Like, is to see something good or even excellent, and the ensuing thought is: desire to possess." Love, on the other hand, is mostly to see something bad or not good enough, in fact, to hope that it is good and even very good, and the motivation that follows is: willing to give. ”
And those who are promised when they are full of promises and are far away when they are fulfilled, their love cannot withstand any scrutiny.
Such a man can't give us the sense of security we want, and naturally can't give us the love we want.
You see if he is determined in the face of your future
Liang Zhengxian in the TV series "Thirty Only" was generous when he paid Wang Manni, and the 200,000 cars were sent away.
But does he love Wang Mani? Obviously not loved.
Because when Wang Manni proposed to get married, Liang Zhengxian either changed the topic or was silent, and finally directly prevaricating with unmarriedism.
In fact, Liang Zhengxian and Wang Manni are just playing, if they really love, how can they not marry her?
There is a sentence in the variety show "My Girl": "I think that if a man marries you, it is a commitment to your love, and if he does not even marry you, it is not loving you." ”
Therefore, we can measure a man's feelings for himself in this way, if he has never planned our future, then he is just a scene, this kind of person should remember to stop the loss in time;
If the other person has been working hard for our future, then he loves us, he is worthy of our dependence, worthy of our willingness to work with him.