Mr. Liang Shiqiu once said:
Men are mostly selfish, and in his outlook on life, that is, everything in the universe is arranged for his comfort, except that when he makes money doing things, he always looks like a master.
More or less, somewhat real.
Women in the Republic of China period have no status, how many women, think that men love her very much, so they take good care of him, carefully serve him, and when men return home to give the money they earn to women, his demeanor is with a great favor: look how good I am to you, how lucky you are!
Moreover, at that time, men would go out at any time to have fun, all kinds of dinners, cocktail parties, calligraphy and painting clubs, nightclubs, overwhelmed, after looking for fun outside, they would go home and get angry with their wives.
And, listening to the topic of conversation in that era, women talk about needlework, children and the elderly at home, and men talk about the end, they will talk about some "peach news", talk about "women", and it is fun.
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However, do you think that such a man will become extinct in modern society?
Modern men, maybe more.
How many women, thinking that they have met true love, but finally fell in love until the later stage, only to see the truth of the person around them, youth is wrongly paid, love is fed to the dog.
Therefore, women must know how to identify the people around them.
You know: some men's overtures are obviously purposeful, and you are just a prey to him; and some men, even with you, are selfish and want to "take advantage" from you; and some men, obvious machismo, are with such people, and you only have to obey and confess your fate.
So, when a man often talks to you about these topics, you have to be careful, it is likely that the person you love deeply is wearing a mask to approach you, and his love for you is just walking the kidneys, not the heart.
Always saying "pick you up" is likely to be a kidney and not a heart
Love, expression is very important.
However, a person who says "I love you" to you countless times throughout the day does not necessarily mean that he really loves you.
Moreover, if a person says "I miss you" to you countless times a day, he is likely to just mention it in passing.
Perhaps, you listen to his words as if "you don't need to fall into the country, and you don't need to be obedient to him", you just need to like him, it is enough, but it is likely that he is saying words of love to you while looking at other women affectionately.
He is very good at creating romance, and he will easily capture your heart, he will make your heart flutter, and he will also make you scramble in front of him and surrender.
As a result, you sink deeper and deeper, and you are more and more unable to extricate yourself. You think you love each other so much that you're only one step away from getting married.
But suddenly one day, you open his mobile phone and find that he is not only so "able to talk" with you, but also with other women.
Women, must love soberly, want to play with you guys, you know, he routine is very deep, he knows what you want to hear, he will say something.
In front of you, he is at ease, he knows your mind, he will not only talk humorously, but also be gentle, even if you have any trouble, talk to him, he will give you a lot of good advice.
But, don't think he just really loves you.
In "Thirty Only", the sea king Liang Zhengxian, on the cruise ship, personable, a look is a rich and noble prince, a business elite criminal, treating Wang Manni, is also gentle and considerate, all-encompassing, but finally to Wang Manni came a sentence: I am an unmarried.
In fact, he already has a fixed girlfriend, and even this girlfriend has leveled a lot of the "wild food" he has given himself, which is evident in his bad character.
Women must know that it is likely that you think that you have met true love, and the other party just wants to poke you, play with you, and have fun.
Therefore, when you meet this kind of man, once you find that it is not right, you must run fast, do not indulge in his "sweet words", and then love, you must also be sober.
Always raise money with you, cry poor with you
I still remember seeing a video of a woman celebrating her birthday, her boyfriend gave her a lipstick as a birthday gift, but at the same time that the man sent her, he actually instructed her: When I have a birthday, you must send me that pair of limited edition sneakers, your income can be much higher than mine.
It makes people feel funny and angry.
Of course, the video may only be a microcosm of the shooting, but it does not represent the voice of some men.
You want to eat a meal you love to eat, he said it is not delicious, in fact, it is likely that he just dislikes the expensive; you pay money to buy a set of cosmetics that he likes, he will instill a set for you, your money is his money, to save the big truth of spending; you say that he cuts the door, he will say to you: I am saving money, for our future...
When his income is low, he will cry poor with you, his income has increased, he has been promoted and raised, but you can't see that he will spend an extra penny for you.
However, he is very open to your face and open your mouth to "want", "you have a high income, you are capable, what do you buy me", "The last time you bought my mother that was particularly good, my mother has been chanting, it is almost running out"... He will leave his self-esteem and face behind in front of you.
Only because, in his opinion, you like him, you should be good to him, you should pay him, so that you are really "sensible and obedient".
Perhaps, men cry poor, once or twice is also normal, he wants you to save some money, but if a man cries poor, from you to get benefits, it will be good for you, can not catch, will throw your face at you, that is most likely, you have met a "soft rice hard to eat" person.
When encountering this kind of man, women must be sensitive, no matter what promises he has given you, what romance he has given you, how much heart has been given to you, you must be clear: his love is discounted for you, and what he loves is just how much benefit you can give him.
Be as smart as you are, be sure to polish your eyes to prevent being deceived.
Always make you obey Him, make you listen to Him for everything
A domineering man, always with a cool look, cold eyes, is indeed very attractive to women. Especially the little girl who has just opened her love sinus and is still ignorant of love will always be fascinated by the temperament of men.
However, if you and he really talk about love, he is still very cool and dragging after being with you, then in the future, you will love him now, and how regret you will regret it afterwards.
Because this kind of man, born with a kind of "machismo" in the body, you must listen to him everything, if you do not do, you will provoke him, at the light he complains that you do not love him, at the end, he will lose his temper with you, throw his face, break up, and even people with violent tendencies will do it...
He is not short-tempered, nor is he impatient, the breath he carries in his bones is to eat you to death, and you must obey him to be the manifestation of loving him.
In fact, all this is nothing more than his selfish behavior.
He will always talk to you: "You have to understand me, I am for the good of the two of us", and he will always instill in you a thought: you have to listen to me for everything.
Women, when they meet such men, run fast, and don't linger for a moment.
No matter how much you are obsessed with him, in his heart, he will not think about anything for you, and even because of your compromise, he will become more aggressive towards you.
You must understand that when you are in love, he will ignore your ideas and arrange your future for you; after marriage, he will treat you as his puppet puppet and arrange your life; even the money you earn, he will also let him manage you, you have no right to speak, you only have the right to obey, but you have no right to give opinions.
No matter how wronged, no matter how sad, and no longer agree, you have no room for resistance, no possibility of refusal.
Such a man must be recognized in advance.
You know, in love, you are equal, this kind of man, he does not know how to respect you, let alone really love you.
Conclusion:
Love is beautiful, but life is realistic.
Don't think that a man falling in love with a woman will be as described in a romance novel: how affectionate you are, how affectionate you are, and how good you are to you.
A lot of love, is to be tested.
A person's words can best represent the purpose of his heart, and the human heart is the most unpredictable.
Therefore, if a man always "pampers you", but rarely pays you, rarely mentions the future with you, always talks to you, but when it comes to the right place, it disappears, you are sick, you can't find him, you have trouble, he rarely appears, then you have to be careful, you meet the "Sea King";
If a man is always crying poor at you, then it is likely that he is either trying to get good from you, or is afraid that you will spend his money, or he only loves himself, in short, in his heart: you are not worth his money;
If a man always makes you listen to him for everything, doesn't care about your feelings, never listens to your opinions, and even ignores your existence, then the person you meet, he just loves "the pleasure of obeying him when you obey everything".
So, if a man always talks to you about "these", you have to understand, if he really loves you, how can he be willing to do this to you? If he really wants to have a future with you, how can he make you live so depressed?
Love should be comfortable to get along with and rely on each other hand in hand, rather than playing with the eyes and playing with the heart.
All a woman wants in her life, all she wants is stability and steadfastness, so if you are surrounded by such a man, persuade you, you must carefully consider whether he is suitable for you.
Author, Frank Fox
Figure, network
May you find in my words the deep affection of the ordinary years! Thanks for your attention!