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Gu Jia, the heroine of "Thirty Only", is so perfect that the audience is unwilling to buy it, thinking that there is no such a perfect woman in this world.
She is a very typical model of "getting up and stopping, getting into the kitchen", whether at home or outside the home, she is a leader, taking care of the diet and living of her husband and son at home, and has nothing to say about self-management.
Outside, she and her husband partnered to open a fireworks company, nominally she is a housewife, in fact, the company's operations are all dependent on her, she is responsible for the company management, operation, business development, and Xu Huanshan is only responsible for fireworks design, other than that there is no other ability.
With her efforts, the family lived in a large villa, and the quality of life was greatly improved. Such a capable woman is really a rare treasure in the world, no wonder the audience is reluctant to believe that there is such a perfect woman.
She is perfect without a flaw, this is xu Huanshan's greatest luck in this life, he can have such a wife, he can realize his dream, peace of mind to design his favorite fireworks, his life can be said to have few troubles, all the pressure of life is Gu Jia alone on his shoulders.
There is such a perfect wife, smart men will wake up laughing in their dreams, but Xu Huanshan did not cherish all that he had, he had a little third, he personally destroyed the life that should have been smooth, destroyed their marriage.
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Regarding Xu Huanshan's derailment, many people have made an analysis of why Xu Huanshan cheated, what was wrong with their marriage, and what caused the breakdown of their marriage.
On the surface, Lin Youyou is the culprit who caused the breakdown of their marriage, but in fact, it is not, if there is no Lin Youyou, there will also be Chen Youyou, Wang Youyou, because before Lin Youyou, there was a female subordinate who wanted to throw herself into the arms, that is to say, his cheating was inevitable.
In fact, her appearance only exposed the problems of this marriage, and Xu Huanshan was the culprit. Their marriage was flawed, but the infidelity was his fault, unforgivable fault.
The most important thing is that there is a problem with their husband and wife, so they will step by step to the breakdown of the marriage.
Gu Jia is too good, she is a good wife, is a good mother, she is too good to find half a fault, she dominates the family is getting better and better, she decided to buy a villa, decided to start a new business, these are obviously great things, the future will only get better and better, but Xu Huanshan does not do it, the more excellent she is, the more he appears incompetent.
In their relationship, Gu Jia is more like Xu Huanshan's mother, she takes care of everything for him, so that he has almost nothing to worry about, so that he can do what he likes without worry.
A lot of things that should be his worries, as well as the responsibilities he should bear, are all responsible for Gu Jia, his sense of participation is very low, because there is no sense of participation, so he does not know how to cherish everything he has, feels that everything is taken for granted, feels that everything is effortless, so when he cheated, he did not consider what impact this would have on the marriage.
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In the play, there is a clip of Gu Jia, Xu Huanshan and Lin You sitting together and making a break, which completely shreds Gu Price's love for Xu Huanshan, and also lets us see why Xu Huanshan cheated.
Lin Youyou accused Gu Jia of managing Xu Huanshan too much, saying that she would not let him eat dinner, and also showed off how many times she had dinner with Xu Huanshan and took many exquisite dinner photos.
Gu Jia questioned her, do you think that I don't let him eat is abusive to him, this person has fatty liver you know, only in his thirties has moderate fatty liver, how many days he has not eaten dinner, how many days I have not eaten dinner.
From here, we can indeed see how deep Gu Jia's love for Xu Huanshan is, and even for him, accompany him to dinner and worry about his health.
One does not allow him to eat dinner, one takes him everywhere to eat, the former is confinement, the latter is liberation, men like freedom, do not like to be disciplined, this is why he likes Lin Youyou.
With Gu Jia, he is like a child who is disciplined by his mother, his mother will not let him do it, he will not let him do it, and if he cannot resist on the surface, then secretly rebel.
Lin Youyou released all his nature, he was no longer disciplined, he was with her, what he wanted to eat, what he wanted to do, and of course happy to die.
His infidelity is more like a rebellion, like a rebellion against the discipline of "parents", on the surface he seems to be very obedient and a good child, but he does not want to be disciplined like this all the time, so he secretly fights against his "parents".
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Gu Jia is a perfect wife, of course, it is not her fault, but this gives us women a wake-up call, in marriage, we must not be like Gu Jia, be the husband's "mother".
When you, as his "mother", take care of everything he should take care of, take on the responsibilities he should bear for him, and take care of the big and small affairs in life for him, he will slowly live into a person like Xu Huanshan.
Marriage is two people, two people should share the burden, not only one person is silently working hard, silently paying, everyone should have their own responsibilities, everyone should bear what he should bear.
Of course, the prerequisite is also to find a person with a sense of family responsibility, a person with a sense of family responsibility, you will not live so tired in the first place, and a person with a sense of family responsibility will not have so many flowers and intestines, because they know how to cherish the family and know how to protect the family.
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Article illustration | Stills from "Thirty Only"