01.
Do you really understand the balance between husband and wife?
The relationship between men and women is a balancing act of reconciling yin and yang.
In all aspects of life, this balance is reflected.
The more balanced the couple, the more harmonious and loving their relationship becomes.
But in life, there are very few women who can really grasp the scale.
Many times, inadvertently, women will cross the scale and put each other in an awkward position.
The dedication of both parties to love is an important part of this.
The old man's point of view is "outside the male protagonist, female inside the female protagonist".
The two sides do not interfere with each other, and each focuses on the content of their own management, so Qinser and Ming raise eyebrows.
Up to now, the division of responsibilities between the sexes is actually very different.
Taking charge of their own belongings, and then warming each other and helping each other is the most suitable way to get along with love.
It's okay to cross the line for a while, but don't go too far, the more you get.
You know, in love, smart women will never help men raise a family.
02.
Between a man and a woman, who raises the family is the decision of two people.
Now that the distribution of responsibilities between the two sides has been decided, do not easily interfere in each other's field.
That is the responsibility of men, and women have their own responsibilities.
These different responsibilities are the sense of participation of men and women in their feelings.
Through these actions, a sense of accomplishment arises from each other.
Then, in the process of dedication and dedication, deepen each other's bondage and enhance two-way feelings.
Perhaps, in the hearts of many women, their own behavior of helping men to support their families is out of love and intimacy.
But these things, in the eyes of men, are not so.
Relatives' aunt's house, the couple is always arguing.
No matter what time it is, you can always hear them arguing.
The reason for this is that the aunt always interferes in the affairs of the uncle.
The work of the great uncle, the great aunt is not at ease, and the social interaction of the great uncle, she also has to intervene.
In the long run, the eldest uncle resisted while becoming numb, and eventually became more and more noisy.
When asked about the aunt, she said that she just saw that her husband was too hard and wanted to do his part to help.
Their actions are all out of love.
However, the results of the harvest were not satisfactory, but played a counterproductive effect.
This is the result of unauthorized crossing of the line.
When women let themselves go and meddle in men's sense of responsibility, the balance between two people is also broken.
Therefore, this unbalanced emotional environment will affect all aspects of the couple's feelings.
Therefore, in the world of feelings, women should not help men to support their families.
Your help is not a favor to him, but more like a distrust.
03.
Temporary help is intimate tenderness.
But if you keep helping men raise their families, the consequences will be out of control.
In the hearts of many women, home, what is needed is two people to run it together.
If we both work hard for the future of our family, we are happy.
On the level of a good division of labor for each other, it is good to do their own thing for each other, and then to warm each other moderately.
Don't, with all your heart, go and help men raise their families.
Such help will not bring particularly good results.
Remember that there is such a character in the TV series "Thirty Only": Xu Huanshan.
His subsequent development, in a sense, has part of Gu Jia's responsibility.
When they first got along with Gu Jia, they chased their dreams together.
For them at that time, fireworks were their common ideal, and two people had to work hard to twist into a rope.
But when they get married and have children, the family distribution changes.
Gu Jia became a full-time wife and stayed at home to meet her husband and teach her children.
And the dream outside, and the burden of supporting the family, was handed over to Xu Huanshan.
But Gu Jia didn't let go completely, she would still intervene, and even go to help Xu Huanshan make a decision.
Under a series of "help", Xu Huanshan developed a rebellious psychology.
His gaze stayed on Lin Youyou, who adored him.
Of course, Xu Huanshan's approach is indeed wrong, and Gu Jia's refusal to let go is also his love for her husband.
But most of the time, when women who have quit the business go to help men support their families;
It will give men the feeling that they are not trusted in their eyes.
In the long run, it is inevitable that there will be knots between men and women.
04.
In the relationship between men and women, each side should pay attention to the principle of moderation.
Since you give it to the other party, let it go with confidence.
Also give yourself some space to focus on your own business.
Compared with helping men raise their families, focusing on themselves is a good strategy.
You can grow yourself, but you will not invade the field of men and intensify contradictions.
After all, there are two hidden contradictions behind helping men raise their families.
One is a man's sense of being violated and the other is a woman's sense of self-sacrifice.
And these two, either way, will cause great harm to love.
It is knowing this that smart women will avoid helping men raise their families.
Men and women, hand in hand, have their own perspective of balance.
Grasp the balance between yourself and your lover, do not interfere with each other, and warm each other.
Naturally, it can be long and long, towards the twilight.
May everyone's love flow for a long time and raise eyebrows.