Cold is a kind of wisdom.
Whether it is work, family, love, life, it is inevitable that you will encounter trouble.
When you are impulsive, the devil will jump out and hurt you.
When you are emotionally stable, you can make the right choice and stay away from harm.
At the critical time, pour yourself a scoop of cold water, although it is a little cruel, but it can make you sober.
In this world, the most unclear thing is probably a "love" word.
Two single people, talking about love, are all confusing endings. If two non-single people fall in love, then there are more words of suffering, further mistakes, one step back is reluctance, the longer entangled, the more bitter the heart.
Therefore, two people with families have moved the truth, to learn to "cold treatment", long pain is not as good as short pain.
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Think calmly: Suppress inner emotions and keep a certain distance.
In the TV series "Thirty Only", Xu Huanshan has a gentle and virtuous wife, Gu Jia. With the help of his wife, Xu Huanshan became richer and more powerful.
However, when Xu Huanshan met Lin Youyou, he still did not control himself. "Do you miss me?" You say you have me in your heart..." A whole bunch of love words quickly heated up feelings.
In order to have a home outside the home, Xu Huanshan helped Lin Youyou rent a house, which is near the company.
Tu Lei, the teacher of love, said: "Don't listen to some sweet words, you don't know, so naturally, today he can call you that, and in the future he can also call others." ”
That's true. The best way to control a relationship is to – don't take enthusiasm seriously.
All the people who meet and hate late are mostly the end of "having a fate and no part". When your heart is moved, then think calmly, some words, don't say it, some things, don't do it.
Talk to each other for a few words, like acquaintances, and don't say anything about love. Two people, passing by, that's it. Thoughts are always replaced by the trivialities of life.
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Cold words: Force yourself not to chat, and talk about it after a while.
I don't know what to do, but I go deeper.
There are some emotions that you are not controlling in the end. Love, has been spoken, and there have been acts of holding hands.
When you reach out and meet a soft and warm hand, it is friends helping each other, can not be superfluous love comes.
What is even more incredible is that two people are chatting anytime and anywhere, no matter how busy, they can squeeze out time, talk about their hearts, and feel the heat across the mobile phone screen.
At this time, you have to have reverse thinking - the leaves are not yellow every day, and the human heart is not cool every day.
There is a good saying: "Chat is precious, the internet fee is higher, if it is for freedom, both can be thrown." ”
If you continue to snub each other for a while, or if two people agree, don't chat for a long time. Feelings naturally become flat.
Moving your hands and sending a message to someone is actually a kind of inertial thinking. If you later, every day, you will open your phone, watch the news, and pay attention to things in the world. New habits, replacing old ones.
Time is cruel, not only can take away memories, but also make people "change their minds".
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Cold and warm self-knowledge: from now on, each of them is well, learn to rely on themselves.
Zhihuli, there is an anonymous female netizen who told her love story.
Years ago, she was in high school, a small male hair growing up in a yard, attending a technical school in the same city, and has always been her "guardian".
She was bullied by a nasty suitor, and when he was known, she rushed over with great momentum and quarreled with the other party for a long time.
On the day she got help, the two of them sat together in a moonlit hut outside the window, for a long, long time.
Years later, she went to college and went to graduate school. He also had decent jobs.
The female netizen is married, and the groom is not him, but that love is always buried in the bottom of the heart.
She said: "Looking back on my youth, the most ambiguous thing is that night, he used to be so close to me, but he said he was going to see the moon. That's what I regret the most, that night we were so close, but I didn't go out with him and see the moon. ”
Love someone and sincerely hope to be able to walk hand in hand. However, people who are destined to go different ways still have to be separated, single people have regrets, and people with families, let alone people. There have been too many good memories, and they can only be buried in the bottom of their hearts.
Time flies, after all, things are man-made.
We all have to make a decision with the past, and cherish the people in front of us today and in front of us. If the marriage is really bad, wait until the marriage fails and then look for someone you like.
What will happen in the future, no one can say. Someone else can help you once, but not for a lifetime. Who do you fall in love with, rely on each other, only once or twice, and then you still have to work hard. After all, you and him, not husband and wife, not parents and children.
Two people with families fall in love, it is best to be a confidant, in the most difficult time of life, help, it is not worth it.
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Ruthless: Leaving a ruthless back, refusing to turn around and reunite.
In my mind, in all the plots, turning around and leaving, is grief-stricken. Either on a rainy day, or there will be images of tears and rain.
Really, whether it's because of love or because of betrayal of love, breaking up is not a good thing anyway.
Believe that things must be reversed.
When grief reaches despair, then you will be born again in nirvana. When the heat is over, it is the cool autumn; when the extreme cold is over, it is the beginning of the warming.
The host Lu Yu wrote in the book: "I really like Macron's wife Brigitte, and because of her, I reject the victim. ”
People with families fall in love, and the victims are not just themselves, but also their own families. You have to know how to refuse. As long as you are desperate, then all people can be liberated.
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Conclusion.
Any emotion, it is a real experience, it will move from time to time, and the more stubborn you are, the more painful it is. To be a frank person, to reveal your happiness and pain, but to gain freedom.
Murphy's Law tells us that the more you worry about something, the more likely it is to happen; the more you think in a bad direction, the more likely bad things will happen.
Therefore, when encountering people who have no luck, you must dare to think in a bad direction, and stop your own steps from the psychological and action.
Live in the present moment, let the end end, let the beginning begin, keep the heart of things.
This time, another time.
Wrong is wrong, turn around is, isn't it?
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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