●Author ╳ Sun Qingyue
●Gong name ╳ Big world and small people
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At the end of the year, there is a kind of idle leisure in the state of mind, so I find out the dramas I have watched before and re-brush them from time to time.
Yesterday, I watched "Thirty Only", but I still have a lot of emotion, and I think of the lives of Gu Jia, Wang Manni and Zhong Xiaoqin that summer. At the same time, I also remembered that Lin Youyou, of course, she hated it, but her life was actually a pity and not worth it.
- Wanyang
Lin Youyou, is a young and good-looking girl is not wrong.
Energetic, just graduated, began to wear high heels, worn out feet are not afraid of pain is determined to become different from when they went to college.
I feel that I have finally grown up, entered the society, want to become mature, become sophisticated, and especially eager to become an adult.
Every young girl is like this when she first graduates.
Wear a T-shirt to see the skin and the whole person is shining age, have to wear a professional suit, afraid of not wearing old age, later you will find that it is 30+ sisters, one more than one wear tender.
This is normal.
It is the desire of young girls for an ideal life. Of course, it is not that they are eager to get older, but girls who have just graduated, long for a different version of themselves.
They envied the mature, well-trained, and well-versed female boss who was at ease in the workplace.
Envious of the mansion she lived in, the car she drove, the coat she wore, her diamond stud earrings, they were eager to be reborn as a beautiful woman with a successful career and a happy love.
This desire is no different from stealing my mother's high heels when I was a child and my desire to talk about a college campus romance in middle school.
But there are some desires, which are very frightening.
02
Does Lin have a boyfriend?
There should be no shortage of it.
She is such a young and good-looking girl, there should be no shortage of boys in school to chase. She may be very accustomed to the courtesy of these boys, feel taken for granted, and even a little disdainful of them, thinking that they are immature.
But for her fresh out of school, Xu Huanshan was a mature man she had never been exposed to before.
He is handsome, wears clothes with taste, has a successful career, has a company, is Xu Zong, has talent, not only he as the boss to undertake the fireworks project of the amusement park, he is also a designer, a grand fireworks is his design.
Moreover, he also has a strong sense of youth.
Not the greasy uncle kind of middle-aged man, he is well maintained, but also plays football, both with the sense of youth of young boys, but also a proper "finished product" (at least it looks like a finished product, because of the immaturity in the personality, the little girl is invisible, and the loopholes are filled by Gu Jia)
He was married, she knew.
She saw a handsome man in her eyes, successful in her career, and a sense of youth, tender to his wife, loving his children, not only excellent, good for his wife and children, in her eyes may be more attractive.
Young boys, oh, in fact, every boy becomes a "finished husband" has a difficult process, many young boys are Chen Yu, in Lin Youyou's view, too boring.
But this so-called "perfect finished product" is already married. Why did Lin Youyou have to get close? Why do you have to be righteous, but prefer such a blind love?
He and Lin you are together, which is the infidelity to his own marriage.
No matter how good the other looks, he is not a good man at all, for bystanders, how can this kind of man want it? Why can't Lin see this clearly?
I really don't understand. Why do a lot of young people not choose, but rely on Xu Huanshan?
Miss Y said,
Of course, I was attracted to him first, and then,
It is such young girls who feel that this kind of can't be obtained, it's not easy to get, and they package this ups and downs feeling as love.
03
Your wife won't let you eat dinner, it's ridiculous, eat, play football, why should you be controlled?
She didn't necessarily find it so difficult to understand controlling her diet.
It is the kind of deliberately trying to make "what, why is your wife so unreasonable" to highlight their own good.
"You have a wife, but you are in love with me, then I must be more beautiful and lovely than your wife", she felt that he loved her more, and he wanted to be with her even if he betrayed his wife.
She craved this very deformed feeling.
She has the illusion that she is better off herself and that she deserves to be loved.
But is this illusion real?
To tell the truth, there is no need to be Gu Jia's decathlon type. Whoever is good, Lin has a position, and he can't even be compared.
The man said, "My wife and I have no feelings for a long time", "When my wife chased me, I didn't think much about it and got married, so that the very young girl had the illusion that she felt that she was particularly different, and she actually had the "love" that his wife did not have.
It wasn't that she wasn't unaware that he had betrayed his marriage or that she was wrong to do so, but this "I'm most special" emotional value was like poison.
So is this "love" in the end?
Of course not!
This kind of "you have a wife, but you fall in love with me" is a very deformed emotional satisfaction, not a normal relationship at all.
And Xu Huanshan wanted to send her away again and again, she couldn't see clearly, he didn't love her at all.
04
When I was in college, I knew a girl who had such a "boyfriend", this "boyfriend" gentleman was considerate, the girl said that he would never argue with her over small things, and also said that "he and her wife have no feelings for a long time".
She said, "I deserve him better than her wife." It is the illusion of "lin has a style".
She thought she just knew him later than his wife, and she thought his flaw was just "he's married." She packaged his infidelity and irresponsibility toward his family as "love", and over time, she immersed herself in such an illusion.
Of course not.
Why never do they quarrel with each other?
His elegance is appropriate, his never quarrels over small things, the essence is that of course you can't even talk about boyfriend and girlfriend, so don't talk about love.
In love, there must be contradictions, quarrels and concessions.
It was precisely because Xu Huanshan had never thought of marrying you at all, that he did not need to quarrel with you.
Even if he returned to Xu Huanshan's youth, he might not have chosen Lin Youyou, he would still choose Gu Jia, her decathlon, her dedication to the family, his heart was clear.
But girls with a little experience, or middle-aged men who have seen this kind of talk several times, will be lazy to even sneer at this kind of statement, because they know too well that men who say such things are often good in marriage, accompanying their wives to go shopping and sending their children to tutoring classes.
Don't love his wife, oh, first of all, whether he loves it or not, anyway, he is willing to maintain this marriage, there is always his reason, he did not decisively divorce first, and then go after you, has long explained that he does not love you, and how can it still be love.
05
Lin Youyou, the girls watching the drama are angry to the point of explosion, she is really too annoying, she has to destroy other people's families, of course, Xu Huanshan is just as annoying.
But at the same time, I think she's really not worth it.
Greed for a moment of drunken dreams and death, covetousness of many hallucinations that do not exist, especially those "he and his wife have long been out of feelings, he loves me more" illusions, highlighting that they are more worthy of being loved, really too damn.
The girl I met in college, waited for 8 years, hypnotized herself, and didn't wait for anything. 8 years, oh, how many 8 years of life?
Young girls, don't let yourself fall into this abyss.
Obviously, you can strive for the career you love, talk about healthy and happy love, and do what you like.
Obviously, there can be many, many pleasures.
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