Zhuang Di Xiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
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Leftover women look down on ordinary leftover men and are bent on finding excellent men, and the real high-quality men do not look up to the "high-quality leftover women" who live in rental houses, which is the main reason why leftover men and leftover women are difficult to get off the list.
Uncle Zhang, the red bride in the community, once said that he was most reluctant to introduce the leftover men and women, because he had a lot of worries and a low success rate.
Especially some girls, obviously over 30 years old, but still live in fairy tales, they are always obsessed with finding excellent men.
Women in their 30s can also marry excellent men, but the premise is that you have to be a good woman, but many women are far from the word excellent, but they also have such a persistent spirit.
Uncle Zhang once introduced a 32-year-old single woman to an object, but her vision seemed to be very high, and even 4 men were rejected by her.
She bluntly said that she was in good condition and should be worthy of a better man.
And this woman who claims to be in good condition, but with a monthly income of 6,000, has no house and no car, and now has been living in a rental house.
Uncle Zhang said to her in a serious tone: "Girl, have you ever wondered which high-quality man in this world is willing to marry a high-quality leftover woman who lives in a rental house?" ”
The girl was very angry and felt that Uncle Zhang was satirizing her, but in fact, what Uncle Zhang said was the truth.
Self-righteous "excellent" is the most terrible
"Quality leftover women" do exist, the difference is that self-appointed or public recognition.
In real life, there are many women who are self-styled quality women, who think they are excellent, in fact, they are just the most ordinary members in this world.
Many women think they are excellent: they have a job where they can support themselves, and they don't have to ask the man for money to get by.
They firmly believe that such a person is an independent woman and an excellent existence, which is actually a very ridiculous thing.
By this standard, I'm afraid 95% of the world's women are excellent.
Except for children and elderly people, everyone living in this world should have independent survival ability, which is the foundation of human beings.
A woman who can barely support herself can only be regarded as having the basic ability to live rather than being excellent.
If you can't even feed yourself, then you are not a "person" in the true sense of the word, but a burden, a drag.
You just meet the basic requirements of being a human being, how can you be excellent?
"High-quality leftover women" refers to the "three excellent women" who have passed the age of 30
A woman can only be called excellent if the comprehensive conditions are good, and for the comprehensive conditions, academic qualifications, material conditions and appearance are all indispensable parts.
If you want to be a high-quality leftover woman, you must first become a three-excellent woman.
1. Excellent academic qualifications
Academic qualifications are very important for a woman, and academic qualifications are not only a stepping stone, but also a navigation of life.
Excellent women's academic qualifications are not too low, and cultural literacy is an important indicator of whether a person is excellent.
What's more, from the perspective of marriage and love, the mother's genes have a profound impact on the next generation, especially in the process of growing up, the mother plays a very important role.
So a woman with a high degree and a woman who has not read much are completely different for men.
2. Excellent material conditions
How can you be considered excellent if you can only support yourself? The so-called excellent means that their conditions in a certain aspect can be compared to most people.
If a woman has a home and a car and earns more than 60% of the woman, she is excellent.
Material conditions are a complex in which income is an indispensable part in addition to fixed assets.
3. Excellent appearance
Whether it is a man or a woman, there are certain requirements for the appearance of the opposite sex, and the vast majority of people are themselves appearance associations.
After having the first two conditions, the woman's appearance and figure must reach at least 7 points or more.
In this way, she is a real quality woman.
When it comes to marriage, it's important to "tailor-made."
Many women do not understand the truth of the door, always feel that women can find unlimited upwards, a woman who has nothing, no house and no car also wants to find a man who has a house and a car and has a high income, in fact, this idea is simply unrealistic.
The marriage wisdom that has been passed down for thousands of years in our country is what kind of person you are, and you deserve what kind of person you are.
Only by adhering to this principle will it be easier for you to find the right partner and live a happy and satisfying life after marriage.
If you ignore your own situation and blindly ask others, you will only end up with a high or low ending.
In real life, many older single women have been unable to find a suitable other half for this reason.
Ordinary women should not be too attached to material conditions when choosing a mate
Material conditions are indeed an indispensable part of life, life needs chai, rice, oil and salt, but everything must have a degree.
For the average woman, you can properly consider material conditions, but you can't be too attached to material conditions.
1, men with good conditions do not love "poverty alleviation"
Many women feel that marriage is the second reincarnation, so they want to change their fate through marriage, in fact, this road is far more difficult than everyone thinks.
Marriage is a two-way multiple-choice problem, ordinary women like men with good conditions, and men with good conditions also like women with good conditions.
The average woman likes men with good conditions in order to get something good for themselves from the relationship, while men with good conditions like women with good conditions, just to find a feeling of equal strength.
Who in this world likes poverty alleviation? Women don't like it, and men naturally don't like it.
If you are just an ordinary woman, don't have too high expectations of men's material conditions, because men with rich material conditions will not look at ordinary you.
2, character, personality is more important than material conditions
Many women have a wrong interpretation of marriage, and they blindly pursue material conditions while ignoring the most important part of marriage.
If there is no money to be earned, if a person's character and character are problematic, then the marriage will be doomed to be a tragedy.
The ancients said that the country and mountains are easy to change, and the nature is difficult to move
What kind of person a man is usually already stereotyped, so when looking for another half, we must pay attention to character and personality.
Living with a man of good character and good character, even if the life is not rich, you will not be too bad.
Original author of the Zhuang Di Xiaomeng/Emotional Column
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