He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
See a set of data online.
The main ways for single people to get out of singles, the top three are:
Blind dates, friends, colleagues or classmates around you, free love.
Among them, blind dates account for more than 50%, and most people's marriages are solved through blind dates.
Blind dates often come from relatives and friends around them, mainly introduced by acquaintances; There are also some people who spend some money every year on blind dates on dating websites.
As can be seen from these data, blind dates are one of the main ways to solve the problem of adult singleness.
So, when it comes to blind dates, what are the unwritten unspoken rules?
1. After the blind date, those who do not take the initiative are rejected
Regarding blind dates, there is a "72-hour rule".
Meaning:
Within 72 hours after the blind date ends, if the other person does not take the initiative to contact you once, the reply to your message is not so positive.
This shows that he did not have a good impression of you during the blind date with you.
In other words:
If he does not take the initiative, his silence is already a rejection of you.
72 hours, that's 3 days.
You can adjust your next blind date strategy according to this time.
2. Those who refuse to date "more than 3 times" will stop giving
In any relationship, we can give each other 3 chances.
No more than three.
In social, if a friend doesn't reply to your message more than 3 times, you can give up.
In relationships, if you like someone who rejects your pursuit more than 3 times, you can also stop the loss in time.
In the matter of blind dates, if you invite each other out for dinner and movies 3 times, enhance your relationship through dating.
If the other party rejects you every time, then you shouldn't force it anymore.
You should understand the other person's mind.
What is his subtext?
"You don't have to work in vain, it's impossible between us."
3. Before blind dates, understand the "subtext" of the matchmaker
For example:
The matchmaker said:
He is quite honest and reliable; The subtext is that he is an average-looking, introverted person who does not like to talk.
He has a fairly stable job and a decent income; This means that he works in the company and his salary is normal.
His family conditions are okay, and his parents are very good; Meaning, the family conditions are average and passable.
She looks blessed, Wangfu; Meaning, she's a little fat.
She is very well-behaved and quite quiet; Meaning, she is not tall and does not like to talk.
She has a good personality and is very simple; Meaning, not in love, mother and fetus single.
You think, matchmakers as introducers in the middle, of course they can't be too blunt.
Think of it another way:
If the other party is a civil servant, career editor, or matchmaker, he will definitely directly inform the other party's occupation;
If the other party graduated from a prestigious university and has a high income, the matchmaker introduction will definitely directly say these advantages.
Knowing this can reduce your time before meeting your blind date.
4. What are the "pluses" when blind dates?
Bonuses for boys:
When you meet on a blind date for the first time, you can prepare a small gift for the girl; It can be a small bouquet of flowers, it can be some small gifts.
It doesn't need to be expensive, but it can make a good first impression on girls.
Be sure not to be late, be 20 minutes early, and don't be 2 minutes late.
Be sure to pay attention to your personal image, dress without being pompous, clean and generous.
Extra points for girls:
When they meet for the first time, it is not natural for boys to spend money; If you don't like this guy, just AA system.
Or, after the meeting, you don't have a good impression of the guy, just offer to hang out casually.
Pay attention to your dress, boys prefer clean and decent, generous girls.
Know how to take care of the boy's face, if you can make the boy feel respected, he can have a better attitude towards you.
5. Blind date is just a temptation and game for adults
See a piece of data.
Almost everyone who has participated in blind dates has had the experience of "spare tire blind dates".
And most people are in favor of spare tire blind dates.
What do you mean?
That is, it will not be limited to one person, but will be blind date with multiple people at the same time at a certain stage.
One more blind date increases the chances of a successful blind date.
This is not actually an immoral thing for adults.
After all, blind dates themselves are about sifting through each other, getting to know each other, and then finding the one who suits you best.
Blind date is closer to the phrase "marriage needs to be in charge".
Today's Topic:
Have you ever had a blind date?
What are your experiences with blind dates?
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