In intimate relationships, the combination of some strong women and weak men is easy to produce friction and contradictions.
Because there are many men who are deeply influenced by social stereotypes and feel that they should be the pillars of the family, they cannot accept the fact that their partners are better than themselves.
Even if they accept it openly, there will still be some negative psychological gaps in their hearts, resulting in problems in the relationship between the two.
Lee Seung-hyun and Qi Wei, who were on fire in the "Thorny Brother" program, say:
When Qi Wei first got together with Lee Seung-hyun, Qi Wei's popularity and ability in all aspects were much higher than Lee Seung-hyun from South Korea, but Qi Wei never made Lee Seung-hyun feel that he had to rely on Qi Wei's popularity.
On the contrary, Qi Wei, who grinned greatly in front of the camera, was always a delicate and weak woman in front of Lee Seung-hyun, and needed Lee Seung-hyun's protection, Lee Seung-hyun was willing to give up his career for Qi Wei and chose "outside the female protagonist, male inside the male protagonist".
There may have been many people at that time who did not recognize or understand Lee Seung-hyun's choice, and even some people attacked Lee Seung-hyun on the Internet for living under the wings of his wife and eating soft rice with peace of mind.
Although Lee Seung-hyun felt sad about this and had no face, with the support of Qi Wei, he also quickly adjusted his mentality, he frankly said:
"Qi Wei chose to have children at the golden age, which is a kind of dedication to our family. And my wife has the opportunity to continue to chase her dreams, then as a husband, of course, I have to support! ”
If you also want to make your man no longer stay away from you because of the psychological gap like Qi Wei, but willingly pay for you and your family, then the two ways to alleviate the psychological gap between men that the teacher talked about today you have to listen carefully:
Amplify the efforts of men and affirm the importance of men
Everyone knows that men are much better-looking than women, and even if many men are willing to bow down to you at home, when outsiders are present, he also hopes that you can give him enough face. Let him have a big man image.
But in the combination of strong women and weak men, men always inevitably hear some face-damaging gossip.
Don't underestimate the harm and impact of gossip on men, maybe sometimes men lose their temper with you inexplicably, which is to imply that you say:
"Honey, I'm hurt and I need your help."
Next, let's take a look at how Qi Wei deals with it:
Whenever she saw that Lee Seung-hyun was in a bad mood, Qi Wei would put down her work and sit down with Lee Seung-hyun to chat. She would patiently listen to Lee Seung-hyun and talk to him about his mood, anxiety, and even his feelings about the current division of labor between the two.
Whenever Lee Seung-hyun becomes inferior and says that he is useless, will not earn money, and will only take the children at home. Qi Wei would gently reassure Lee Seung-hyun and say:
"Honey, in fact, I think it is even greater for you to take the child, because you are using your own efforts to accompany the child, which is as important as when I go out to work, and the most important thing is that I am very grateful to you, because you are fulfilling my dream." 」
Under Qi Wei's healing, slowly, Lee Seung-hyun's mentality was balanced, and his mood gradually returned to stability.
Listen more to men's opinions on the decisions of things
In fact, whether men are strong and women are weak or women are weak, if two people want to get along with each other, mutual respect is definitely indispensable.
But everyone knows that if you are better than men, then you will definitely feel that what you think is right, so you will naturally ignore each other's ideas and disrespect each other's feelings in the arrangement and decision of some things.
Just like Gu Jia in the TV series "Thirty Only", she is much stronger than her husband Xu Huanshan in terms of human sophistication and work ability, but even if Gu Jia retreats to the second line, she has not been able to prevent Xu Huanshan from cheating. Why is that?
This is actually related to Gu Jia'ai's own decision, because Gu Jia is as small as the placement of vases, as large as which kindergarten the child reads, what kind of fireworks the company should produce, and so on, she ignores Xu Huanshan's ideas and thinks that her decision is the right one.
Over time, there was a lot of estrangement between Xu Huanshan and Gu Jia, which also laid the groundwork for Xu Huanshan's derailment later.
Therefore, I suggest that you listen more to the man's thoughts on the decision to do something, and ask: "Honey, what do you think about this matter?" ”
Even if the other person's idea is not as good as yours, even if it is ultimately done according to your thoughts, at least the man will feel your respect for him and know that you care a lot about him and value him.