01.
People often say that love is a matter of "love that does not know what to do, but goes deeper."
It comes quietly, and by the time people find out, they are often already deeply moved.
Two loves, each other's companionship, is the beginning of a period of true love.
But not every love is just the right fate.
A lot of times, people meet the so-called right person at the wrong time.
As a result, it is painful and entangled.
Among them, the most unexpected thing is to meet that person after being married.
On the one hand, "true love" and on the other hand, the partner who accompanies him through life, two choices, it is difficult to choose.
Excluding a small probability, the matter of encountering true love outside of marriage is actually debatable.
Many times, people feel that they have met true love, just a temporary illusion.
Because, about meeting true love outside of marriage, the reason is nothing more than these two words: unwilling.
Divide your mind, see the reasons, and decide what happens next.
02.
The relationship between husband and wife is the process of constantly tempering feelings.
In this process, the friendship between each other is gradually transformed from pure love to deepen and precipitate strongly.
But at the same time, those enthusiastic states will gradually wither, covered by the ordinariness of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea.
But in this world, both men and women are essentially yearning for enthusiasm.
The blandness of the moment will make them subconsciously think that love has deteriorated, or that they have no love anymore.
Under such psychological guidance, the neon wine green outside world will naturally attract them.
Empathizing outwardly is not a strange thing.
However, whether those who meet outside of marriage are true love is a question that needs serious consideration.
Don't mistake freshness for love, but hurt the person you really love.
Xu Huanshan in the TV series "Thirty Only", does he really love Lin? Presumably not either.
The contradiction between Xu Huanshan and his wife lies in the strong and gentleness of his wife.
The more meticulously she took care of him, the more uncomfortable his heart became, and under the emotional repression, he met the delicate Lin Youyou.
The other party gave her the feeling of being adored when she was in love, and made him feel that he had been breathed.
But between these two women, his deep love is still only Gu Jia.
For him, Lin Youyou is like a temporary rain shelter, and there is no real true affection.
The two words of true love need to be considered.
Even if the love between husband and wife has been flat, you must pay attention to yourself, and blandness does not mean disappearing.
This is best known in your own heart.
Think about the blandness and enthusiasm, and ask yourself what you really love in your heart.
03.
Not willing to be bland, it is their own unwillingness.
Not willing to be happy in the moment is also unwilling to be your own.
The reason why people are outward to the outside world is nothing more than these two words.
True love outside of marriage, whether it is true love or not, not to mention, unwillingness in marriage is already an indisputable fact.
It is said that falling in love is easy to keep together.
This is rare, not only the art of getting along, but also their own heart.
Life is impossible all the time, most of the time, it is a chicken feather.
When people are not satisfied with the status quo, they will look outward for a way out.
And the person he met outside was branded with true love.
Whether you are sincere or not does not matter. The key is that his heart has been erratic.
In the TV series "All Is Good", Su Mu is not like this, when she met "true love", she already had a child.
Although the relationship with her husband is plain, it also has its own happiness.
But when that person appeared, Su Mu was unwilling for the current life.
She wanted to go to Shanghai with each other and live a better life.
But just as she was leaving, she had a third child, Su Mingyu.
There was no way, she had to choose to stay, and then live the rest of her life.
But there was still a knot in her heart, and she complained about the child, and since then she has been particularly attentive to her brothers.
If it was at that time, Su Mu did not encounter the so-called "true love" because of her own unwillingness.
Presumably, the life of a family of four will also be very good.
Nor will it be, the guilt that will occur for so long after that.
For unwilling people, no matter who they encounter in the outside world, they can be their "true love".
04.
Admittedly, there are some people in life who are not united by love.
Finally, in the midst of the inadequacy of a chicken feather, they let go of each other, found true love again, and harvested happiness.
But in this case, it is completely possible to let go first and meet the future with ease.
When the marriage is still maintained, the truth cannot be talked about.
Because in the family, there are also their own responsibilities.
More often, people look at the reason outside of marriage, just because of their own innermost feelings: not willing to accept the status quo.
The person who loves seems to have changed in marriage.
The way the two people get along has also undergone earth-shaking changes.
Therefore, I feel uncomfortable and feel unwilling.
However, when you are not willing, please ask yourself first, whether you really don't love it.
Don't hurt the person you really love because of a momentary unwillingness.
Returning to the family, taking back one's own unwillingness, and managing everything well is the best answer to love.
And if you really don't love, then please end your relationship neatly, and after you are free from each other, you can pursue true love.