I don't know when sober and independent women are set up in your circle, twenty or thirty-year-old female stars with exquisite makeup say a few transparent words, and there is a large wave of marketing numbers and fans rushing to tell each other: "Ah, sister is really sober in the world, can say more about you." ”
How to say, it is good to love to think and carry clearly, but with all due respect, it is too early to call yourself "great understanding in the world" every day at the age of twenty or thirty.
People this kind of animals, are living while groping, growing while pain, three or five 30+ sisters group chat, may not be able to pop up a few transparent golden sentences worthy of capital and bold, everyone and the female stars on the screen are not the difference in comprehension and expression, but the platform, the right to speak.
And the one who can really ride the dust and deserve it in this area of soberness and transparency has to be an elderly woman.
Time gives everyone the possibility to become a philosopher, the older he gets, the deeper his skills should be, casually a few words, no longer for the sake of fashion, for the sake of likability, not only about love and rumors, but will be more condensed and weighty due to the precipitation of time, rich experience, and tangible results.
In short, no matter how beautiful words are than living beautifully, no matter how hard you try to choose words and sentences, it is not comparable to the maverick choices at the crossroads of life and the courage to resist pressure against the current.
On the special day of March 8th, let us focus on those "old women" who are no longer young but flourishing, who once stood in the center of the stage to reflect the entire era, allowing countless ordinary women to see their own shadows, and also showing the "her strength" that is both sharp and flexible.
Attack on Michelle Yeoh VS retiring Wang Zuxian
First of all, congratulations to 60-year-old Michelle Yeoh, before a quarter of 2023 has passed, she swept the three major awards with "Instantaneous Universe", and she is getting closer and closer to the Oscar for Best Actress.
However, winning the award is only the ultimate feedback for her decades of not admitting defeat and not retreating, and it is a big explosion of quantitative changes that eventually accumulate into qualitative changes. I believe that even if she can't fight for today's glory, she will persevere to the end for a sentence that is worthy of her heart and proud body.
Michelle Yeoh is from a good background, beautiful, has been a beauty pageant champion, and has married a wealthy family, and could have been a canary with a good life, but she chose a difficult path again and again.
As we all know, in the talented Hong Kong film industry, Michelle Yeoh relies on "beating women".
It is forced by the situation, but also because of her personality, she is not brilliant in literary drama, beautiful and outstanding, and does not want to make a vase. But in the field of martial arts, which is dominated by men, a woman from Malaysia faces obstacles beyond imagination.
The first is the language barrier, when she first set foot in the Hong Kong circle, she even had problems reading the script, even if she spent effort to memorize by rote, it was difficult to achieve it quickly, and a careless person would be ridiculed by everyone.
The second is to play the pass, as a little red in the green bush, at first this seemingly weak girl was not favored. But Michelle Yeoh did not know how difficult it was to retreat, she pushed herself, ran to the Hongjia class for high-intensity training for half a year, gathered before 8 o'clock every day, ran, carried sandbags, kicked, practiced boxing.
When she filmed her first action film "Royal Senior Sister", she insisted on not using a stand-in, and was never ambiguous in the design and completion of the action, and at the age of 23, she personally went into battle and filmed a series of difficult scenes.
But it's not enough to just bury her head in her own efforts, during the filming, she will also face some soft discrimination that is not easy to detect, such as the martial artist seeing that the actor is a young girl and dare not really do it.
On the surface, it is pity and cherish jade, but in fact, there is a prejudice that "women are weak".
Director Yuan Kui taught Michelle Yeoh: kick him vigorously, punch him vigorously, so that he knows that you have power.
Subject to the constraints of traditional discipline on women, Michelle Yeoh also hesitated, and Yuan Kui woke her up with a sentence: If you don't use force, then they will always release water.
"He lets you" or "you let him" essentially treats the other party as a porcelain doll that cannot withstand the beating, and this "courtesy exchange" cannot inspire the true power of either party, on the contrary, in many cases, confrontation and full fire can be regarded as true mutual respect.
Work affects personality, and this valuable experience of filming has also shaped Michelle Yeoh's "not hiding the front" style to a certain extent, she never pretends to be weak, fake generous, and always straightforward, heroic and domineering in the face of the camera.
Therefore, she will be "arrogant" and "shut up" at the award ceremony, and will also bluntly say in an interview that her old friend Jackie Chan is a male chauvinist.
Of course, this comes from the confidence gained by hard work and actual performance, but why is it not the natural expression of her personal temperament and values?
Anger and sharpness do not necessarily carry malice and lethality, they can also be a self-defensive and constructive force, those who bear anger and sharpness are not paper paste, everyone endures each other, harmony and difference, so there is no so-called equality?
On the surface, this is a 60-year-old female star's hard work, but in fact, she kicked open not only the door of Hollywood, or even the door of the Oscars, but the rules and regulations of the patriarchal society for women. Women do not have to be weak and virtuous and wait for salvation, but they can also fight side by side with men, and they can show their strength and shine in the professional field.
In addition, Michelle Yeoh, who is fighting in Hollywood, also faces the embarrassing situation of Asian women beating women - for more than ten years, her choices are actually very limited, usually only in commercial films, the picture looks cool, and the character is relatively thin. Frequently playing such roles is a waste of ability and experience for a mature middle-aged actress.
But Sister Yang in line with the belief of "do not leave, do not retreat, do not give up" is stunned to the "Instantaneous Universe" that seems to be tailored for herself, she claims that the role of Xiulian in the film has been prepared for 60 years, and she also choked up when receiving the award, the bitterness and glory of which only she knows best.
But still that sentence, without this role, without these awards, Michelle Yeoh's vigorous vitality and unyielding pride will eventually allow her to keep attacking and forging ahead, to break the shackles related to gender, age, and race, and declare the infinite possibilities of women to the world with a fighting attitude.
In contrast, Wang Zuxian's retreat was another form of rebellion and confrontation.
Wang Zuxian, who once unified the aesthetics of China, Japan and South Korea, officially retired in 2004 and went to Canada to start a peaceful life, not getting married, having children or filming, and has never returned.
Of course, there are still legends of sisters on the rivers and lakes, every three or five chance encounters to capture what, every time set off a small wave of public opinion, the focus is all on the "beauty is late", either blessing or face collapse, but there is another echelon to refute: In my fifties, I can have this hair volume, this state, I have to wake up laughing in my dreams, right?
But presumably Wang Zuxian himself has long ceased to care about this.
The penultimate play she filmed before retiring was "Garden Horror Dream", at the Ningbo premiere, a reporter asked: If her appearance is too outstanding, will it become an obstacle? How to get rid of it?
Sister Wang replied calmly: For beauty, I don't want to get rid of it, because it is there, I only ask myself if I am empty after giving it for so many years, and whether I want to give it again.
Soon after, she sent this blessing to fans: I hope you can continue to learn on the road of life, and I am the same.
The intention of retreat is already very obvious, and the point is that she really does what she says. The burden of Vanity Fair and the temptation, she said goodbye, retired early in her thirties, and lived a life that belonged only to herself, not who she served, and who depended on.
What would happen if she was going to stay? There is always a film to shoot, just like the current big and small flowers, playing a girl in her thirties, playing a mother in her early forties, and other good works, raising a company, anyway, fans close their eyes and blow and the place of daily income 208W, can rely on a day is a day.
But Wang Zuxian is rather lacking than abuse, unwilling to overdraw himself and break his feathers for the sake of human favor and interests, and does not want to wait until he is completely hollowed out and exhausted to leave the scene, but chooses to resolutely get rid of the shackles of fame and fortune and the shackles of previous grievances, and preserve his aura and rebuild his life in another world.
Surviving generations without leaving the field or backing down is a formidable formidability, but the courage required to decisively withdraw and switch battlefields may be greater.
It's like a professional person, who has worked in a large factory for more than ten years, it is normal to jump jobs or start a business, and he wants to make more money and live a more decent life, but there are people who choose to resign nakedly, lie flat, and let go.
The former is still spinning in the inherent system, the latter directly jumps out and doesn't play, bye!
This is Wang Zuxian's courage, she expressed her disappointment in the entertainment industry and men in a passively resistant way, as well as the strong desire to grow up as a vase in the eyes of everyone, and also described a broader freedom with the indifferent and quiet state of life since then - "Who says that people can only go up?" I can also go left, right, down..."
It is not so much a "retreat" as a new path of chic.
Chen Jin of the mother-fetus solo VS Chen Chong, who is more comfortable after marriage
Some time ago, the conversation between the three girls of Peking University and Chizuko Ueno caused an uproar, all three are married, but they do not seem to be very consistent, and they need the stamped recognition of this feminist academic authority to prove the correctness of self-selection, and also raised the question of "whether married people are at the bottom of the feminist contempt chain".
has achieved worldly success, but both traditional and pioneer want to rely on, which just shows the weakness and pull in the hearts of the three highly educated girls.
Independence, freedom, and inner firmness are related to the vastness, and are not transformed by differences in identity and the blessing of a certain ism.
In this regard, there are two seniors in your circle who are obviously much more transparent, and in terms of lifestyle choices, they tend to be two-level, but they have the same path - they are both responsible for their lives according to their inner voices, and they do not blindly obey, do not waver, and are not eager to seek whose seal certification.
Look at Chen Jin first, this name may sound a little strange, but in fact, she is a typical drama throwing face, acting in a lot of plays and creating many roles, but there has been no hype and scandal for decades, and she acts relatively low-key.
The most famous character in recent times is the elderly Ye Wenjie in "The Three-Body Problem", vicissitudes, calm, and wise, like the appearance of a female intellectual of the previous generation, making book fans shout that this is simply Ye Wenjie.
And in life, the actor himself is also very personal. She was 59 years old at the time, unmarried and childless, and it was said that she was still a mother-fetus solo, but her temperament was very good, calm as water and powerful, without any entanglement and sway.
Such a life choice and experience, coupled with the unhurried speech in the interview, makes it difficult not to be moved:
"Whether you have a family or children, a person has always been with himself all his life... I don't want to enter the mainstream, people are always lonely, there is a saying I particularly like, that is, what is freedom, freedom is that you stand alone, not attached, not afraid. ”
As a small number of people who take an unusual path, Chen Jin's body has almost no sense of resistance and conflict, very calm, clean, and enjoyable, as she said: I just live naturally, and I have never thought about so many things.
Just like a tree, its branches grow like that, naturally stretched, unique and interesting, why do you have to prune it into a straight aspen? Everyone is an aspen, isn't it boring?
Not married, sterile or even in love, there is nothing wrong, nor is it "abnormal", you can also live well, what will really drive people crazy is not the crooked branches, but those external oppression and domination, are those endless marriage urging and "leftover men and women" hats.
When everyone learns to respect and be tolerant, the alien will no longer be the other.
Of course, this is an idealized state, and in reality, it still takes some luck to become an outlier.
Teacher Chen Jin and her brother are both unmarried and childless, and they can calmly be themselves thanks to the enlightenment of their parents, just like Chen Jin himself said: they also have that thing in them, and if they are in this era, they should also live as mavericks.
So if we are not so lucky, due to the combination of nature, family environment and many other factors, at a certain stage of life can not be very free, from the heart need the protection of marriage, and thus enter into marriage, then we may as well enjoy the journey of the present, do not have to be low due to the prevalence of avant-garde thought.
Chen Chong is a good example in this regard.
Her family is free-range and has experienced some turbulence since she was a child, so she still longs for home.
And she also shared a very subtle feeling in "Lu Yu Has a Date": when she was not married, it was difficult to get along with the opposite sex, and she couldn't help but wonder if people had any thoughts about themselves and what to do if that, but after becoming a married woman, wearing the ring on her hand was like having an identity armor that could automatically resist those hormones and get along with each other more calmly.
I see that there are many people in the barrage who express the same feeling. The reason is probably because sex and hormones themselves are aggressive and lack of order, and when people do not have that ability to control, they will be afraid of it, for fear that it will disrupt their lives, so they simply choose to escape or wear armor to protect themselves.
And this fear is not only afraid of others, the essence is also from the fear of a certain energy surging in one's own body, so it is necessary to use other forces to put a lock on it to prevent it from acting recklessly.
So Chen Chong started his first marriage at the age of 23, quickly divorced four years later, and entered the marriage again at the age of 31, until now.
She trusts her current husband very much, and bluntly says that she enjoys a peaceful life like water, and hopes that those so-called stories will not happen to her.
And she does not feel that the existence of a family will affect her filming, but she definitely said that if there is no family, she can't film, and she needs such a large rear to support herself, so that she can go to the battlefield with more peace of mind.
You see, people are just different, at least in terms of the definition and need for freedom. Some may prefer freedom, others security, and everyone can give their own answers.
The key is that the relationship model is just a tool, and we need to use the tool for ourselves, not be bound by it.
So, right and wrong aside, the point is as Chizuko Ueno said, full choice, whether it is given to everyone, especially women in a vulnerable position.
For those who already have the right to choose, get out of the cage in your heart, don't let a single value measure yourself, you could have had a wider world.
brief summary
The three and eight verses have typed so many words, which is nothing more than to describe the various forms of freedom that can exist in reality through the choices of female stars. Of course, some people will say with disdain and pessimism: people are rich, famous and beautiful, and ordinary people do not have that capital!
But doesn't the previous example of Peking University girls also show that people who are obviously rich in social resources but can't get out of the lost road of self-entanglement also exist?
Having money and power and inner independence and broadness can never be equated, such as today's female star circle popular divorce, many uncles do not want peers are not good, directly happy and little milk dog love, this kind of style was blown up by public opinion, saying what kind of sassy sister big heroine sign.
This matter itself is nothing, and it can even be said that it represents a kind of progress, but the gratifying point should be that women know more and more how to please themselves, no longer casually worship men and have some inexplicable filters for men, rather than simply "sister with little dog".
Otherwise, what's the difference between that and men who always like twenty-year-old girls from twenty to eighty? It's just that after turning over and being the master, and then doing the things of the first master, and letting others be that slave, isn't it still servile in the head?
The existence of Women's Day and feminism is to break old habits and pursue equal rights and freedom, rather than spinning around in the traditional trap.
The concepts in the head are renewed and awakened, and the resources in the hands can be used appropriately.
Yes, most people are not as good as female stars, and Wang Zuxian also resigned naked to Canada with money that he probably can't spend in his life, but for ordinary people, how much is better than idle and wasted.
If you think about the origin of the 38th Festival, the female workers of that year rebelled angrily when they had nothing, that is, they only fought with flesh and blood and the cry from the bottom of their hearts to come to the dawn of a new era.
Predecessors planted trees and later people took advantage of the cool, and there were various masters and grandmother-level role models in the spotlight who were all kinds of mavericks, and the road to women's equal rights in 2023 should be smoother.
So, come on, become yourself without haste, you can become the light of the people around you, and you can become the "she power" in ordinary life.
Happy holidays to every "she"!
Author: Miss Bovary
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