I believe that we will all have a lot of feelings, why do we pay so much, but men just can't perceive it? Even the more you give yourself, the more inappropriate the man is? When we encounter this situation, our first reaction must be that this is because men are ruthless and unjust, and their efforts for so many years are blind, but is this really the case?
In fact, men are a creature that is particularly afraid of owing to others, some things, they would rather not want to owe human feelings, but many women prefer to come in reverse, they do do a lot, but they like to put their own credit on the mouth, and too much emphasis on their own efforts, it will be easy to destroy men's guilt. That's the first reason why men choose to ignore us for good.
In fact, men are not all big pig hooves, can not be killed all at once, the reason why they often ignore our good, there may be many other reasons. Then the second reason why men don't see us paying may be that our own attraction to men is insufficient. Many people believe in a saying called long-term love, but the real situation is that after a long time, most of the emotions are habits, not attractions. Attraction is instantaneous, not time-dependent. The initial attraction of two people has a huge impact on the development of the relationship between the two people and the attitude of the man to us, and this influence is difficult to disappear just because of time. So, a man's blind eye to your goodness is likely to be inadequate in the beginning when you are not attracted to him. Maybe from the bottom of his heart he likes the kind of gentle girl, but you always grin, maybe he likes the girl with a colorful life, but you stay at home all day.
When we show more and more value in the eyes of the other party, men's sense of cherishing us will drop significantly, and it is naturally not easy to see our good. The third reason men don't see us giving is that we don't know how to manage each other's expectations. Even if you are good to a person, slowly this goodness will be gradually adapted and become an ordinary thing. If we keep doing this, for a long time, these good things will be ignored. If we want men to remember their own goodness, and want men to see our efforts, then we should not give him all our good brains, so that the other party's expectations will be raised at once, and it will not be easy to meet him later. We must learn to give little by little, constantly let the other party have expectations, or we can give after the reverse, so that the other party has a gap, so that we can also mobilize the other party's emotions, so as to have more attention to ourselves.
In fact, the problems in the relationship seem simple, but in fact, they are very complicated. Only by understanding the essence of emotional problems can we completely solve them.