Nowadays, young people's life is stressful, and taking children has become the work of the elderly, but if you look closely, you will find a particularly interesting phenomenon, grandma prefers to bring children after three years old, while grandma brings most of them are children within three years old.
If in a family, grandma and grandma are willing to take the baby, grandma will definitely stand in front, wait until the child is three years old, grandma will come, so many people will also say that grandma is "cutting beard".
This is also very easy to understand, how difficult it is for children before the age of three, especially when they can't walk, they grow on adults all day long, they are tired and sweaty after holding for a while, and the children's various habits have not been formed, eating, drinking, and sleeping need to be stared at all times, and the degree of hardship can be imagined.
It was not easy for the child to grow up, and he also understood things, remembering who was good to him, Grandma came to help, And Grandma naturally retreated to the second line and hurried home.
So it is said that grandma is smart and knows how to be idle, but this is not the case, most grandmas are willing to quit, and their reasons do not complain at all.
1, for the daughter
Grandma Li, 56, is my mother's neighbor, she brought her daughter for two and a half years, and when her little grandson was going to kindergarten, she went home and changed her mother to pick up her children to and from school.
She told my mother that it was really tiring to bring up the child with a handful of and a handful of urine, in fact, it was enough to take the child when she was young, but there was no way, she also came from a young age, knowing that women needed help the most after giving birth, and the mother and mother-in-law chose one or the other, and they were not willing to let go.
She was afraid that her daughter would be sick for the next month, and she was also afraid that her daughter would be unhappy with her mother-in-law because of the problem of taking the child, and she was always angry at that time and fell ill.
So I'd rather be tired, but also want my daughter to be comfortable and relaxed, her daughter still has a job, and when she comes home, she can eat a satisfactory meal, which is her greatest satisfaction.
2, in order to avoid being blamed
Grandma Zhang, 60, has the same experience, and her reason is simple, she does not want to continue to be "disliked" by her son-in-law at her daughter's house.
Although the daughter has always felt that the mother with the child is good, but the family is such a big place, she lives there, the mother can not come, before the child is small, the daughter can not leave, now the child is older, if she does not go again, the son-in-law and the mother of the family must also have opinions, she can not only consider the daughter, but do not consider the overall situation.
If you can get the gratitude of the son-in-law at the beginning with the child, if you have not left, the son-in-law will inevitably have complaints in his heart, even if the role of the old man is huge, but in the end it will become a chicken feather, and the smart mother-in-law will learn to quit in time, so that the daughter's family will be happier.
3. For the sake of the mother
4-year-old Le Le was brought up by his grandmother, he had to go to his grandmother's house every weekend, he was not happy to go to his grandmother's house once, no matter how much grandma pleased him, once he was angry with his father, directly beat his little ass, saying that he did not have grandparents in his eyes, and the couple had a big fight because of this matter.
Later, when grandma learned about this matter, she sighed and told her daughter that she would come to her own home less in the future, let the child get closer to the grandmother, and regret that she did not leave the child earlier, resulting in the child not being close to the grandparents.
For children, who takes him with whom to kiss, but in the eyes of adults, children do not kiss themselves, is a big thing, accumulation may also lead to contradictions, many elderly people in order to compete for a child, make unpleasant, this is not worth the loss.
After the child is three years old, which kind of elderly person is most suitable for taking the child?
Who has a good personality, who brings children
As the saying goes, three years old to see the old, how the child grows up, from a young age can be seen, his temperament, behavior habits, are the shadow of the educators around him, especially the character, can determine the fate.
Therefore, which old man's personality is better, it is more suitable for taking children, optimistic and cheerful, positive and positive about life, is a positive impact on children.
Who has a good educational philosophy, who brings children
A friend of mine, my mother-in-law used to be a primary school teacher, she put her children around the elderly, and the mother-in-law taught many online courses on her own for the sake of her children's education.
When the child is four or five years old, he will memorize the Three Character Sutra and the Analects, and also know various historical figures, English also read Oxford five, is the little cow in everyone's eyes, friends praise the mother-in-law's education concept every time, but the child only needs to go to the grandmother's house for two days, the good habits developed before will disappear, because the grandmother is too doting, always by the child's nature.
Compared with the two, it is better for the grandmother to take the child, so the parents want to let who bring the child, but also need to weigh the pros and cons, can not be based on their own preferences and personal wishes, to choose the right caregiver for the child.
The old man with the baby, what is the most afraid of?
Many old people with children are not afraid of hard work, the most afraid is to be laborious and unflattering, but also to be blamed by young people, this is the most sad, parents are older, many things are not enough, but also to the time of retirement, so with children really need children's gratitude and understanding.
There are also the elderly with children is forced, many children will take the child and the pension for the same exchange, feel that the elderly do not bring children do not give the pension, make the elderly bitter, this is also not right, parents raise children small, children raise parents old, this is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, with children is only the parents of the children's compassion, not necessary.
If you were a grandmother, would you bring a baby to your daughter? Is it 0-3 years old, or after three years old?