The concept of money is very important for children, many parents in the process of educating children, will attach great importance to the education of children's concept of money, to let children develop the habit of not spending money indiscriminately, which has nothing to do with the wealth of the family, but there are many parents on the child's concept of money education methods are not right.
For example, many parents will say to their children when their children like the same more expensive things: too expensive to buy.
The meaning of parents may really be a little expensive, feel that it is not necessary to buy, and at the same time to train children not to spend money indiscriminately, but children may not understand it this way, and the child's understanding may be very painful.
In "The Boy Says", a boy I remember fondly said that he did not dare to eat, especially afraid of not having food tomorrow, and wanted to save his parents some money.
Later, I learned that after so many years, the poorest family had been myself. Mom went to the beauty salon every day, and Dad wore all the clothes he wore.
The boy spat on the stage, and the audience below laughed badly.
Mom just hastily explained: money should be spent on the blade of the knife, not on the back of the knife.
Andy is a sixth-grade boy, usually well-behaved and sensible, he likes to play basketball very much, basketball shoes are also fond of, this final exam, Andy scored three 98 points, his parents are very happy, told Andy can agree to a request.
Andy thought of a pair of sneakers that he liked very much, Andy took Andy to the counter, and the pair of shoes that Andy liked were worth 1,000 yuan, Andy saw the dumbfounded, Andy looked at dad expectantly, hoping that he could buy himself this pair of shoes, this pair of shoes he had been looking forward to for a long time.
Ann Dad looked at the shoes, wanted to buy for the child and did not want to buy, 1,000 yuan is still a little expensive for him, he pointed to the 300 pieces of shoes next to him and told Andy, this pair of shoes Dad can buy for you, the shoes are too expensive to buy.
The light under the child's eyes is gone, Andy has been saying that this 388-piece shoe looks better and the quality is very good, just this pair of shoes, Ann Dad happily settled the bill.
Andy was disappointed, but he couldn't show it, he couldn't make Dad feel unhappy, after all, Dad had already bought him shoes, although he didn't like the shoes.
Andy wasn't so surprised that Dad didn't buy him the shoes he liked, because Dad had used this reason countless times not to buy him toys, not to buy him game consoles, and he was used to it.
Andy often asked himself whether he was bad, not excellent, so his father was not willing to buy him what he liked, everything he had was cheap, which also made him gradually have an inferiority complex, he felt that he was inferior to others, so his parents looked down on himself, nor did he buy himself what he liked, he once denied himself, and he was also inferior in front of others.
By the time Andy's parents discovered the abnormality, Andy's inferiority complex was already very serious, he constantly denied himself, felt that he was not worthy of good things, and once lively and cheerful, he became cautious.
In fact, the conditions in Andy's home are still good, completely affordable to a pair of shoes, but parents feel that some expensive, do not want to buy for their children, they do not want to let the children form a wrong view of money, but they do not know, this way of parenting, let the child become inferior, feel poor, in front of the classmates can not look up.
Some children even under the discipline of their parents, when they grow up, there is a pathological comparison psychology, and some children feel that they are poor, and even steal other people's things in order to satisfy their own vanity.
How should parents properly educate their children?
If the child wants to buy something as expensive as The Comparison, the parents can disagree with the child's request, reject the child, and clearly tell the child that they cannot ask the parent to buy something for themselves just because they want to be like other children.
But if the child really likes a thing and craves it from the heart, parents can give the child that thing to meet the child's psychological needs.
Of course, this is also decided on the basis of the family's economic affordability, which can meet the needs of the child when the child's test score is better, and give the child a sense of ceremony, so that the child will be very happy and help promote the parent-child relationship.
Parents are very important to their children's money concept education, but parents should also pay attention to the fact that some words are not suitable for cultivating their children's money concept, such as the sentence: too expensive to buy.
The correct view of money is very important for children, parents must cultivate their children's view of money, so that children understand that how to spend money is correct, and only the correct concept of money can promote children's progress and physical and mental health.