In relationships, whether a man is willing to spend money or not, women are usually seen as a criterion for whether they love themselves or not.
If a man is miserly about money, no matter how well he behaves in other ways, women will have worries: Does he really love me? This is the confusion that many women have encountered.
◎ Emotional psychological counseling interpretation: a man who is willing to spend time for you but refuses to spend money, does he really love me?
My boyfriend is very capable and wealthy, and his monthly salary is several times mine. Usually, I am particularly busy at work.
But with me, he was willing to spend his mind, time, and energy on me, but he never spent money on me, and he was stingy with me.
I don't know if he loves me or not, because even if I don't have a penny on me, he won't give me money!
For example, my boyfriend accompanied me to go shopping, he was never willing to take me to those high-end consumption areas, even if the two of them ate is AA, so that I suddenly have no desire to eat.
When my birthday comes, he may make a big dinner, he may say something sweet to me, he may ask to go out for a walk together, but he just never sees him give me gifts.
Sometimes I want to go out with my boyfriend to watch movies, but my boyfriend says that it is better to watch it at his own home;
Sometimes I'm in a bad mood and want to be able to eat out for a big meal, but my boyfriend accuses me of not knowing how to save.
More times, I feel good to hold back, with such a man, there is no romance at all; Can't stand his slamming, I really doubt if he loves me.
But then again, sometimes I think he cares about me.
He is a busy man, I am in a bad mood, he would rather put down his work and come over to accompany me, tease me, coax me until I am happy; I was sick and he was more anxious than I was; I'm still quite touched by these things.
Therefore, I am also very entangled, both reluctant to be kind to him and hate his slamming.
Can we still have a future?
Emotional psychological counseling analysis:
Once you meet a stingy man, it's hard for women to put up with it.
In the concept of women, men should be generous, bold, and willing to spend money for women.
Your heart has been shaken, you don't know whether to go down with each other, and even if you go on, you can't be sure whether the future of two people is happy.
For most women, whether a man is willing to spend money for you has become a measure of the depth of love.
How can a man be measured for being worthy of love? It's because this man loves himself.
Of course, the way a man loves a woman experiences multiple aspects, and the best way is in whether he can satisfy a woman's material and monetary cravings.
This is an ideal state, but it is not so easy to achieve.
When a man is not willing to spend money for you, should he continue to be with him, what factors need to be considered?
Is his attitude towards money reasonable?
Whether a man is willing to spend money and whether he is willing to spend money for his girlfriend reflects his view of money and is influenced by his upbringing and family environment.
If a boy grows up in a poor family and has not had a meal, then even if he grows up to be particularly capable of making money, he may not be willing to spend money and spend a lot of money;
Some boys, influenced by their parents, know the concepts of "expensive", "cheap", "unaffordable" and so on early on, and control and manage their desires prematurely, even if the desires are reasonable, they are not willing to achieve them.
On the other hand, men who save money appropriately are models of men at home and know how to live their lives.
The reason why he saves money is to invest in your future happy life, so when you meet such a man, women should cherish it and give it full understanding and trust;
However, if he is willing to spend money for other women and seems unwilling to spend money on you, women will naturally have the idea of leaving in the face of this situation.
What is wrong with the boyfriend's view of money, whether it needs to be improved, and how to improve it, may require the emotional psychologist to understand the details of the two people and make an analysis and give guidance.
Does he have the ability to satisfy you with spending money?
If your boyfriend's view of money is similar to yours, then he wants to meet your needs, and it may depend on whether he has such conditions.
For example, if he earns 10,000 a month, but he has 2 sisters who go to college, and his parents do not have a job, then even if he seems to be very "golden", the pressure of taking care of his parents and supporting his sister all falls on him, can he still spend money with you without distraction and worries?
Is his view of money acceptable?
When love needs to be weighed on the leverage of money, it more or less means that this love may become in danger.
Although in this era of money supremacy, feelings will be more or less affected by money, if too much emphasis is placed on material, the relationship will completely change its taste.
If you've already begun to think of it, his view of money does affect your relationship.
You need to first examine yourself, whether men who are willing to spend money but are willing to spend energy for you are acceptable, and whether the two are suitable for living together in the future. What are his strengths? Is he reluctant to spend money in every way?
If he is not willing to spend money whether it should be spent or should not be spent, then it is really difficult to reflect his love for you, and it is worth thinking twice about whether such a man is worth entrusting for life;
If he is only more economical in his living habits, or has a certain plan for financial management and future life, which is the opposite of your consumption concept, this requires you to make a choice.
If you are willing to be with him, the two people need to run into each other and make adjustments to each other;
If it's hard to accept and you're not willing to make adjustments, breaking up is also an option.