Previously, a video of more than 4 minutes went viral on the Internet, in which a man held a bamboo board, blocked the child on the bed, and hit the child more than a hundred times in more than 4 minutes.
The parents' words in the video show that the child was beaten because he secretly spent 7,000 yuan at home.
7,000 yuan, for a family, is not a small amount, is the parents' hard work and sweat to earn. The parents' education methods in the video are indeed irrational, but the child secretly spends 7,000 yuan at home for 8 days, and the root cause is that the child does not know how to understand that it is not easy for parents to earn money, nor does they understand the meaning of 7,000 yuan for a family. As the child's father reproached: When you use the money, how come you didn't think that this was the hard work of your parents, not the sky falling down...
Watching the video of the child being beaten up, the child's grandmother is distressed and sad, and the child's father is crying on the wall... Perhaps by establishing a correct view of money for children as early as possible, this family tragedy can be avoided.
Coincidentally, on January 12, 2018, a blogger named "An Unemployed Father Waiting for His Daughter to Return" cried bitterly on Sina Weibo: "I saved 3 million yuan with hard work, but I was stolen by my daughter and squandered." ”
His daughter is 18 years old this year. When his daughter was very young, Lao Chai divorced his wife, and he felt that he could not stand his daughter, so his requirements for her daughter were always obedient. "Don't let your daughter suffer any wrongs." In 2017, my daughter proposed to study in Canada, and Lao Chai agreed without saying a word, "I deposited 3 million yuan in this card and gave you money every month." ”
At the end of the year, Lao Chai's daughter went to Canada. A week later, Lao Chai found that the bank card was missing, and after a check, all the money had been transferred to his daughter's name. "I found that my daughter did not go to school to report, but ate, drank, and bought luxury goods every day, showing off on Weibo and in the circle of friends..."
Lao Chai pleaded bitterly with his daughter on WeChat: "If you don't return the money, I will only die, the money you spend is money with blood, and it is the father who exchanged his life for it." ”
But his daughter blacked him out.
Not only that, in recent years, teenagers have become one of the "main rewards" of online live broadcasting.
There is also news of primary school students paying huge sums of money to anchors.
There have been too many such things in recent years...
Educator Merkel said: "Money education is a compulsory course in life, the focus of children's education, just as money is the center of gravity of the family." ”
Most Chinese parents, on the other hand, seem to "talk about money", never teaching their children about money. Children who grow up in such a context not only lack the correct understanding and understanding of money, but are more likely to take detours and wrong roads on money-related issues, and even bring tragedies to themselves and their families because of money.
The first step in establishing a view of money
Let your child know where the money comes from
Lao Wang returned to his hometown for the Spring Festival, saw his 7-year-old nephew playing with an iPad, he wanted to buy a set of game skins, so Wang Jie asked for money: "Mom, I want to buy this." ”
Sister Wang refused: "So expensive, my mother does not buy it." ”
The nephew pouted and said, "Mommy is so stingy! ”
Sister Wang taught: "It is not easy for my mother to earn some money. ”
The nephew said angrily, "Liar. ”
Sister Wang narrowed her eyes and said, "How did I deceive people, do you know how the money came from?" ”
The nephew said dismissively: "It came from the phone." ”......
The nephew said, "Isn't it?" You buy anything and swipe your phone. ”
Now many children, who have no idea where the money comes from, "money grows from trees." "The money is swiped out of the phone." "The money is taken out of the bank card."
Therefore, the first step in money education is to let children know where money comes from. There are two things that need to be done.
First: Take your kids to where you work.
The second thing: to teach children to familiarize themselves with the various types of work in society.
After doing these two things, patiently tell the child: labor can create wealth. Money is earned through hard work, and it is paid after hard work.
The second step in establishing a view of money
Let your child know that money is hard to come by
For many children, he has no idea how hard it is to earn money through labor and how much it takes to buy something.
Therefore, when educating children about money, we must plan some similar activities to let children know that money is not easy to come by. In this way, they can learn to cherish money and respect the fruits of the labor of their parents and others.
The third step in establishing a view of money
Let your child know that income is not all for themselves
Let's have a family finance democracy meeting! The whole family sat together, large and small, "What's the most important thing you want this month?" "Say what you want most. Dad said, "I want to get a fitness card." Mom said, "I want to get a beauty card." My brother said, "I want to learn Go." The sister said, "I want a phone watch." "Then the family spoke democratically, discussing whose wishes should be most satisfied this month.
Why set up such a family meeting? It is to let the child know that a person cannot completely take the income for himself, the income is to pay for the expenses of the whole family, and each of us cannot do whatever he wants for his own pleasure.
When educating children about money, we may as well design similar democratic discussion activities to make children understand that income is to pay for the expenses of the whole family, and misuse of money will affect the lives of others.
The fourth step in establishing a view of money
Let children understand that gentlemen love money and have a way to get it
In the fairy tale "A Sunny Day", a mischievous fox steals the milk of an old woman, and the old woman who is embarrassed and angry cuts off her tail and asks him to exchange it for milk.
Parents can use this story to ask their children, "Why did the old woman punish the fox and cut off his tail?" "We all know that it was because the fox stole milk that the old woman cut off the tail. Through the way of stories, plant a seed in the child's heart: stealing things is punishable.
When educating children on money, we must repeatedly emphasize through various channels - gentlemen love money and have a way to get it. Don't sell your body for money, don't lose your conscience for money.
The fifth step in establishing a view of money
Learn to give your child pocket money
Loving money is human nature, as parents we must understand that giving children pocket money is very important money education. There are three major benefits to giving children stable pocket money: it can make children have a sense of independence; it can let children learn to plan consumption; and it can cultivate the habit of living within their means.
The sixth step in establishing a view of money
Let your child understand that money is not a panacea
When you have the opportunity, you can take your child to the hospital to see, let the child know that compared with money, health is far greater than money, health is gone, and no amount of money is equal to zero.
When you have the opportunity, you can take your child to the nursing home to see, so that the child knows that no matter how rich a person is, he can never overcome time, and no amount of money can buy time back.
When you have the opportunity, you can take your child to the library to see, so that the child knows that if you don't make an effort to read books, learn knowledge, and spend more money to buy books, it is just meaningless paper.
Although money is very important, it cannot be exchanged for all the things you want, money cannot be exchanged for real family affection, money cannot be exchanged for real love, money cannot be exchanged for real friendship, money cannot be exchanged for a young body.
So we can't all rely on money.
Money is important, but if you rely too much on it, you will be controlled by it. Many people lose the most important thing in their lives because of money. Emphasizing that money is not omnipotent is to hope that children understand two truths: there are many more important things than money; even if they are not rich, they can still enjoy a lot of happiness.
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We never doubt the heart of every parent who loves their children, but when the children do things unsatisfactorily and mistakes occur, please parents can reflect on themselves in time, lead by example, correctly guide the child to develop well, and do not wait until the child is desperate for us to look back!