Although feelings are a thing that runs through with sensibility, they still need a certain rationality when operating.
Because if love is only emotional intelligence, it will be easy for people to blindly invest in it, and then produce unnecessary sacrifices, so it must be the blessing of IQ that will not let us play a tragedy when operating love.
Therefore, in a relationship, smart women will be like fish, and unwise women are struggling, in a disadvantageous position in the relationship, can only follow the rhythm of others, and can never grasp the initiative of love.
So, what is the difference between a stupid woman and a smart woman in a relationship between the sexes? There is really only one answer, and that is whether they know how to please themselves.
Smart women are mostly "selfish"
If we look closely, we will find that most of the women who can get comfortable in the relationship are selfish.
In the face of men's requests, they will not fully agree, but selectively meet;
When faced with men's giving, they will not have any guilt, but will generously enjoy men's efforts and "trouble" men;
In the face of feelings, they will not cater to or change themselves because of what men like, on the contrary, they will only be the most authentic self, and they will only do something according to their own preferences.
In this way, even in the relationship between the sexes, they are a cross-robbery existence, they are free, they are not ecstatic because of the arrival of any one person, they do not cry bitterly because of the departure of any one person, they are calm, they are selfish, they only care about their feelings, but they live happily.
Yang Xiwen once said: "A wise woman has long known that under the premise of not hurting others, going my own way is the most beautiful posture of life, and it turns out that we never have to please anyone." ”
Because of selfishness, such a woman will never be wronged herself, because she is selfish, so such a woman can achieve happiness no matter who she is with.
Stupid women are mostly "selfless"
Zhen Furong in the movie "Hua Yang" is a virtuous and virtuous person, and her husband does not have any complaints when she is not at home for a day, and she wholeheartedly takes care of the family's tea factory.
In order to win the hearts of Hua Kui, her husband Li Gongzi gambled on Zhen Furong's attitude towards himself, using Li Gongzi's kidnapping as a threat to see whether the family's tea factory was important or Li Gongzi was more important in Zhen Furong's heart.
The result was naturally that Li Gongzi won, and after Zhen Furong heard the news of his abduction, she immediately sold her family's tea factory and came to li Gongzi's city with silver tickets.
However, when Zhen Furong's dusty servants arrived, the development of all this was just a farce, and the fireworks that bloomed in the night sky were Li Gongzi and Hua Kui's parents, and she was as ridiculous as a clown.
People will not feel that they should do something to give back to each other because others are too good to themselves, and many times, when people enjoy the efforts of others to themselves, they think more of what they take for granted, this is what the other party should do, they will only become more intense.
However, stupid women do not think of this at all, in their world, feel that they must be good to men, must pay regardless of the cost, in order to get their own satisfactory results.
As everyone knows, in this relationship, the more they give, the more they can't get the love of men, because in men's hearts, the more good they are to themselves, the more they don't cherish.
Pleasing yourself and loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance
In real life, we can see that those sensible girls who are not willing to spend men's money, and even spend money for men, most of them will not be cherished by men, they are in a disadvantageous position in love, they can only be led by men's noses, and the other party's every move can affect their emotions.
And those girls who only consider their own feelings, those who are angry and want their boyfriends to coax themselves, those girls who want their boyfriends to reimburse when they buy things, can be held in the palm of their hands by men.
The reason is very simple, for the things that have been determined, most people will not spend effort to operate again, but those things that are not clear, the outcome is uncertain, in order to get a result, people will naturally spend time and energy to determine, and this itself is also a manifestation of the cost.
Therefore, when we deal with feelings, we should understand that no matter who we are with, we must know how to please ourselves, do what we are interested in, give priority to our own preferences, and will not choose to wronged ourselves because of meeting the needs of men, and we will not lose ourselves because of love.
In this way, they always remain independent, and they can also be comfortable when dealing with feelings, so they are a hazy and uncertain existence for men, and they will naturally spend their minds to care and operate.