Love is sometimes divided into "three, six, nine and so on".
Good love is a long stream; bad love is also a flash in the pan.
Love is not a one-person thing, it is a round dance of two people.
Of course, the key to how a woman can get in her relationship depends on the man's attitude.
If men love us all their lives, we will naturally be carefree like a child, and we don't need to suffer from gain and loss;
If men only pass by our lives briefly, then we will naturally not have the opportunity to experience what happiness and security are like.
Loving you for a while and loving you for a lifetime are two completely different concepts.
In a relationship between the sexes, how to judge whether a man loves you for a while or a lifetime? Let's look at 3 "small details".
When you are making unreasonable trouble, whether to tolerate or choose to criticize
I've always been this view: "The man who loves you won't reason with you, he will spoil you and get used to you." ”
When I first saw it, I still thought it was very romantic, but after carefully tasting it, I felt that it was a fallacy to put such words in the relationship between the sexes.
Just think, if we want to find a good job, will we be strict with ourselves in order to get this good job, check and fill in the gaps?
If we just want to get by, or three days of fishing and two days of drying nets, then we will not be strict with ourselves, because we know that we will not stay in the post for too long, why waste our efforts?
In the same way, love is like this.
Men who want to go on with us will tolerate us, but this tolerance is by no means bottomless, some unreasonable things, they will still criticize, not "coddling".
And the men who don't want to go down with us, they know that this relationship is a scene, it will not take long to be short-lived, if it is so short, then why bother?
When you have an argument, whether to ignore or choose to communicate
We are all independent individuals before we meet the right person.
Growing up in different family environments, experiencing different things, and contacting different people, so even if the relationship is determined, some differences are still there.
And these differences will become the fuse of two people quarreling.
The way men deal with these differences also determines whether your feelings are short-lived or long-lasting.
Some people, too, resort to cold violence.
Ignore the other party, ignore the other party, turn a blind eye to the other party, and wait until the other party can't stand this kind of mental torture, take the initiative to come to themselves to ask for peace, then this is called the turn of the page.
However, the original problem has not been solved at all, and men who take cold violence do not care about women's feelings at all, and naturally there is no deep love.
Some people take the form of communication.
Even if they have a bad temper, even if they are already very angry at the time, they still will not leave the other party aside, because they know how uncomfortable it is to be cold and violent, so naturally they are reluctant to let the other party experience such discomfort.
Two people quarrel nothing, even if it is an old husband and wife, quarrels are still inevitable, the key lies in how the other party deals with this matter.
First of all, we must take the initiative to speak out what we are saying today, tell each other, and communicate with each other well.
Second, let's see if the two people have a misunderstanding and whether they can solve this problem.
Feelings cannot be solved by being able to endure, and the cold violence of one person ignoring the other person is the easiest to collapse feelings.
When you face the future, whether to be comfortable or choose to be self-motivated
When we choose the other half, do we have to ask the other party to have a car and a house and money?
The ultimate solution to this problem lies with the man himself.
Houses and cars are very expensive things, most of us are ordinary people, it is impossible to say that you can buy them at once.
And at the age of about twenty-five, most of them are just graduated, they do not have much savings, and it is impossible for everyone to have a house and a car.
So, we have to focus on men.
If a man loves us, then he will strive to build a reliable material foundation for our future.
Even if there is no car and no house at the moment, they are self-motivated, they will work hard, they will try to save money, to make us feel that there will be bread, everything will be.
Such people want to go down with us, and they want to give us a stable future and give us a visible future with their own efforts.
Bing Xin once said: "Love is on the left, love is on the right, walking on both sides of the road of life, sowing seeds at any time, blossoming at any time, and embellishing this path for a long time." ”
Good love will give us a sense of solidity, and will not panic because of gains and losses. In this way, those of us who wear branches and leaves, even if we know that there will be thorns in the future, will not feel that this is a painful thing.