What men crave from women is never love, but these

We all think that what men crave most from women is love, after all, love can provide good emotional value to people and can make people look forward to it.

In fact, we think of gender relations too simply.

The state of things at different stages of development is different, the corresponding ways of taking are also different, and the relationship between the sexes is the same.

In the initial stage of two people together, the man craves love indeed, after all, the most important basis of feelings at this time is freshness and attraction.

With the passage of time, the novelty fades, and the contradiction begins to appear, at which time the two people will feel how the relationship has become so difficult, and why there will be endless quarrels.

In fact, this stage is like an eight-hundred-meter long run, the most difficult is 500-600 meters, the legs are like lead, breathing difficulties make it impossible to exert strength, and even want to give up.

But as long as it survives, it will be a victory, and so will love, and when all the contradictions are resolved and this stage is overcome, true happiness will come.

Therefore, in a relationship between the sexes, what men most desire from women is never love, but these.

When a conflict occurs, you can calmly communicate and communicate

Before seeing a netizen say that he finally gave up the love he has always insisted on, not suddenly, but accumulated day after day, it is enough disappointment.

The girlfriend's temper is not good, so many times she will argue with herself because of a trivial matter, and she is also trying to let each other and coax each other.

But sadly, the girlfriend will delete her contact information when she is angry, without giving herself the opportunity to explain, and she will communicate with the other party bitterly, and the other party will ignore it.

In this way, the person who has always been soft on netizens, but always take the initiative will one day be tired.

Therefore, on the day of the breakup, netizens felt that a stone in their hearts had landed.

Leo Tolstoy said in "On Art": "People use language to convey ideas to each other, and people use art to convey feelings to each other." ”

Feelings need to be communicated, and most of the love that ends in tragedy is caused by poor communication, after all, it does not erupt in silence, and it perishes in silence.

After the quarrel, the men are not afraid to coax, they are afraid that the other half will not give themselves the opportunity to solve the problem at all, only blindly obey the soft bow.

After a long time, no one will want to continue to hold on to such a relationship.

It is the ability to empathize with oneself when you are sad

We hope that there will be someone in this world who can pierce their own masks, and at a glance they can penetrate their own self after our masks, which is strong in disguise, and who does not care about being strong.

Yes, we crave warmth, we long for someone who understands our vulnerability, and we long even more for someone who can give warmth to themselves.

We also long for someone to walk side by side with ourselves, to let ourselves know that we are not alone, not alone, and that we have a lover who has always accompanied us.

We want that, and men naturally want it.

Psychologist Rogers said: "The so-called empathy ability is an ability to put yourself in the position of others, so as to achieve the ability to feel and understand the emotions of others." ”

Only when we can truly understand the feelings of others can we know what the other person is thinking when facing the same problem;

When faced with unpleasant things, whether the other party is really as indifferent as it seems, or is it just a disguised strength.

It is that at any time, we can grow together

The most essential purpose of lovers together is to hope that two people can enter each other's world and explore new areas, problems and characteristics together.

The same thing can make people feel as boring as a pool of stagnant water, you know, the foundation of love is inseparable from freshness and attractiveness.

And if a woman is stagnant in a relationship, slowly, the gap between the two people will open, the freshness of the woman will fade, the attraction will be gone, and the feelings will be in jeopardy.

Men don't want such a situation to arise, after all, when they were together, they were not towards the purpose of breaking up, they wanted the two people to be together all the time.

Therefore, men hope that when they are moving forward, women should also move their own steps, keep pace with themselves, to feel the beauty of the world, to learn more interesting things.

Host Yang Lan once said such a sentence: "The so-called love is to constantly improve themselves, the other party also keeps improving, and then the two people are attracted to each other again." ”

We hope to be able to love for a long time, to put it bluntly, it is actually like this, constantly improving ourselves, and constantly falling in love with the same person.

In this way, they are interdependent and grow together. In this way, you can achieve and have a long-lasting love.