When I asked for it, these three words felt so arbitrary and unreasonable at first glance.
Most of the hospitality Chinese does not like to owe, and feels that the sense of indebtedness will make people very uncomfortable, rather than trouble others, it is better to support themselves.
I'd rather work a little harder than cause trouble for others.
In the field of philosophy, however, we can see that contradictions can be transformed into each other under certain conditions.
That is to say, nothing is absolute, there is no absolute good, there is no absolute bad, we need to look at the problem with dialectical unified thinking.
Of course, we should be more like this for love, and we should be more rational.
Sometimes, some requests are not unreasonable, but based on liking each other, and these requests also reflect a person's deep feelings.
Therefore, we also need to observe what feelings are behind a person's request.
In the relationship between the sexes, the boy takes the initiative to make three requests, which is actually to remind you: he really loves you.
The man takes the initiative to ask you to remember to message him when you are free
Love is truly a magical thing, it can make a brave person timid, can make a timid person brave, and can make a person who doesn't care about anything become indecisive.
One day is not seen, such as every three autumns.
When a man falls in love with a woman, it will be such a state.
Kaori Once said: "The mutual attraction between people is not because of personality and appearance, but because of air. It is the air that a person emits towards his surroundings, and I believe that there is such an animalistic thing. ”
Because you can't see each other, you will miss each other in your heart;
Because I miss it in my heart, I want to contact the other person.
But the man also knows that in the adult world, liking is wanton, love is restraint, and he can't delay the person he loves to do her thing because of his own affairs.
But the deep thoughts in the depths of the heart should always have a way to solve them.
Therefore, they will ask women to contact themselves when they are not busy, must reply to their messages, and must not ignore themselves.
Love itself is not so vigorous, but it is just the details of daily life, bit by bit constituting a bland romance with human fireworks.
Men take the initiative to ask you not to be cold and violent after the argument
In a relationship, what makes people envious is not those couples who have not quarreled all their lives, but those who can still quarrel for a lifetime;
In a relationship, the fear is not two people arguing, but after the quarrel, no one pays attention to anyone, and the things that make two people unhappy are stranded in such an atmosphere.
Cold violence is a terrible thing, it does not require a single soldier, it can make people indifference and disregard, one after another to consume each other's feelings.
For those who love us, it is not allowed for two people who love each other to be unable to go to the end because of these things.
Daniel, author of "Emotional Intelligence." Gorman said: "The degree of comfort you make people determines the height you can reach. Sometimes we can't tell whether we are close or far, which makes both sides very stiff, and this situation shows that our psychological boundaries are not clear enough. ”
And men naturally know what kind of mental harm cold violence will bring to people, so when they face contradictions and disputes, they will definitely put the problem on the table.
Of course, they will also ask women to do this, to speak their hearts out, rather than endure.
Many things, many problems, only by speaking out can we find a solution, and can we get closer and closer to happiness.
Men take the initiative to ask you not to be reckless when you are wronged
Yingge in the TV series "Hua XuYin" is a female killer, and her twin sister Jinque is a little girl who does not understand the world.
The Emperor liked the Golden Sparrow, but the King did not want the Golden Sparrow to go to the palace, so he let the identical-looking warbler song enter the palace instead of the Golden Sparrow.
Yingge's personality is very independent, his arm was accidentally twisted, and the severe pain was unbearable for ordinary people, but Yingge endured it, which made the emperor very distressed.
He told Yingge that the pain must be shouted out, and when he is unhappy, he must also say it, don't hold it in his heart, he will be distressed.
And this is the true thought that a man can embody when he loves a woman.
They hope that women can rely on themselves, and they do not want women to choose to tolerate when they are wronged, which will make them feel sad and feel very incompetent.
In relationships, people who are really good to us, they will empathize and compare their hearts, they will think of themselves as if they were us, put themselves in our shoes and think for us.
And people who only hypocritically say, "I'm here for your own good," they just want to assimilate us and get close to him.