Many women think that by holding a man's economy, they are holding a man's heart. Men are willing to spend money on themselves, that is, they are single-minded about themselves.
As everyone knows, a person is willing to spend money for you, does not mean that he must love you. Love or not love, in itself, is a feeling, when you start to "do not spend money on you" to verify "do not love you", it is easy to find all kinds of evidence.
But at the same time, it is easy to ignore the fact that men love you or not, money cannot fully prove it, and men love you or not, which is reflected in your daily life.
I have seen a woman who is very willing to spend money for her before marriage, and after marriage she controls most of the man's economy. But the man still carried her on his back and had extramarital feelings.
She had always wondered why men would betray her if they were willing to give her money. Only concerned with controlling money, she ignores the emotional changes between two people in life, missing the best time to save feelings and perceive crises.
At a time when men's attitudes changed and became increasingly cold, she firmly believed that men were the most loved by men by handing over their salaries to themselves on a monthly basis.
In fact, if we want to see a person clearly, we have to look at the lowest point of human nature. Rather than trying to spend his money, it is simpler, more accurate, and more direct than trying to spend his money.
His attitude when you do something wrong
When people are alive, all kinds of problems will arise. People are not machines, and to take a step back, machines also have times when they fail.
The same is true in marriage, where mistakes are inevitable. We may go into all sorts of situations and make some mistakes. Big, small, light, heavy.
When you do something wrong, the man's attitude is how much he loves you. Men who don't love you will keep blaming and even turning over old accounts afterwards.
At the same time, he will not help you to solve it, but will watch your jokes from the sidelines, and stand by like strangers. It may also hit you verbally, causing you to lose confidence and think that you are worthless.
And the man who loves you, even if he will be angry at the mistakes you make, he will take care of your emotions more. Instead of blindly blaming and complaining, it will help you analyze the problem with a peaceful attitude after the fact.
And when things are going in a bad direction, the first thing he does is to see what he can do to help and what he can do to alleviate the crisis.
After things are resolved or calmed down, he will also care about your emotions, help you solve them, and do not leave pressure and shadows in your heart.
His attitude when you encounter difficulties
In fact, to judge a person's love, we can't just look at the surface, we can't just listen to a few sweet words and faint, but we have to look at the actual actions of men when encountering difficulties.
Zhang Anren and Nansun in "Flowing Golden Years" have already begun to talk about marriage, but when the Nansun family has an accident and is in debt, his attitude is indifferent.
When Nansun's family was homeless, Nansun offered to let his parents temporarily live in the house rented by the two of them.
Without the slightest hesitation, Zhang anren chose to refuse, on the grounds that if he did so, he would be approached by the creditor, dangerous and affect his reputation.
The icing on the cake is far worse than sending charcoal in the snow. In good times, it is better than a bowl of porridge when it is down.
If the man in the marriage can only share the same happiness and suffering with you, then the relationship is on the clouds, shaky and unrealistic.
Everyone's life can not be smooth, there will always be some dark times, at this time there is a person who can support the companionship, in order to climb out of the trough faster.
His attitude when you have a dispute
When a man is in a good mood, you are his baby, and when a man is in a low mood, you become his punching bag. Such a man does not really love you, but really loves himself.
His mood is a barometer of your feelings, and your emotions will not affect him. Such feelings are out of balance.
Wherever there are people, there will be differences of opinion. The closer two people are, the more problems they have to face and deal with.
If you want to judge a man's attitude towards you, see his true heart, you can see his attitude when he argues with you.
I had a friend who had a fight with my boyfriend because of trivial matters in life. The two of you said a word to me, and the friend was really angry and cried out.
The friend thought that the boyfriend would be distressed, but he did not expect that he did not care at all, or blindly talked about how reasonable he was. Seeing that her friend did not take the initiative to be soft, he actually opened a cold violence against her.
A person's quarrelsome attitude truly reflects his inner feelings. The person who is willing to be cold and violent to you, who is willing to say break up with you, he really doesn't love you that much.
For measuring feelings with money, it is a method, but it is not so tried. In high probability, men who are willing to spend money on you may not necessarily love you; men who are not on your dime must not love you.
The love thing can be truly felt, and a person's attitude towards you can be seen in his heart. A lot of love is to fall into the details of life.
Choose a man, look at the character, see if you can accept the lowest place.
Men can not be romantic, but they must be responsible; men can not make a lot of money, but they must be able to afford to raise a family; men can not be strict with their wives, but they must be the ones in marriage who know cold and know hot...
People in this life, will meet a lot of people, if the other party does not care so much about you, do not fall deeper and deeper. One day, you will meet the right person, a person with your eyes full of you.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]