Life comes and goes, where is the coming and going?
Life is a one-way journey with no return, so every day in life is particularly precious.
We cannot extend the length of life, but we can extend the width of life.
Sober women and confused women live different lives, and the sooner a woman sees through these three things in her life, the better:
01, the pattern is more important than the value of the face
Yu Dan once said: The key to growing up lies in establishing a life pattern for yourself.
If a woman is compared to a pomegranate seed, different patterns will have different endings:
Planted in a pot, the highest can only grow to half a meter;
Planted in a large water tank, it can grow to more than a meter high;
Planted in an unrestricted courtyard, it can grow up to four or five meters.
Women with large patterns will give themselves more room for growth and more spiritual nourishment.
On the contrary, women with small patterns will draw the ground as a prison and make their lives worse and worse:
Narrow-minded, entangled with rotten people and rotten things, and as a result, a lifetime of self-suffering;
Refined egoists, who end up destroying their social circles;
Short-sighted and opinionated, the result is that good opportunities slip away in vain.
People with small patterns are often "poor-minded", they only pay attention to the immediate, so they will depreciate themselves or even scrapped.
Pattern is much more important than a woman's appearance, emotional intelligence, and IQ.
Empty-looking women can only be like vases, which will shatter when touched; And a woman who only relies on double business may be exquisite.
But without the overall situation, I don't know where the road is, and it is still difficult to go far; Only a woman with a big pattern can forge ahead in the fog.
Enlarge your pattern in order to live as the great heroine of life.
Not trapped in things, not trapped in people.
02, "girlishness" has nothing to do with age
The word "age" has always been a topic of close attention for women.
Women are afraid of getting old, but the years are fair, she will pace in front of everyone with the same pace, the difference is that some people will "get old" with the years, while some people will live younger and younger.
"Youthfulness" and "girlishness" have nothing to do with age.
Some time ago, there were two Internet hot words, one is "middle-aged girls" [although it is the age of a teenager, but the daily life habits have appeared "first old symptoms"] and the other is "middle-aged greasy women".
It is also a description of the state of "aging", but "middle-aged girls" are talking about aging before aging, and this "oldness" is the loss of curiosity, passion, innocence and courage in life.
Corresponding to this kind of premature aging, there is also a kind of anti-aging growth, out of half a life, and returning is still a "girl".
Such goddesses of frozen age abound:
Ariel Lin, 35 years old, is still as playful and cute as a child, and there is no sense of violation when she dresses up as Ala Lei.
Zhang Shaohan, 36 years old, is like a blooming pure white jasmine flower, and her people and songs have more charm under the precipitation of the years.
40-year-old Yuan Quan, light and elegant, has reached the age of standing, still not half greasy, clean and spotless.
Their preservation secret lies in their inner self-confidence and external self-discipline.
On the one hand, use a positive and sunny attitude to cope with the challenges in life, on the other hand, live regularly, live exquisitely, and never be too willful and indulgent.
Another important point of girlishness is that there is no age limit. At all times, there is something to love and be true to what you love.
Years never defeat beauty, 30-year-old women have 30-year-old beauty, 40-year-old women have 40-year-old charm.
If the heart is young, you will not grow old.
If the heart grows old, you will no longer be young.
03, pleasing others is not as good as pleasing yourself
What is the greatest responsibility of a person?
Zhou Guoping said: Among all the responsibilities in the world, the most fundamental responsibility is to truly become yourself and live out your unique personality and value.
For women, the same is true.
A woman's life is not to live for others, but for herself, and it is better to please others than to please herself.
Yang Lan once interviewed Yu Yu, the founder of Dangdang.com, and one of the conversations was thought-provoking.
Yang Lan: "Where is your least confident place?"
Yu Yu: "Looks." ”
Yang Lan: "Why do you become more confident, more temperamental and radiant as you get older?"
Yu Yu: "Accept yourself." ”
Indeed, accepting yourself is the first step to pleasing yourself.
How can a person who does not accept himself appreciate himself? Only by letting go of the mustard about yourself, not inferiority, not demanding, not covering up, can you find your own shining point.
In order to maintain a relationship, women put all their happiness in it, and repeatedly give up their own needs and wishes.
However, the relationship between people is unpredictable, and there is always a day when the relationship between lovers, husband and wife, and parent-child relationship is discordant or broken. Once something goes wrong in a relationship, the more you give, the easier it is for happiness to fall apart.
Therefore, Aristotle said, "What can be tempered in this life should only be self-sufficient happiness." If you don't reach such a state, your pain will never be saved. ”
Pleasing oneself, the happiness of self-sufficiency does not change with changes in the outside world.
Only those who are pleasing to themselves deserve the happiness of the highest sense of life.
Pleasing oneself is the high match of life!