Men's way of thinking is rational, which means that they may not have as strong emotions as women express in a relationship.
According to this, some people think that a man may love someone, but if he thinks about the other person all the time, I am afraid that it is a difficult thing.
In fact, many things are not either/or, as long as some methods are used correctly, problems that seem difficult to solve will actually have solutions.
In a relationship between the sexes, the way to get a man to think of you all the time is very simple.
Don't stick to each other twenty-four hours a day
Andy in the TV series "Ode to Joy" never clings to each other twenty-four hours a day when he is in love with Bao Yifan.
When she works, when she reads, and when she exercises, she will concentrate on doing her own things, and only when she is not busy and when she has nothing to do will she take the initiative to say a word or two to Bao Yifan.
The rest of the time, it was Bao Yifan who took the initiative to find Andy.
Strangely, this "cold treatment" method did not have any bad impact on their feelings, but made Bao Yifan stick more to Andy.
This is because love is a game, one person is responsible for clinging to people, then another person will be responsible for high cold, which is symbiotic.
When women choose the way of cold treatment, then the corresponding natural of men will be clingy.
Love should not be too enthusiastic, it needs to be a little indifferent, too enthusiastic will accelerate the loss of freshness, will make each other's love into a bottleneck period, as Mich once said a sentence -
"Everyone needs an independent space to digest love, and sticking together will only make love stagnate and eventually stillborn."
Don't give to men at any cost
We always feel that if we love someone, it is best to pay at any cost and at all costs, so that we can make a relationship go smoothly.
When we express the theory through practice, we will find that in fact, paying at any cost is only a role of psychological comfort.
We give a lot, and what we get is nothing more than what men take for granted.
We are called to come, to go, only when the other party needs to be actively remembered, other times is "there is no bell, nothing summer to welcome spring."
In a relationship between the sexes, the idea of desperately giving for love, while it may seem great, is actually just a deep narcissism.
We think that how much we have paid for love should be touching the heavens, but we never think that everything we do is just touching ourselves.
We don't see each other's real existence, we are just giving to ourselves, and our payment is out of our own needs, not necessarily the needs of lovers.
Besides, when a woman gives 100 percent to a man, then what she gets is the man's attitude of taking it for granted.
There is a kind of person in this world that will not be cherished, and this kind of person is those who have always been good to themselves.
Too blind love will make the loved one forget the way they are, so when a woman deals with feelings, she should not have the idea of giving at all costs.
To keep the other person's needs in a state of semi-fullness, that is to say, to selectively give and meet.
Don't stay where you are
I remember when I was young, I especially liked to play Plants vs. Zombies, and the first thing I did every day when I came back from school was to stay in front of the computer and start thinking about what kind of strategy I should adopt for the level I was going to pass today.
At that time, it was mostly some puzzle games, and defense games such as plants vs zombies were very novel.
Later, more interesting games emerged, but the original version of Plants vs. Zombies was still old graphics, rough texture, and no change in the level strategy.
I'm already familiar with this game, but without any innovation, it won't remind me of it anymore.
A thing or a person, if you are already familiar with it, then you will not take the initiative to mention it, because people will take the initiative to pour their attention into things that they do not understand or know.
Therefore, in the relationship between the sexes, if you want men to think about themselves all the time, you need to constantly grow yourself and don't stay in the same place.
Among them, the best way to grow up is to "please yourself", that is, to enjoy yourself, not to focus all your attention on one person, but to pay more attention to yourself.
For us, "pleasing ourselves" may be a long exploration, and perhaps we don't know how to be happy with ourselves, and what kind of self-pleasing is meaningful.
But it doesn't matter, if we don't know how to start pleasing ourselves, we might as well look at Liang Wendao's advice - "Reading some useless books, doing useless things, and spending some useless time are all in order to reserve an opportunity to surpass ourselves outside of everything we already know." ”
The seemingly remarkable changes in life actually come from such moments.