Text/Zinc Shou
Recently, I saw a popular question:
"What does a boy who can spoil you for a long time look like?"
And in almost all the answers, there is a point that mentions: having the ability to make people feel happy all the time.
At first glance, it seems simple, but not many people can do it, the beginning is always beautiful, and the ending is always regrettable.
In Spirited Away, there is a saying that goes like this: "What has come to an end, rebirth is only another demise." Like all beginnings, it's really just a written ending. ”
Just like at the beginning, Jia Nailiang fell in love with Li Xiaolu at first sight and spoiled the other party as a little princess, but Jia Nailiang's inferiority and unilateral love in his heart were more, so that his love for Li Xiaolu was bottomless, and then for many years, he constantly consumed his love for Li Xiaolu, until finally breaking up.
On the other hand, the love between Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu still has the same tacit understanding at first sight, from campus to marriage until the day of white head, the goodness to Qian Zhongshu is in every meal that Yang Dai cooks, the whispered comfort when in pain, and the uninterrupted letters after separation.
In love, everyone you meet is like writing the ending, some people will be lost in the middle of the road, and can only spoil you for a while, while some people can go all the way to the white head and spoil you for a lifetime, just like Yang Dai said: "From now on, we will never be born and separated, only death."
And the boy who can spoil you for a long time can often be seen from before marriage.
01.
respect
Li Changqi wrote in "The Tale of the Mandarin Duck in the Afterword of The Cut Lamp":
"The husband cultivates in the front, the wife cultivates in the back, and we share weal and woe", which is a model of respect for each other and is also the best state for the two people to get along in marriage.
The essence of respect is respect, only mutual respect for love, in the long river of years can not forget the original heart, such behavior can actually be seen from the love.
In "Ode to Joy", when Bao Yifan fell in love with Andy, Bao Yifan bluntly expressed his heart, but he would choose to respect Andy's choice when the other party said not to get married. After the fight, the two will apologize to each other, understand each other's emotions, and tell each other the truest thoughts.
In fact, respecting each other's ideas and not imposing their own ideas on each other is and Andy's reason for choosing Bao Yifan.
Such examples in life are not uncommon, when faced with different ideas, they will tell each other's ideas and then make decisions; when faced with things they do not want to say, they will choose to respect each other's meaning and will not investigate further.
However, some behaviors will make people feel disrespectful, even when faced with the choice of what to eat, they will directly choose according to their own ideas, not to mention the big decision, and will not discuss with each other, at best, there is their own independent ideas, otherwise they do not respect each other.
Two people who respect each other in love can get along more harmoniously, even if they enter marriage, most of them will be in a state of respect for each other.
So, when you meet a boy who respects you like this, you should know that he can spoil you for a long, long time.
02.
Short-term protection
"Liking is unjustified short-sightedness and subconscious preference."
In psychology, there is a "endowment effect": it means that once a person owns an object, the value of the object will be greatly improved than before.
When self-awareness determines that the other person has established a connection with himself, a protective mechanism is established.
In "Ode to Joy", when Bao Mu talked about Andy to Bao Yifan, she said countless times that Andy was a fox spirit, and Bao Yifan said directly to Bao Mu: "When you insult Andy, it is equivalent to insulting your son, and Andy is particularly important to me" and told the other party to respect Andy.
Bao Yifan, who protects the short, subconsciously equates the other party with himself, has won Andy's heart in the TV series, and also won the heart of most girls in reality.
In life, when some people face others bullying their loved ones, they will directly rush to protect each other, and even disregard their own safety, just like Xiao Bei in "Young You" will confront Zhou to protect Chen Nian and let him not bully Chen Nian.
There are also some people, when faced with insults to their loved ones, choose to swallow their anger and blame the other party for causing trouble. When you are in love, the boy who can't protect each other is the one who can't love you for a long time.
Subconsciously, they do not put each other into their own area, do not have a desire to protect, and will not spoil a person.
When a boy has a protective behavior towards you all the time, then the other party will definitely love you for a long time.
03.
In love, some people are spoiled as princesses and have their own knights, while others are alone.
In "Partial Pampering", Meng Ting's side has a knight named Jiang Nin, this knight is not gentle, not gentlemanly, not elegant, but always accompanies her when she needs it most, and cuts thorns for her, does his best for it, and does everything for her.
When a boy will want to spoil you, nothing more than not want to lose you, want to live a good life with you, will be in the face of things is to respect your ideas, in the heart you will always be the first, no one can bully.
However, a boy does not want to live with you for a lifetime, just wants you to be in a short relationship, and will not show respect and protection for you, but will only focus on himself.
Treat each other as you treat yourself, and boys who know how to respect and protect their shortcomings will only spoil you more and more, not just talk.
So, if you can meet a boy like this, you're going to be happier for the rest of your life.
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