Author: Original
I had a phone call with my family a few days ago, and suddenly found that there was an inertia between people and liked to compare. In fact, we are looking for life in other places, and there are few examples around us, perhaps not as strong as at home. People's lives may be spent in comparison between people, but the concentration is different, more or less.
Comparison is the psychology that most of us will have, such as: appearance, economic ability, husband and wife feelings, children, etc., no matter what age, what kind of people, in different life circles, different life classes, will form a corresponding circle. Such blind comparison will only reduce your happiness.
Everyone yearns for the beautiful, the pursuit of perfection, hope that their children, husbands, wives are not worse than others, over time, the people and things around them will selectively remember and judge, habitual numbers, accusations, lack of real to find the beauty and advantages of the people around them, so that life adds a lot of unnecessary quarrels and contradictions.
Try to look at each other with an appreciative eye, identify with each other, tolerate each other, understand each other, support each other, to nourish each of our families, will make life more harmonious, more laughter. Everyone is an independent individual, and everyone has their own unique way of thinking and behavior. At the moment of entering marriage, I think probably everyone has thought about it, willing to tolerate all the shortcomings of the other party, willing to make progress together, and create their own small family together.
In this materialistic society, the union of marriage has been attached too many shackles, and the essence of marriage has become no longer pure. When choosing the age of marriage, when identifying the other party, your values should be very clear, there are clear evaluation standards, and you can evaluate, attitude and reflect things based on your own evaluation criteria. In other words, know what you want, what your goals are, and be dissatisfied.
And when the marriage reaches a certain period, why will there be a lot of unnecessary quarrels and contradictions. Most will be affected by the environment, the influence of circles, leading to a lack of their own judgment. If there is anything that can subtly affect people, it is the environment, and people cannot survive alone without society. It should not be overlooked that the environment creates people (changing thinking), circles change people (changing behavior), and behavior creates results.
Some people say that "a wife is good for others", in fact, when you look at other people's wives, others will also think that your wife is excellent, virtuous, beautiful, generous, has your own personality thinking, etc. You know, no one in this world is perfect, women will always show the best side at the moment before going out, the real actual life, is precisely with each other's shortcomings to live a lifetime, life is more understanding and tolerance, mutual progress, common growth.
Life is a cultivation, destined to experience ups and downs and experience the vicissitudes of life. We have heard the stories of others and are walking our own path, and you will find that whose life is not half bright and half sad? Whose life is not half sober and half confused? There is always unspeakable pain in life.
Life always has many faces, when you choose a beautiful woman, you have to accept her consumption; when you choose a sensual woman, you have to accept her love romance; ... And vice versa. When you choose to like this side of her, you must learn to accept the other side of her, everything has two sides, know how to empathize, and perhaps what you have in your hands is what others envy and desire for a long time.
The so-called youth is more than achievement, youth is better than partner, middle age is better than status, old age is more than property, and old age is better than children. In life, there are too many truths that linger in the ears, and many of them sound simple and easy to understand, but there are very few that can really be done. Life is our own after all, we always like to make comparisons with others in many things, torture ourselves with other people's standards, and make ourselves very tired.
Life has thousands of tastes, sour, sweet, bitter, spicy, salty and fresh, suitable for their own is the best. Life is only two days, day and night, day and night exchange, the days are endless, we can waste time, but we can't waste life. We can waste time on things we love, but we can't get stuck in a lifestyle we hate. In addition to life, old age, illness and death, there are actually few things that are really important in life, everyone has everyone's way of life, everyone has everyone's wonderful, and their own comfort is the most important.
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