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As a child, I saw many stories similar to the prince and Cinderella:
The rich and handsome man who was born is the end, and he does not love Bai Fumei who is in line with his own door, but loves a girl with ordinary looks, ordinary education, ordinary birth, and even ordinary work and income.
Perhaps because of his young age and insufficient IQ, he had a fondness for similar idol plots at that time.
As I get older, I don't like the story of the domineering president and Cinderella more and more, because it is a plot that is diametrically opposed to reality.
The story of the domineering president and Cinderella is equivalent to the story of the poor scholar and the famous bridesmaid, and the clear-eyed people can see at a glance that it is just "chicken soup" to appease the weak, and Mr. Lu Xun calls it the A Q spirit.
It can bring you spiritual pleasure, but if you take it seriously, it will turn into poisonous chicken soup.
Recently, it has been found that the audience of "poisonous chicken soup" has been spreading continuously in recent years, from the little girl who did not do anything at the beginning to the middle-aged women group.
Those "magical" TV series that please middle-aged women
TV series want ratings, and pleasing the audience can get the desired results.
The little girl who had time to chase the drama in the past few years, and the middle-aged women who are now holding mobile phones to chase the drama are their targets.
01 The full-time wife is abandoned and meets the president
"The First Half of My Life" tells the story of a second-married woman and a domineering president.
Full-time wife Luo Zijun has been married for many years and has never gone out to work, her life is shopping, drinking afternoon tea, and sending circles of friends.
The appearance of the third party, Ling Ling, broke the trajectory of her happiness: forced to divorce, with nothing, from the rich wife to the cabinet sister.
Her life suffered Waterloo, but this was not a curse but a blessing, because she was loved by the domineering president He Han.
He Han's fiancée Tang Jing is Luo Zijun's girlfriend for many years, she is highly educated, temperamental, successful in her career, and is a high-quality woman in the true sense.
But our domineering president does not love his fiancée, who is excellent in all aspects, but prefers Luo Zijun, who has been divorced and has given birth to children.
He Han is the dream of thousands of women, if you have to pick someone to match him, it must be Tang Jing.
But the TV series did the opposite, turning the rich and handsome in the industry into a person who tried his best to be a stepfather to others.
02 Housewives are widowed and loved by "upstarts"
The comments of "Heart Residence" are polarized, some people think it is very beautiful, and some people feel that the three views are not correct and cannot be seen.
The heroine Feng Xiaoqin is a foreigner, uneducated, can not make any money, can only change her fate by marrying someone.
She constantly forced her husband to examine and buy a house, and saw that the hope of buying a house was ahead, but the death of her husband made everything a bubble.
After the death of her husband, she suffered a lot, and finally she finally lived the life she wanted.
The TV series is slightly adapted, and in the original work, Feng Xiaoqin can be called a winner in life, although the family is poor, at the age of 15, she gave birth to an illegitimate child, a middle-aged widow, and a baby alone, but she finally married Zhan Xiang, a local tycoon with several properties under her name.
How bad she was before, how happy she was afterwards.
But in real life, this kind of thing can not happen at all, a Shanghai indigenous man who has several properties, it is impossible to marry a divorced foreign woman who has given birth to children, not to mention that this man is still unmarried, he has too many choices.
A middle-aged woman brainwashed by "poisonous chicken soup"
I once saw a woman complaining about her husband on a post bar, although he earned 30,000 a month, he did not understand romance and never did housework.
As a full-time wife, she was very dissatisfied with her husband and even had the idea of divorce.
Most of the men in the comment area are persuasive and non-persuasive, and their comments are similar to this: "In the case of him having no other problems, it is best not to divorce, because men with a monthly income of 30,000 are really difficult to find." ”
But women's comments are completely opposite, not only do they find it boring to live with men who don't understand the style, but they also think that after divorce, they may be able to find better.
One of the women put it this way: "If you find a man who earns 50,000 a month after divorce, who will you talk to?" ”
A man retorted to her: "Aren't you dreaming?" School flower Fan Shengmei can't find a man with a monthly income of 50,000, do you think a divorced woman with children can find it? ”
The woman is not willing to show weakness: "You also know that taking the TV series as an example, Luo Zijun's current can be several grades higher than his predecessor." ”
I was very surprised, they are no longer little girls, as middle-aged women in their 30s, they should have the eyes to see through reality and mature minds, how can they be so naïve and naïve?
Where do they come from to believe that a man with an annual income of 600,000 will marry a middle-aged woman with children in a second marriage?
A divorced woman awakened by reality
I once did an online interview with a "divorced woman", and of the 30 divorced women interviewed, only two or three had a better life than before, and the premise was that their husbands were either Mombao or Phoenix.
As for other women, they have not found a good home after divorce, and even if they remarry, their lives are not satisfactory, because the second-married couple will have conflicts of interest, such as they have their own children.
On the surface, the wind and waves are calm, and the love is intimate, but in private they all have their own small calculations.
Some second-married women have also participated in various blind dates in order to find a good home, and they find that there are only two kinds of men who are willing to accept them, the first is a second-marriage man with average conditions, and the second is an unmarried man with poor conditions.
In real life, any man with some conditions will not marry a woman with children, even if he himself is second married.
Being older, divorced and having children, these disadvantages are fatal to a woman.
"Men who truly love you will not care about your conditions and past."
I'm sorry, but this idea only exists in idol dramas.
The Key to a Woman's Good Life: Rejecting "Poisonous Chicken Soup"
Put an end to "poisonous chicken soup" and do three things.
First, be rational
Pope once said, "Reason is the compass, desire is the storm." ”
The compass can point you in the right direction, while storms will only get you back.
If a woman loses her rationality, her steps will become messy, and going out of the way will create a tragic life.
There is no doubt that poisonous chicken soup is the initiator of the destruction of female rationality.
Maintaining absolute rationality can prevent the erosion of poisonous chicken soup, so as to plan your life with a clear mind.
Instead of being deceived by the poisonous chicken soup with two words, so as to play a good hand of cards.
Second, face reality
Mr. Lu Xun wrote in "In Memory of Liu Hezhenjun": "A true warrior dares to face a bleak life and dare to face the dripping blood. ”
This is the posture of a brave person, and it is also the attitude of life that everyone should learn.
If a woman wants to live well, she has to face reality and change positively, rather than living in the spirit of A Q all the time and deceiving herself.
Fantasy cannot replace reality, only by changing reality can we reverse life.
Third, observe life
No matter what is said on the Internet, don't be gullible, observe the living conditions of the people around you, that is the reality.
You must always believe that what you see with your eyes and what your heart feels is true, and that what others say may be hearsay.
People who are led by the nose of others will eventually live a chicken life, and people with opinion and discernment are not easily influenced by others in order to live their own lives.
I am Shadow, an original author who focuses on the field of emotion.