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The old saying goes, "persuade and don't persuade", which is also the first thought of many people when facing contradictions.
But the members of the "Douban Persuasion Sub-Group", which gathered 270,000 users, did not think so.
Their principle has only one word: points!
The group's synopsis was simple and clear: "Don't you break up and keep it for the New Year?!" Enter the group together to persuade you to break up, the group is not persuaded to reconcile, let you make up your mind to break up! ”
I have to say that such a straightforward group profile is very hardcore.
The team members are all ready to go, as long as you post, they are ready to "go out" for you!
Persuade sub-groups
A gathering place for contemporary emotional issues
In the persuasion group, you can see the various "messy" marriage problems of contemporary young people.
The reasons for the breakup you can imagine can almost always be found here.
And there are several types of themes, as long as there are still people in the world who are in love, they will definitely appear.
Everyone has ten thousand secrets hidden in their phones
In the persuasion group, you can often see the related title of "Not alive from the boyfriend's mobile phone".
This is another girl who punctures the unbearable secret that her boyfriend hid in her mobile phone.
Someone found the evidence of infidelity in the other party's mobile phone, the man was ambiguous with other members of the opposite sex behind his back, and the so-called "only love you" was just the most unsympathetic sentence when casting the net;
There are also girls who thought that they and their boyfriends admired each other and were happy with each other, but they found that when they chatted with their brothers, they complained about their shortcomings again and again, saying that the interaction was just play;
Even more excessive even beyond the legal bottom line, the man secretly took a large number of intimate photos during the relationship, and threatened the girl when breaking up...
Modern people's mobile phones hide all kinds of little secrets that are not known.
Some secrets are just the secrets of one's own emotions, harmless; while others are like a bomb, and whoever gets closer to it hurts more deeply.
If a problem like derailment is a time bomb, then some problems are like chronic poisons that don't destroy a person in an instant, but slowly swallow a person.
PUA, the most ruthless routine of contemporary scumbags and scumbags
PUA, the "hypnotic" that makes countless people go to a nervous breakdown, is just as uncommon in persuasion groups.
Some girls have posted that their boyfriends are suppressing their academic qualifications.
She studied at a prestigious school in high school, and her undergraduate degree was also 211, but such a degree was frequently questioned by her boyfriend who studied abroad, "You actually think we are students of the same grade."
The girl politely expressed her discomfort, but was sprayed that she was too inferior and sensitive, and then continued to taunt "you are at this level in my eyes".
Similar experiences often appear in persuasion groups, but the content of "suppression" is different.
Education, looks, weight, salary, family background... These are all reasons why emotional cheaters who are skilled in PUA often use to suppress their partners.
Most of the people who contributed to this story were girls, but the persuasion group never lacked the presence of men.
The "scum" in the relationship does not distinguish between genders
There are boys who have good conditions in the eyes of the world, but they are very humble in love.
Boys provide girls with almost all the living expenses never complain, but the other party is more expensive, go to the supermarket to buy bags of milk and also ask the boys to repay the money afterwards.
He made his own "brother support demon" to let his brother eat and drink at home, but he wanted his boyfriend to bear everything and borrow money countless times.
Behind the scenes, he is ambiguous with the opposite sex, but he behaves exceptionally innocently in front of his boyfriend.
In short, in the persuasion group you can see the various forms of love and the unbearable nature of human nature, behind each of which is a person's real experience.
The daily life of persuading the group members is to "actively persuade the protagonists of these stories".
Break up master, shot must be divided
There are various posts in the persuasion group, and the breakup masters in the group also have their own style of handling.
For people with different contents, there is always a way to break up that can prescribe the right medicine and cure the disease.
The toughest grumpy faction, who doesn't agree with each other, is intimidated
There are several columns in the persuasion group, and the most irritable dispatch should be the "not yet divided" column.
The team members boldly opened the wheat, what they wanted was to wake up those team members who were deeply trapped in garbage love, but did not know how to stop losses.
Someone posted that when he saw his boyfriend and friend chatting with his girlfriend, he missed his ex-girlfriend, and he felt very uncomfortable in his heart, whether to share it.
Hot comment passion diss: "Let him fend for himself", in the final analysis, it is three words "give me points"!
Although grumpy, it is also effective, and some girls take the initiative to ask their sisters to wake up.
Compared with the directness of the grumpy faction, the gentle faction is aware of its affection and moves with reason.
The gentle faction of spring wind and rain is justified and convincing
Tell the facts and make sense, let you recognize the situation and give up your illusions.
A male team member told about his experience of being split legs, and his girlfriend took advantage of her business trip to bring home colleagues of the opposite sex, and he chose to break up in a rage, but he was sad to cry.
The comments are all supporting him, and the team members sent a large paragraph of text, saying that breaking up is the right choice and do not have to fall into emotional difficulties.
The whole process stood in the perspective of the landlord to think about the problem, and finally did not forget to encourage the parties to bravely embrace the new life.
270,000 breakup masters, all kinds of tricks.
The group members practiced the group introduction in their own way, and no scumbag could escape everyone's poisonous tongue here.
Breaking up is actually for a better life
The members of the persuasion group are not happy to watch others break up, but really want to help some people get out of the quagmire of garbage feelings as soon as possible, and do not let an inappropriate relationship hinder a good life.
One of the points that should be persuaded cannot escape, there is no need to break up, and the team members will not blindly shout to break up.
There are some posts in the persuasion group: boys are angry because they are unwilling to send a circle of friends.
The team members will be very rational analysis, the circle of friends is a very private thing, the other party has the right to choose freely.
If you can make endless noises for such small things, it will be difficult to face more big things together in the future.
In the end, everything depends on who is right, and there is no reason why the persuasion group will not be supported.
And there are some bottom lines that the persuasion group has been adhering to.
Oppose domestic violence, oppose infidelity, zero tolerance for PUA... Such values have actually helped many women correct their views on love and avoid being hurt in their relationships.
In one vivid case after another, the team members also summarized a variety of love treasures: "Love Self-Examination Manual", "Anti-PUA Manual", "Love Survival Manual"...
Many women have received real help here, and even shaped a new view of feelings.
Everyone is here to warm up, everyone is sincerely asking for help, and the people who answer also sincerely hope that the parties are better.
Emotions are a problem that we experience throughout our lives.
But persuasion grouping is like an outlet, you can learn a lot, you can also see a lot.