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Someone once said that a person who is truly rich should be rich in his heart, and it has nothing to do with whether he has money or not. In fact, sometimes it is the poverty in a person's heart that leads to the embarrassment of his life.
I remember when I first graduated, I interned at a jewelry company, and there was another little girl who joined the company with me, because the internship salary was very small, so I shared a loft on the top floor with her.
Usually in life, we are thrifty, we can buy a dollar of green vegetables, will never buy a piece of five, in order to save money in winter, we all wear thick clothes to sleep, afraid of electricity, we resolutely do not use electric heating fans.
But one day the little girl took out all the money she had saved and bought a new wool coat. I am very puzzled, usually I want to break a dollar in half to spend people, why do you have to buy such an expensive dress?
She said that she was not vain, but felt that she could work better by dressing appropriately. Sure enough, since she had that dress, she had worked very actively and was more confident. Because of her outstanding performance, she was soon promoted to assistant in the planning department.
In the past, I often did not understand why some women would rather go hungry and have to save money to buy clothes and cosmetics, until I saw the little girl who shared the house, because she was dressed properly, she had confidence, and because of self-confidence, she got a rare job opportunity.
There is an article that once wrote such a sentence: "Your appearance hides what your future looks like, and what kind of appearance you present to others determines what kind of future you have." ”
No matter how financially a woman is, don't be stingy where she should spend money, because the money you invest is likely to become an opportunity for you to turn your life around.
Therefore, no matter how poor a woman is, don't be afraid of wasting money in these aspects.
01 Buy useful books
The writer Zhou Guoping once said: "A person who has the habit of reading also has a special vision of the world, and even has a colorful world that belongs to him." ”
Reading is the fastest and most effective way for a person to change himself and improve himself, so even if you are financially tight, you must set aside the money to buy books.
I once read such a story, a famous old Chinese medicine doctor, living in the countryside when he was young, because his family was poor and he could not afford to go to school, so he was eager to learn, and every day he secretly hid under the window outside the school classroom to "steal the teacher to learn the art".
Later, he was discovered by the teacher when he was rubbing the class, and his eager spirit of learning also touched the teacher, so the teacher let him enter the classroom to listen to the class.
Because the opportunity to attend the lecture was rare, he cherished this opportunity very much, and he paid more time and effort than others, and finally caught up with the other students in the class.
Because of his hard work in reading, he also had a deep understanding of Chinese medicine and poetry, and later he became a Chinese medicine doctor, and he still did not forget to read when working. Because of his diligent study, the three children were also deeply influenced by him, and eventually admitted to graduate school and doctorate.
Recalling that year, this old Chinese medicine doctor said with emotion that it was precisely because he thought he liked to read that he walked out of the mountain and changed his fate, and also changed the fate of future generations.
The ancients once said: "Accumulating tens of millions of dollars, without reading, the family wealth is ten thousand, it is not as calm as the fragrance of books." "The family wealth is only temporary, but it is a lifetime to have poetry books in the belly."
A person, especially a woman, should read more books when she is not satisfied, because you are trapped by the dilemma, you should look for a way out, and often the way out is in the book.
02 fitting clothes
One image designer put it very well: "There is one thing more important than being pretty, and that is decency." ”
We often reduce the standard of life because of economic constraints, and we will no longer be so particular about wearing, so many people will go to the popular style, but the quality is inferior.
But when you wear such clothes on your body, you will naturally show a feeling of insecurity. Like the girl I shared with me earlier, she would rather eat simpler and spend a lot of money on a well-fitting and generous dress, just to make herself confident.
"Man relies on clothes and horses to saddle", this is absolutely true, a set of well-fitting and generous clothes is a person's façade.
As some people say, those who can dress will always have more opportunities than those who are not good at dressing themselves, because they love life, so life will naturally give back to them at the right time.
Some people are in favor of dressing comfortably and casually, but for people who are not so generous in the trough period or the economy for the time being, they should really use a little more energy to dress themselves, make up exquisite makeup, and wear appropriate clothes, which can not only add a little confidence to themselves, but also prepare for the opportunity that will come at any time.
Therefore, even if a woman lacks money, she must buy herself a few suitable clothes.
03 Timely travel
The two ways to enable people to improve quickly are to read thousands of books and travel thousands of miles.
Proper tourism will broaden your horizons, get out of the narrow circle and world of the past, you will see a broader world, and naturally your thinking and pattern will change accordingly.
This is especially important for those who are in trouble.
There is a plot in the movie "The Shawshank Redemption" in which an old man who has been imprisoned in prison for more than 50 years is a little helpless in the face of a sudden opportunity for parole, and he does not want to go out of prison at all, because he has long been accustomed to prison life, and even regards prison as his home.
In order to stay in prison, he tried to stab his fellow prisoners with a knife, but was stopped by other companions, and after he got out of prison, he really did not adapt to life outside, he wrote to his friends in prison, saying that he also thought about making another mistake and then returning to "home" again, but he was old and could not move. In the end, he was lonely and helpless and chose to leave this world.
In fact, many people in life are like this old man who is accustomed to prison life, because he is used to living day after day, so he does not have the courage to get out of the cage of the trapped self, and he does not know that in fact, the outside world is strange, but it is far better than falling into a bad comfort zone.
At the end of the movie, Red, a black man who has lived in prison for 40 years, walks out of his life of being trapped in his own life with and his encouragement, and when he goes out, he finds that life is not as bad as he imagined, and the blue sea and blue sky in front of him is a scene he has never seen before, and with Andy's light, they ushered in a new life together.
For people who are in trouble, they should go out at the right opportunity, only by going out, you can see a different world.
What can trap a person is never the external environment, but your own heart, so when you want to break the dilemma, even if you are down, don't forget to read more books, travel more, and dress yourself well.
There is hope in the heart, and there is a future in life.
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