People often ask on social networking sites: How to live this life well?
Gao Zan's answer is nothing more than around reading, self-discipline, and action.
A person's daily routine is his whole life.
How do ordinary people fight back? It is nothing more than reading when anxious, acting when confused, and self-discipline when alone.
Read when anxious
The old saying has clouds: read ten thousand books, travel thousands of miles. ”
Mr. Qian Zhongshu also once said: "If you don't read, if you travel thousands of miles, you are just a postman." ”
Beijing, Nanjing, Xi'an, these ancient capitals full of historical atmosphere, if we have not read books, then these are only strange and familiar place names in our eyes, rather than the ancient capitals that carry the thickness of history.
Three mountains and five mountains, West Lake smoke and rain, if we have not read the book, these are just the beautiful places in our memory, we can not appreciate the nature of the fascinating, let alone know the story behind these scenes.
I walked farther, I hadn't read a book, and I seemed to be just a postman.
Reading enriches our spiritual world at the same time, but also gives people a kind of ability to penetrate. A person who does not read much is inevitably narrow-minded and stuck to what is in front of him. Through reading, we are more able to see the truth of life. The Art of Living says:
People must read all the time, otherwise they will be stingy and stubborn, stubborn and vulgar, and a person's backwardness and pedantry are caused by their unwillingness to read all the time.
Read when you are anxious, in this world, there is no one who lives without troubles, only reading is the best antidote.
Act when you're confused
In zhihu, people often ask, this year is xx years old, do you want to continue to study for graduate school? Exams? Or is it that I am now less than 20 days away from the exam, and I feel that I will definitely not be able to pass the exam, should I give up?
But what about only 20 days? Now that you've already paid so much, keep up the good work. If you really can't stick with it, please leave with dignity.
In 2019, I had the privilege of interviewing a successful person, Ms. L, who admired her achievements at the age of less than 40. But just a year later, I was shocked to hear that she had left. When we met this year, we were like old friends reuniting, and naturally we talked about her current life.
"I'm very grateful for my courage in saying I just do it." She said.
It turned out that when she was in the company, Ms. L had reached the top level through years of hard work. But after the birth of the child, after undergoing the restructuring of the company, she obviously felt that the job now brought her far less than her own efforts.
So after hesitating for a while, she decided to act. He gave up his original high salary and set up his own studio. After becoming his own boss, L found that he had more places to play and more time at his disposal.
"The action really gave me a breakthrough in the bottleneck period of my career."
Action may not be successful, but it may be the only antidote to anxiety.
Introspect when alone
The "Journey to the Zen Mountains" once wrote: "The wonders and wonders of the world, the magnificence, and the extraordinary view, often lie in the dangers and distances." Finally, it was concluded that "scholars must not think deeply and cautiously".
Those who are introspective and have no choice but to ask for themselves. When we feel that there are some things that are half fifty for those who have walked a hundred steps, we must think about why we started in the first place and why we chose to retreat.
Zeng Guofan said: "Where great things are accomplished, people seek to live in half, and Providence occupies half." "In that part of Providence, we are powerless; what we can do is to grasp firmly what we can change.
Many people, after experiencing failure, will constantly complain about the unfairness of Heaven, which is useless. Perhaps a short complaint can vent the bad emotions in your heart; but after a long time, it is a waste of time.
The real strong are not necessarily successful, but they must be those who have repeatedly lost battles. Introspection is the best way to deal with failure. Life is actually a process of introspection and change.
How to live this life well? It is nothing more than reading when anxious, acting when confused, self-discipline when alone, I hope that you and I can live this life as we wish.
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