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When it comes to family conflicts, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always a hurdle that cannot be bypassed.
When it comes to the topic of childbearing, some treasures who want to have daughters will also move out such a reason: they only want to have a daughter, because they are really afraid of becoming a mother-in-law after giving birth to a son.
Although it sounds a bit exaggerated, it is undeniable that it is difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along harmoniously with each other, and compared with one-child families, many people find that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in multi-child families is often more prominent.
Aunt Li and Aunt Zhang are old colleagues who retired together, Aunt Li has only one son, and Aunt Zhang's family is a pair of twin boys.
Compared with Aunt Li, Aunt Zhang has always had a sense of superiority, saying that raising children to prevent old age, Aunt Zhang has two sons according to the old age life should be more secure, but also more happy.
But the truth is diametrically opposed, Aunt Li began a colorful old age life after completing her son's lifelong affairs, and after her daughter-in-law became pregnant and gave birth, Aunt Li also began to take care of her grandson wholeheartedly.
The mother-in-law is single-minded to the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law is naturally very filial to the mother-in-law, and although the two do not get along to the point of being as close as mother and daughter, they are also very harmonious.
Looking at Aunt Zhang's side, because the two sons are married for three years, Aunt Zhang does not have much money after paying the down payment for the new house for the eldest son, so when the younger son gets married, Aunt Zhang only bought a car, which makes the daughter-in-law feel very unfair, and the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also arises.
In addition, in the process of getting along with the two daughters-in-law, Aunt Zhang can not avoid comparing with each other, which increases the dissatisfaction of the younger daughter-in-law with the mother-in-law, and the eldest daughter-in-law does not want to offend the concubine, simply close the door to live her own life, and rarely interact with the mother-in-law.
The experience of the two elderly people also reflects the current situation of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in contemporary times, that is, in the one-child family, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may be more harmonious.
There are fewer contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in one-child families? 3 reasons that cannot be refuted
1. The old man does not compare, will be single-minded to the daughter-in-law
As the saying goes, there is no harm without comparison, and in an one-child family, because the elderly only have one daughter-in-law, they cannot criticize their daughter-in-law through comparison.
On the contrary, many elderly people expect their sons and daughters-in-law to give themselves a pension, so in the process of getting along, they will wholeheartedly be good to their daughter-in-law, if the other party is also a reasonable person, then they will get along with each other very harmoniously, even if there are usually some slight contradictions, both sides will know how to be humble and retreat.
2. In an only child family, there is no property dispute
In multi-child families, many conflicts are caused by unfair distribution between parents. For example, if there are two or more brothers in the family, then when the sons get married, once the parents are biased in the distribution of property, it is easy to usher in the dissatisfaction of the future daughter-in-law, thus laying hidden dangers for the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.
In one-child families, this situation generally does not occur. For parents, whether it is now or in the future, they will be left to their sons alone, when parents pay for their sons wholeheartedly, the daughter-in-law will naturally be very satisfied, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be very tense.
3. The only child family has "fewer people and fewer things", and the human relationship is simpler
In life, many girls who marry non-only child husbands will complain about various complex human relations, whether it is a concubine or an aunt, after getting along for a long time, there will always be such and such contradictions, and at this time, once the old man cannot do absolute fairness, then the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also easy to erupt.
However, in the one-child family, because the old man has only one son, the family atmosphere is relatively simple, and there are no large and small gatherings during the New Year's Festival, which is indeed a gospel for many social terrorists.
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