In the past, people thought that sons were passed down from generation to generation, so they tried everything they could to have sons. With the development of society, people's thinking has also undergone great changes. Some people think that the "two-daughter family" is more relaxed, the birth of a daughter does not have to prepare a bride price to each other, the cost of marrying a daughter is far lower than the cost of a son marrying a wife, and they do not have such a big economic pressure, so it is easier.
After recognizing these three major realities, you will understand why you want a man and a woman
Now the bride price is a well-known thing, and there is also a saying that the son is the Construction Bank and the daughter is the China Merchants Bank. When a son marries a wife and has children, he needs the elderly to help him, and after giving birth to a child, he must help take the child. But if the daughter is concerned, the dowry is not necessary, just the icing on the cake. Grandchildren also have time to bring, do not want to bring can also enjoy retirement.
In addition to the relatively small financial pressure of the "two-girl family", the empathy of the daughter is stronger than that of the son. It is not that the son is not filial piety, but the son is naturally not as delicate as the daughter emotionally, and the daughter will often visit her parents and care about the daily needs of her parents. Therefore, many parents think of raising two daughters, and their old age will be easier in the future.
When the two-child policy was implemented, many couples were involved, and most of the parents now are after 80.90, and the parents of these families are mostly only children, and many times, they are only themselves, without companionship. In addition to companionship, there is also an important reason, couples want a son and a daughter. In traditional culture, a son and a daughter can make a good word. Such a family is more complete in the eyes of outsiders.
A family of one man and one woman is more coordinated. There is a reason for this, the combination of children and daughters is a brother and sister combination in addition to the brother and sister combination. If the brother and sister are combined, the younger brother is the one who enjoys the blessing. From the perspective of gender, women mature psychologically early and take more care of their younger brothers in behavior. In terms of learning, he will also do his best to help his brother. Even if you grow up and work, you will continue to take care of your younger brother, so that your parents will save a lot of trouble and the family relationship will be very harmonious.
What about brother and sister combinations? The older brother was born earlier, and the boys were more responsible. Maybe before my sister was born, she was the little bully in the family, and everything was solipsistic. After having a younger sister, the older brother changed. At first, I was not selfish, I would consider my sister in everything, and everything in the family would be considered for my sister first. When outsiders bully their sisters, their brothers will stand up and be the first to protect their sisters. In this way, when taking care of the younger sister, the brother will also contribute a large part, so the parents will also have a lot of worry.
In addition to a more harmonious family relationship, for a son and a daughter, there will be much less pressure in the future in terms of pension. Now many post-80s.90s are in middle age. The biggest problem facing the face is the problem of old-age care, because most of them are only children, and now there are four elderly people in a small family.
Although these elderly people have prepared for the rain in their youth, they have paid social security at a young age. Or they are all retired from the unit, and now they have pensions, and usually these elderly people have no problems in life, and they are also very rich economically. Only when you are sick, the problem will be exposed, even if you have money, you can ask for a nurse, but now the caregiver is to take care of the elderly as a kind of work, and can not solve the loneliness and loneliness of the elderly, the elderly want to see their children around.
If it is a two-daughter family, it may be that the two children will push each other away, in traditional Chinese thinking, it is the water spilled by the daughter who marries out. Therefore, the daughter is still based on her own small family and does not take care of her parents wholeheartedly. But if the family of a son and a daughter is different, the son will do his best to take care of his parents. And the daughter will also help on the side, everyone has no regrets about the family's efforts, and the pressure of each other's pension is also less.
In general, daughters do not live with their parents. Most of them are sons living with their parents, families with sons, so that the two elderly people will not feel lonely. After the son gives birth to a child, there will be more laughter in the family, and the whole family will be more harmonious. A son and a daughter's family is more lively, and the daughter will occasionally bring the child to the house, so the family relationship is very harmonious.
In contrast, in the two-girl family, if both girls have a family, they live in their husband's house and occasionally visit their parents at their mother's house. Such a family, all year round is two couples at home, the home is also cold and cold, there is no popularity, the old man looks forward to his daughter going home every day to see. If the daughter also has her own job, the number of times she returns to her mother's house is even more countless.
It is worth mentioning that it is not up to us to decide to have children, so parents should have a second child with the mood of being at ease. The main purpose of the second child is to let the child have a companion, not to let the child accompany him all the time. The elderly should also find their own interests and hobbies to make their old age life more abundant.