If you had a choice, would you be willing to support your in-laws?
People with many brothers and sisters envy the only child, because the only child can enjoy all the love of his parents. But only children but also envy those who have many brothers and sisters, and can share the obligations and responsibilities of supporting their parents.
Therefore, people are always like this, you envy me, I envy you, I don't know that every family has a difficult scripture, and every family has its own misfortune.
01, the brother-in-law married, the parents-in-law came to defect
There is a classic line in the movie "The Godfather": Softness without boundaries will only make the other party inch; unprincipled benevolence will only let the other party do whatever it wants.
At first, Zhong Ming could not understand this sentence very well. Until the brother-in-law got married on the front foot, and the in-laws came to the daughter and son-in-law on the back foot, Zhong Ming understood. Because all the problems and troubles in the follow-up were because of his soft heart to his parents-in-law.
Parents-in-law have always been partial to their sons, even if the wife is very filial, before marriage, most of their own salary is sent home; after marriage, they still can't move to give their parents-in-law 2,000 yuan a month for living expenses, but in the hearts of their parents-in-law, there is only a son.
Sometimes, the brother-in-law's coaxing words are more effective than how much filial piety is worth to his wife and daughter. Even sometimes, parents-in-law will give their wives the money of filial piety to their brother-in-law to spend.
Although Zhong Ming felt worthless for his wife, his wife comforted herself: all the parents in the world, money was given to their parents, and their parents could dispose of it as they wanted.
The brother-in-law got married, and the parents-in-law hollowed out the family foundation. I thought that I could follow my son and daughter-in-law to the pension from now on, but as a result, my brother-in-law was only married for a month, and my parents-in-law were driven out of the house by my brother-in-law's wife, saying that no daughter-in-law had the reason to live with her in-laws?
Therefore, the parents-in-law, who had no pension money and no shelter, had to come to their daughter and son-in-law for help. The wife was heartbroken and broke down, and she softly grinded hard bubbles on Zhong Ming, and Zhong Ming was soft for a while, so she agreed to it.
02, serving the parents-in-law for 8 years, not as good as the brother-in-law's 20,000 pension fees
At this point, the in-laws lived in Zhong Ming's house with peace of mind. During this period, parents have also revealed many times that they want to help with their children, retire with their sons, and enjoy the joy of the world. But when Zhong Ming thought of his parents-in-law, he could only refuse fiercely every time.
The in-laws lived at home for 8 years, during which the sister-in-law became pregnant and gave birth, and the mother-in-law also went back to help many times, and even secretly stuffed money behind their backs. Although the wife was a little dissatisfied, she did not bother with her parents. And Zhong Ming's son-in-law is even more difficult to mention.
If it weren't for the demolition of his parents- house, perhaps his parents-in-law would have lived in his house all the time. After the demolition of the house in the father-in-law's hometown, they were divided into a suite and millions of demolition funds. The brother-in-law and his wife heard the news and paid 20,000 pension fees as if to please, saying that they were pocket money for their parents.
Then the brother-in-law's good words, as if they didn't want money, all of their brains jumped out, and the parents-in-law were coaxed by the brother-in-law to be overjoyed, and promised the house and money to the brother-in-law on the spot. The brother-in-law and his wife left satisfied.
Zhong Ming, who stood by and watched everything, was really aggrieved for his wife. Parents-in-law have lived in their own homes for 8 years, so it is reasonable, even if they do not divide the house, the millions of demolition funds, the parents-in-law always score a part of it.
Listen to the meaning of the parents-in-law, these demolition funds and houses, the wife and this daughter all have no share. If the wife is fighting, it is a great rebellion. After all, whose parents' property is not left to the son, who will leave it to the daughter?
03, son-in-law: I give thirty thousand, you find a son to retire
The more Zhong Ming listened, the more he felt cold, not only for himself, but also for his wife. The money that the wife has spent on her in-laws over the years is not 100,000, but there are 70,000 or 80,000, but in the end it can't withstand a good word from her own son.
Thinking of serving his in-laws for 8 years, but in the end it was not as good as his brother-in-law's 20,000 pension fees, Zhong Ming couldn't help but say to his parents-in-law: I give 30,000, you find your son to retire, I can't afford to raise your two big Buddhas.
Seeing that the son-in-law was going to drive people away, the parents-in-law were immediately anxious. They said that although they had left all the demolition money and the house to their son due to custom, they were still willing to retire at the daughter and son-in-law's house. Because only in the daughter's home can they feel respected and valued.
The parents-in-law refused to leave, saying that no matter what, or the daughter's little cotton jacket is intimate, all year round, clothes, pants, shoes and socks, all daughters to Zhang Luo. The reason why they left those properties to their sons was only in the hope that their sons could better blossom and scatter their leaves, and only for the sake of their grandchildren.
And this time, not only could Zhong Ming not listen to it anymore, but even his wife was unwilling to listen to her parents' sophistry anymore. Because the facts are in front of them, if the parents really love themselves, how can they leave nothing for her, let them go, and insist on refusing, saying that it is much more comfortable to follow their daughters and sons-in-law, and do not want to be a free nanny for their sons and daughters-in-law.
Looking at the ghostly parents-in-law, Zhong Ming did not wait for his wife to react, so he helped them pack their bags and said that he would send them to his brother-in-law's house. Now in the past, you can still catch up with the brother-in-law to raise a second son.
Seeing that the son-in-law was going to drive people away, the parents-in-law panicked. Only this time, no matter how much the parents-in-law interceded, Zhong Ming did not have a soft heart.
Because his parents are also older, it is time to take their parents to do a good job of filial piety. As for the parents-in-law, and the sons, whose parents and who do filial piety.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Zhong Ming in sending his parents-in-law away?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!