preface:
To get married, is it enough to just determine who the other person is? No, you're not just marrying him, but the family behind him. Because love is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families.
If you only want to marry love and do not care about his family, then after marriage, there will inevitably be contradictions, especially when living with your in-laws, you will find that a good family style has an important impact on the quality of marriage. Here's Ms. Zhang's experience!
Ms. Zhang's statement:
My mother is a particularly calculating woman, when I married my wife, my mother calculated very badly, at the beginning, my wife's family proposed to ask for a dowry of 160,000, because 160,000 is not excessive, in our local area, the general marriage is this dowry number, but my mother is not willing to give, my mother has been crying poor with my parents-in-law, she said that she can't come up with so much money, I hope my parents-in-law are considerate, at the beginning, my parents-in-law are not willing to compromise, so the two sides have been deadlocked for a long time. The negotiation lasted for about half a year, and then my wife came forward to ask my parents-in-law to give in, and my parents-in-law made concessions because they loved my wife, so the two sides agreed on a dowry of 80,000 yuan.
After the bride price was negotiated, I thought that I and my wife would get married very smoothly, but what I didn't expect was that on the eve of my marriage with my wife, my wife checked out that she was pregnant, which was originally a very happy news, but my mother used my wife's pregnancy to discount the bride price, originally my mother wanted to give a 50% discount, and then it became 40,000 yuan, and then she felt that forty thousand was not very good, so she gave a dowry of 30,000 yuan, at that time my parents-in-law were very angry, they thought that my mother was too much, and I was also helpless at the time I know my mother's personality, I have no use in messing with her, so I went to beg my wife, hoping that my wife would forgive me, I promised my wife that I would be good to her after marriage, and spoiled her as a princess, at that time my wife was pregnant, she did not have any other ideas, although she was very wronged, she still married me later.
After my wife married me, she began to take revenge on my mother, after marriage, my wife took charge of the family's financial power, my salary card was also taken away by my wife, my wife fixed a few hundred dollars of pocket money every month, if I have a large expenditure, I have to report to my wife, these I think nothing, because I am married to my wife, I listen to her words is the right thing.
My wife not only manages my money, she also manages my mother's money, originally my mother is a woman who pays great attention to the quality of life, usually she likes to buy brand-name clothes, she usually goes out to travel, my wife takes charge of the financial power in the housekeeper, she does not let my mother buy expensive clothes, she asks my mother to buy clothes for the stall, she said that my mother is this age, wearing expensive clothes is useless, it is pure cotton, and my wife does not let my mother go out to travel, she said that tourism wastes money, watching TV at home can be, Everything was available in the TV.
Because my wife did this, my mother was very angry, and then my mother complained to me, I know that my wife was wronged because of the bride price, so she would do this to my mother, so I did not dare to say my wife, I told my mother, let her endure, after all, it is already a family, harmony is the most important, my wife is really cruel, you discount the bride price for my mother before marriage, she let my mother live a discounted life after marriage.
Author's Point of View:
As a person, you must talk about conscience, don't do things that violate your conscience, don't treat others as fools, when others are fierce and want to take revenge on yourself, you will be very painful, and I hope that those mothers-in-law who bully their daughters-in-law will take a warning.