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Everything has antecedents and consequences, and cannot be taken out of context, and cannot only look at superficial phenomena. Only by understanding the ins and outs of things can we make correct judgments and handle things well.
If there is difficulty, relatives must help each other, if even relatives do not help, then who else will come to help? People live in this world, everyone needs the help of others, "everyone for me, I am for everyone."
Some people only recognize money, not affection, and sooner or later such people will become lonely. People are animals with feelings, so people should talk about feelings between people, and with feelings, life is full of warmth and love. Only in an environment full of warmth and love can people live happily and feel happy.
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The marriage house bought by the in-laws in full, after the young couple gets married, the parents-in-law have something to live in for a while. Just when the mother-in-law came to the "May Day" festival, the daughter-in-law let the mother-in-law stay in the hotel, and the mother-in-law was very angry and asked the son to let the parents-in-law leave.
This is something that happened in Mei Shuying's family, and when it comes to her ex-husband's family, she can't help but sigh! Mei Shuying felt that her ex-husband's family was too cold and impersonal, so she insisted on divorcing her ex-husband. Let's hear what she went through.
Self-narrator: Mei Shuying
Age: 29 years old
Occupation: Clerk
City: Jixi
03
When my husband and I got married, the marriage room was bought by my in-laws in full, the banquet was done by two families, and my husband's family gave us 20,000 yuan of dowry money. Our family married a car and 150,000 savings, which included the 20,000 yuan of dowry money given by my husband's family.
My husband and I both came to the city from out of town to work, and after we got married, we lived here, and both parents lived in their hometown. My husband is the only son in the family, and my mother has a younger brother in the family, so my parents married me.
The year after my husband and I got married, in the middle of the "May Day" festival, my brother suddenly fell ill. After being sent to the local hospital, staying for a week, the condition deteriorated rapidly, and the doctor said that it was best to transfer to a big hospital in the city, because the medical conditions in the big hospital were good and the technology was advanced.
After my parents called me, I asked them to transfer to us immediately, and I went to contact the hospital. So we went our separate ways, and my brother was soon transferred to our hospital, and my parents and I were very worried about my brother's condition.
Because they came in a hurry, their parents did not bring much of their own daily necessities. Moreover, my brother was in a hurry to spend money, and he didn't know how much to spend, so his parents didn't dare to spend more money on themselves, so they lived in my house.
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When I brought my parents home, my husband didn't say anything, but his attitude was not enthusiastic. Because I was worried about my brother's condition, I didn't pay attention to my husband's emotions, and I felt that the most important thing at the moment was to save my brother's life.
Because the transfer was timely, my brother's illness did not worsen, but it still could not be taken lightly. My parents took turns to accompany me in the hospital, I ran in the hospital, the unit and the family, and my husband went to the hospital to see my brother once, and then he didn't go again.
A week later, just before "May Day", my in-laws came to our house for the holiday. Our house is a two-bedroom house, my husband and I sleep in the master bedroom, and the second bedroom is now where my parents live. My parents took turns spending the night in the hospital, one of them staying in the hospital, and the other came back to sleep.
I helped my in-laws open a room in the hotel, and they only came to stay for a few days anyway, so let them deal with it! I told my in-laws about my mother-in-law's situation, and I think they will definitely agree.
My parents were anxious, worried and tired about my brother's business, and both of them were exhausted. Moreover, they also have to take turns cooking food for their brother at home, and then sending them to the hospital to give their brother food, and what the younger brother can eat is very troublesome.
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When I took my in-laws to the hotel, their faces were not very good-looking, and they didn't speak all the way, so I guess they might have something to do!
The next day, when I came home from work, I found that my in-laws had moved in and that my parents' belongings had been moved away. I thought it was strange, so I asked my husband what was going on? My husband said that my parents went to the hotel and gave the room to my in-laws.
I called my mom, and my mom said it was like this, and I asked her why she didn't talk to me about it? Now that they live in a hotel, how can they cook food for their brother? During this period, what my brother ate was very critical, and the doctor repeatedly told me not to eat casually, and I could not cook in the hotel, and my mother told me to leave it alone.
I was on May Day holidays, so I cooked food for my brother myself. At this time, the husband said that the in-laws wanted to go to the tourist attractions in the city, and we should accompany them. I said that my current situation, where is the mood to accompany my in-laws to go shopping? I'll leave my husband alone with them, I'm going to the hospital to take care of my brother and give my parents a break.
My husband was very unhappy, and immediately threw his face at me, saying that I was a married daughter, spilling water, and the affairs of the mother's family would not be left alone. His parents rarely came, I let them stay in the hotel, and did not accompany them out, am I still like a daughter-in-law?
I'm not happy either, things always have a priority! Besides, my mother's family raised me, and now it is a matter of vital importance to my brother's life, how can I ignore it? After I cooked what I had for my brother, I just carried it to the hospital.
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When I arrived at the hospital, my parents were discussing things at the door of the ward and did not notice that I had come. My mother was worried about how to cook something for my brother to eat, and my father was also very worried, saying that the medical expenses were more than six thousand a day these days, and I didn't dare to spend money indiscriminately!
When the old couple talked about moving out of my house, I realized that it was my husband who said something to my mother, and they moved away. I immediately asked them, what the hell is going on? What did my husband say? When my parents found out that I was coming, they stopped talking about moving away, only that they were going to move away.
When I got home that day, I asked my husband what was going on? My husband doesn't say, I'm very angry, saying that it is an outsider, and now I have to help in this situation, let alone my own people? A son-in-law is half a child, he should also help, not to mention that my parents and brother are usually very good to him!
When my mother-in-law heard my voice, she came into the room very angrily and said, "Don't ask more, I asked my son to ask your parents to move away." This house was bought by our old couple in full, you let us stay in the hotel, but your parents live here, this is the nest of the doves and magpies..."
I asked my husband if that was the case? My husband didn't say a word, obviously acquiescing, and I didn't ask any more questions. The next day, I went to rent a two-bedroom apartment for my parents, which was introduced by my friend, and the rent was cheaper.
07
After another week, my brother's condition began to improve, and my parents and I were relieved. Later, the younger brother stayed in the hospital for nearly another month and then discharged. My parents wanted to take my brother back to my hometown, so I asked them to live there for a while, and I had already paid the rent for the house anyway.
My parents and brother lived in the rental house for another month, and my brother's health was no longer a big problem, but he was still a little weak, and he could go back to his hometown to raise him. After my parents and brother left, I sublet the house, and then I filed for divorce with my husband.
The husband is very incomprehensible, he thinks that life is good, why should he get a divorce? I told him that if I had intended it, I would have divorced on May Day. But because I wanted to save my brother's life at that time, I couldn't take care of this, so I didn't file for divorce.
Now that my brother's affairs are taken care of, I am going to divorce because the people in his family are too impersonal and I don't want to deal with such people. My brother is sick, my parents are in trouble, they are not even willing to help with the "show of hands" thing, then one day if I am sick, will they do their best to save me?
My husband didn't want to divorce, and my in-laws were very opposed to our divorce, but I was very insistent and finally divorced.
epilogue:
In this life, everyone will have difficulties and need help from others. If the in-laws can help, they should help within the scope of their ability, which is also the common sentiment of people.
Mei Shuying's parents are sick because of their son, and they temporarily go to their daughter's house to live for some days, which is not a particularly excessive thing. But the in-laws are very calculating and unwilling to let them live at home, Mei Shuying did not argue with the in-laws, but she knew the in-laws' family, so she insisted on divorce.
When the parents-in-law have difficulties, the son-in-law should also have to contribute, which is also helping the wife to share the burden. But Mei Shuying's ex-husband not only did not help, but also drove her parents-in-law away, which was really unkind. Marry this kind of man, and the woman should not expect him to give for his wife, because he only loves himself.
After marriage, husband and wife have the obligation to support each other, share the wind and rain, and face various problems together. If the husband and wife are too clearly divided, you are in charge of your affairs, I am in charge of my affairs, and no one helps anyone, then is there still a need for this marriage to exist?
Be kind, when others have difficulties, they must give help to others; when they have difficulties, others will also help you, and people are mutual, so we must help each other.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.