We as children have the obligation to be filial to our parents, and when we have a partner, we naturally hope that our partner can be filial to us and take care of our parents, but one thing we must understand is that no matter how much the partner does to our parents, it is sharing for us, and this is not what they should have done.
So this is also why many phoenix men will eventually lose everything when they make such excessive and unreasonable demands after marriage. There are always many phoenix men who, after marriage, will take it for granted that everything their wives have become their own, and their wives' parents should also think about themselves like their parents, and even serve their own families.
But in fact such an idea can only be called naïve or greedy. It should be known that parents should be helpful for their children's marriage rather than fully responsible, so the phoenix man's ideas and wishes are absolutely impossible to be realized, and if they can't figure this out, they can only end the marriage because of their greed and selfishness.
01. Mother-in-law is sick
When Xiaoqing chose to marry the current phoenix male husband, her parents actually disagreed, but they did not look down on Xiao Zhou's family situation, on the contrary, they admired the people who worked hard, but Xiaoqing, as their only daughter, did not want their daughter to go crooked on the road of marriage.
And before getting married, they had some unpleasant troubles on the bride price, which made Xiao Qing's parents dislike Xiao Zhou even more, thinking that Xiao Zhou would not pay for her daughter in the future.
But Xiaoqing did not listen to her parents at the beginning, and even felt that her parents were prejudiced, so in the end the two people were married, and in the first two years of marriage, the two people lived a plain and happy life, because there was no big thing in the family at that time, they lived in Xiaoqing's dowry room, both of them had a stable job, and the natural life was comfortable and simple.
But people can't always have a smooth sailing in this life, just at the beginning of the third year of the marriage of the two people, Xiao Zhou's hometown called and said that his mother-in-law was ill.
This can frighten Xiao Qing and Xiao Zhou, the two people hurried back to their hometown, the mother-in-law has been sent to the nearby county hospital, and through the doctor's diagnosis, the mother-in-law may be cancerous, but also let Xiao Qing and Xiao Zhou be mentally prepared.
02. Pick up your mother-in-law and go to the city for treatment
Although Xiao Zhou may have some hard-hitting searches in other places, he is definitely a big filial piety, so after listening to the doctor's words, he immediately decided to transfer his mother to the city where they live for treatment.
Of course, Xiao Qing would not object, on the contrary, she was very anxious for her mother-in-law, so after receiving Xiao Zhou's notice, she immediately contacted her parents, helped arrange the hospital, and also inquired about the doctor.
After the mother-in-law went to the city for examination, the cancer was finally determined, and the only comforting place was that the mother-in-law's illness had not yet reached the worst point, and there was still room for treatment.
Since there is room, Xiao Zhou and Xiao Qing must have decided to give their mother-in-law dedicated treatment, but considering the future cost and the lives of two people, Xiao Qing planned to rent a house near the hospital when she first conceived, ask her mother-in-law for a nurse, and then go to the hospital to check for chemotherapy when necessary.
However, when Xiao Monday heard this, he immediately reprimanded Xiao Qing, "Although the doctor said that it is not yet time for surgery, you can't toss my mother like this, hospitalization can cost a few dollars, if it is your mother, will you still say such things?" ”
Xiao Qing was originally kind and long-term considerations, but when Xiao Zhou said this, there were some grievances immediately, so she simply ignored it and let Xiao Zhou arrange it herself.
And Xiao Zhou did not know how to think, when arranging this matter, completely did not consider the economic conditions of the two people, not only arranged a single ward for the mother-in-law, but also invited a monthly 8,000 senior nurses, and just paid two months of hospitalization costs, the two people's savings were nearly one-third less.
03. The husband's extravagance led to insufficient surgical expenses
Xiao Qing is also a child, naturally can understand Xiao Zhou's mood, but a penny to do a little, Xiao Zhou in the beginning of such a big move, so that Xiao Qing is quite dissatisfied, but Xiao Zhou can not listen.
"Didn't I earn money just to make my parents live a good life?" Then my mother is sick now, and I can't arrange a good environment for her, so what is the use of my son? Besides, you can earn more money when you don't have any money, and you can't borrow a little from your parents. ”
Xiao Zhou's words came out xiao qing immediately understood, it turned out that Xiao Zhou thought that his family would give him backing, so he was so generous, so Xiao Qing did not leave Room for Xiao Zhou's imagination, and immediately told Xiao Zhou plainly, "If the mother-in-law's illness is really so serious, we can sell the house and take out all the savings, but you should not beat my parents' idea, and I will definitely not help you with this." ”
Xiao Qing's righteous words, but Xiao Zhou did not listen to it, but only responded perfunctorily, and drove Xiao Qing home to pack up her things.
This made Xiaoqing quite helpless, but at the same time, she was prepared for the worst.
Sure enough, after the mother-in-law had been treated in the city for more than half a year, the doctor they consulted finally made a gap and arranged the operation time for the mother-in-law to pay the operation fee, Xiaoqing found that the two people had no money at all.
But when Xiaoqing took the bank card to question Xiao Zhou, Xiao Zhou still didn't think so, and even directly asked Xiao Qing to ask her father-in-law and mother-in-law for money.
Looking at Xiao Zhou, who took it for granted and did not think about their small family at all, Xiao Qing was also completely disappointed, so she also directly showed cards with Xiao Zhou, "It is impossible to find my parents, my parents have no such obligation, you can find your own way." ”
03. Eventually the two parted ways
Perhaps it was not expected that Xiao Qing was really so determined, so he caught Xiao Zhou by surprise, and after several fruitless discussions, Xiao Zhou had no choice but to raise money by himself, but because of too much spending in the early stage, people did not dare to lend xiao Zhou at all in the later stage, so near the deadline for payment, Xiao Zhou was still 100,000 yuan short of the operation fee.
At this time, Xiao Zhou was not willing to be patient any longer, and directly pulled Xiao Qing to find her father-in-law and mother-in-law, but she was scolded by Xiao Qing, and Xiao Qing also clearly told Xiao Zhou, "You don't want to think, I tell you plainly, my parents have changed their savings into real estate in the past six months, and they have also bought a car, they have no money, you don't have to fight their ideas." ”
Xiao Qing made her words clear, and at the same time told Xiao Zhou that her family was not Xiao Zhou's cash machine, and if Xiao Zhou did not accept it, the two of them could also cut off this marriage.
And Xiao Zhou has completely lost his mind at this time, he feels that Xiao Qing is unreasonable, and does not help himself, so there is no reason to live this day anymore, so the two people divorced in this way, after dividing the last bit of property, Xiao Zhou finally made up enough for the operation fee, but until the mother-in-law's operation was successful, Xiao Zhou has been fighting for himself, "My mother's surgery is 100,000 yuan, my parents-in-law bought a car and bought a house, am I divorcing wrong?" ”
Phoenix male Xiao Zhou may not understand why he wants his wife's mother's family to help, Xiao Qing will refuse like that, and perhaps he will never admit that there is a little mistake in which one thing he does. But in fact, in this whole thing, Xiao Zhou did nothing at all, and it was full of greed and selfishness.
Because no matter whose parents are husband and wife, they should never be involved in another family, because as we say, helping is a love point, not helping is a duty, like Xiao Zhou's direct request and taking for granted, naturally will not get any response, because even if he helps him, he will not be grateful, he will only gain inches.
In this matter, Xiao Qing's work as a daughter-in-law is enough, it is That Xiao Zhou is too greedy, too dissatisfied, obviously she does not have that skill, but she still wants to give her parents the best, when she can't do it, she started the idea of her father-in-law and mother-in-law. Until the final divorce, Xiao Zhou did not know his mistake, then his final result would definitely not get a happy and stable marriage.