May affection and love be with you
Once it comes to marriage events, the bride price will inevitably be mentioned, in fact, about the bride price, compared to young people will be more repulsive, after all, throughout the history of the development of the bride price, the original intention of the beginning has long been lost.
At the beginning, the bride price was actually to show the strong strength of the in-laws, but the evolution of the times, the bride price has become an indispensable part of the marriage link, and even some couples have been ruthlessly separated because of the bride price.
As for the question of the dowry, it deeply affects the hearts of the two young people, after all, the decision of the parents is not something that a child can decide.
If the parents are more sensible, look at these things outside the world, and will also think about the small family that will be formed, there is no doubt that the life between the young couple will be much better.
01 The bride price was brought back, and 200,000 were also married
Zhang Li and her boyfriend Zhang Heng are college classmates, the two were already boyfriend and girlfriend in their sophomore year, people always envy the love of the student era, the love at that time was so pure and beautiful, Zhang Li was lucky, and her love story with Zhang Heng continued until graduation.
After graduation, Zhang Li and Zhang Heng squeezed in a rental house, fighting for each other's dreams, Zhang Li thought that she accompanied her boyfriend through a difficult period of time, and the relationship between the two will enter a new stage, but what Zhang Li did not expect was that the emotional story of living in the ivory tower of the campus was so beautiful, but once she stepped out of this environment, coupled with the pressure from life, the feelings between Zhang Li and Zhang Heng had a subtle change.
But Zhang Li did not want to give up this relationship, and wondered in her heart whether marriage would change the status quo between her and her boyfriend, so Zhang Li and her boyfriend Zhang Heng returned to their hometown and met each other's parents, and with the consent of both parents, Zhang Li and Zhang Heng entered the palace of marriage hand in hand.
For Zhang Li, she is relatively lucky, although there were some small twists and turns when the two families discussed the bride price before marriage, but on the day of her big wedding, her parents not only brought back the dowry taken out by her boyfriend's family, but also accompanied the dowry of 200,000 yuan.
Before getting married, the words of Zhang Li's parents still seemed to echo in their ears: Lily, I and your mother are your daughter, you say we don't hurt who you hurt?
02 After marriage, the mother-in-law asked for AA, and the husband agreed
Zhang Li is grateful to her parents, and has a little more confidence in her future life, but all this is ultimately too simple for two young people to think, and once love involves marriage, the pressure can be imagined.
After marriage, Zhang Li has been plagued by the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As for the root cause of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it may be attributed to Zhang Li and her mother-in-law living together.
The difference of opinion in life and the prejudice of the attitude to handle things have caused a big rift between Zhang Li and her mother-in-law, although Zhang Li has thought about repairing the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but there is no husband to mediate from it, even if Zhang Li does more, it is not understood.
Speaking of her husband Zhang Heng, Zhang Li did not fully understand until after marriage that marriage was not a solution to emotional problems, on the contrary, only after mutual understanding of each other and the family, marriage was a natural success.
In the face of the contradiction between Zhang Li and his mother-in-law, Zhang Heng almost did not dare to come out in front of his mother, and even when his mother-in-law proposed to let Zhang Heng and his wife AA system, he also nodded in agreement.
Only at this time did Zhang Li clearly realize that in Zhang Heng's heart, the position of mother-in-law was far more important than herself.
Although Zhang Heng's career has gradually improved over the years, the external conditions of the quality rooted in the heart are almost difficult to change, and the characteristics of the Phoenix Man are fully displayed.
03 eventually destroyed the home
In fact, the reason why the mother-in-law let Zhang Heng and his wife AA system is very simple, because in Zhang Li's home, she is an only child, even after marriage, Zhang Li's heart is still very worried about her parents, so she will go back to her mother's house as soon as she has time to bring some supplements to her parents.
However, all this has become the most obvious manifestation of Chen Li's "will not live a life" in the eyes of her mother-in-law, so her mother-in-law let Zhang Heng propose the AA system.
When her husband proposed the AA system to Zhang Li after following her mother-in-law's instructions, Zhang Li's heart sank to the bottom in an instant.
Since being married for such a long time, whenever Zhang Li takes her husband back to her mother's house, her mother's parents will treat Zhang Heng as a guest of honor, and every time she returns to her mother's house, Zhang Li's parents will force Zhang Li to say: You yourself spend a lot, don't waste it on me and your father.
Zhang Li thought that Zhang Heng would think of this, not to mention the original 200,000 dowry as a companion, all of which was given by her mother's parents.
But when Zhang Li told Zhang Heng all this, Zhang Heng was silent, but even so, it still could not change Zhang Heng's decision, and zhang Li still wanted the AA system.
At this moment, Zhang Li finally woke up, perhaps from the beginning of her marriage with her husband was wrong.
I thought that marriage could solve the contradictions between the two people, but I did not expect that marriage was not only useless, but also involved many other contradictions.
In the end, Zhang Li filed for divorce from Zhang Heng.
And Zhang Li's last words to Zhang Heng were: I married 200,000 yuan, which is even worse than your mother's AA system!
In this way, Zhang Heng ruined the family because of his obsession.
Conclusion: Such as Zhang Li's family couple is very few, parents not only brought back the bride price, but also accompanied the dowry of 200,000 yuan, as a husband family, should cherish this true feelings, but in the end because of the participation of the mother-in-law, Zhang Heng's obsession, and eventually led to the disintegration of the family.
In fact, for any marriage, its formation is very hard-won, so whether it is between husband and wife or the parents of their respective original families, for the newly established small family, it should be taken care of, and the husband and wife should also understand each other, only in this way, the family will be more harmonious and happy.