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There are several kinds of men that girls dislike the most today: phoenix men, ma bao men, bragging men, and nest men.
Among these men, the first two were the most complained about.
Many girls say: It is better not to get married, than to find a mother and a phoenix man, there will be endless contradictions after marriage, affecting people's life expectancy.
From the perspective of a parent with a daughter: I definitely don't want the child's future partner to be Ma Bao Male, a Phoenix Man. It's not that these people aren't good enough, on the contrary, these people may have good qualities, have strong empathy, they are filial to their parents, and they take care of the overall situation. But as a parent, I can't bear to watch my daughter, who has always been pampered, suffer.
Of course, if the child does not feel that the life is bitter, it is suffering, if the child feels that he is in it, filial piety to the parents with his partner first, and his own personal life as the last, of course, he will respect the child's ideas.
And from a girl's point of view, because I am also from young to old, will I be willing to change my lifestyle, to suffer with a person, I am reluctant to eat and drink, buy a dress must be nagged by the people next to me? Of course not, if I buy something now, the person next to me says more, I will feel very angry.
Of course, at the same time, young girls will also expect something from their partners, and few girls will tolerate their partners being a dime and searching for it.
Understanding is mutual, and neither party can ask the other to understand itself unconditionally.
The monthly income is 7,000 yuan, and the parents are given 5,500 yuan, which has aroused heated discussions
A netizen raised a question on a website: Boyfriend 7500 yuan a month, why do you have to give his mother 5000 yuan?
At a glance, you know that the question is a girl who is in a relationship, the girl's relationship does not seem to be going well, the two people may have a good relationship, and the difference is that the girl does not understand why the boyfriend should give more than half of the salary to the mother.
A netizen wrote the answer, he represents the tens of millions of boys who have come out of the bottom family.
The screenshot is below, so you can read it for yourself.
The boy's point of view is summarized as follows:
1, parents raised me is not easy, the son grows up, can make money, with money back to the parents, let the parents know, you raised the son can make money, hope that parents less worry, this is the simplest thought for the son of man.
2, parents raise a child is not easy, to be a son to be grateful for the parenting grace of parents, this is not very normal?
3. What is a girlfriend? It is very likely that it is not worth it to part ways and spend a lot of money to please a girl who has not paid for herself, and may not be able to keep her.
4. The days of parents are not long, and the road of husband and wife is still long, why can't they first filial piety to their parents? As a man, should you give the best to a woman who will most likely not accompany you to the end of your life?
After reading this boy's point of view, I was very touched, and I couldn't help but give this boy a thumbs up, indicating that he was really well educated.
And the problem he said is nothing more than the helplessness of the "poor", if he is capable enough and rich enough, his vision will naturally not be so limited, and he will not take money as a measure of everything.
However, he is already very good, he is better than his parents, he is young, he can give his parents 5500 yuan a month, he is stepping on the shoulders of his parents who are almost close to the bottom of the bottom to take this step, which is worthy of praise.
I believe that one day he met someone who understood himself, met a girl who had the same origin as himself, met a girl who had the same ideas as himself, two people to form a family, and their children would have a better future.
So he said, you are proud of your present, I am proud of my future.
He has expectations for his future, and he knows that he is not limited to the "7,000 yuan" in front of him.
There is no need to complain, such boys should be liked
I am a woman, once a girl, and now a mother of a daughter, and I must be looking at things from the perspective of benefiting girls.
Even so, I still think this boy is very good, and I can imagine what kind of person his parents are behind him, and in their life group, they must be very decent people.
Boys are taught to be like this, they should be praised, compared with those who grow up to complain about their parents' waste, complain that their parents can't give the life they want, and once they have a girlfriend and a family, they completely forget their parents, such people are too good.
If you must choose from two people, one is to earn 7,000 yuan when you are poor, give your parents 5,000 yuan, and the other is to earn 7,000 yuan when you are poor and spend 5,000 yuan for your girlfriend, then I will choose the former, and I will let my daughter choose the former.
Because the former is more responsible and responsible.
In fact, there is really no need to complain about this boy, such a boy is proud, you can't look at him, in fact, he can't look down on you, he has his beautiful future, he will definitely be able to meet the person who shares happiness and suffering with him.
Why is this boy so hated?
From the boy's reply, you can see how bad his evaluation is.
Some of these girls who attacked him may have gotten along with "Ma Bao", and may simply hate a man who has too good a relationship with his parents, thinking that this is too dependent on his mother.
It could also be just some prejudice, a prejudice against these boys born at the bottom.
This generation of girls, indeed raised by their parents, in the concept of these girls, men should be unconditionally good for themselves, is a good man, men must be separated from their parents after adulthood, is a good man, parents raise children, they should not ask for children, otherwise it is too selfish.
And the concepts and behaviors of such boys are very different from the concepts and behaviors of these girls, which is why they are so hated.
In the end, it is just two types of people with completely different childhoods.
If girls are too extreme, there are the above concepts, it is also very dangerous, a person can never get rid of the original family, the ideal small family does not exist, if you want to have a better marriage and family, or first try to put away the sharp edge, try to consider each other.
Of course, not all girls can meet such boys, and when they meet unappetizing, they say goodbye, and there is really no need to step on a foot and scold a few words.