It is true that love is only a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families.
Love can be full of sentient water, but marriage involves too many things. In addition to feelings, there are responsibilities and obligations in marriage, involving all aspects, parents, children, property and so on.
Marriage can not be desperate, more is to look forward, you have to take into account the relationship between the original family and the small family, you have to consider the feelings of the partner, you have to take into account the future development of the child...
The writer Mr. Zhou Guoping once said:
"Marriage is hard. Love is only a matter of feelings, but marriage is the result of the cooperation of feelings, reason, and will. Therefore, happy marriages must be rarer than happy love. ”
01. Marry the Phoenix Man at all costs
Marriage is one of the hardest things in the world, and Lin Xuan (pseudonym) is well aware of it.
Her marriage to her husband Zhang Xu (pseudonym) has experienced many ups and downs along the way, and now it has suffered great hardships and is about to come to an end.
Zhang Xu is a phoenix man who came out of a remote mountainous area through the college entrance examination, and after graduating from a 211 college, he entered a state-owned enterprise in her hometown city.
By chance, the two came together.
Zhang Xu's family is poor, there are 3 brothers and sisters in the family, and he ranks second. The father-in-law died of illness in his early years, and it was his mother-in-law who pulled them up with hard work.
What is valuable is that the mother-in-law is more supportive of their brothers and sisters in studying.
After Zhang Xu was admitted to college, he studied with a master's degree, and later, forced by economic pressure, he wanted to give up his master's degree and work as soon as possible to reduce the burden on his family.
After the mother-in-law learned about it, she resolutely disagreed. It is precisely because of the support of her mother-in-law that Zhang Xu was able to complete all her studies.
Lin Xuan respected her mother-in-law very much. A weak girl with only a primary school education level can single-handedly raise 3 children and raise a graduate student, which is not an easy task.
In fact, Zhang Xu also adhered to the excellent character of her mother-in-law, kind, tenacious, hardworking and self-motivated, which was the main reason why she married Zhang Xu at all costs.
However, in the eyes of her parents, her act of marrying a phoenix man was a kind of moth to put out the fire, so she tried her best to obstruct it.
Lin Xuan understands the good intentions of her parents, which parent does not want their daughter to have no worries about food and clothing, and her life will be safe and smooth.
But at that time, she firmly believed that Zhang Xu was a "potential stock".
Moreover, she feels that as long as they truly love each other, they will be enough to fight against the bumps and storms on the road of future life.
She had no remorse and eventually let her parents compromise. Her parents could not bear to see her suffer, so they gave her the next house as a wedding room and held a wedding for her.
02. Mother-in-law is sick
After marriage, the couple's life is still relatively stable. Although the difference in values has led to constant contradictions between the two, there is a basis for feelings and the guarantee of character, and the two have never had a major conflict.
With the increase of life experience, the growth of insight, and the mutual friction and influence of the two sides, the two gradually became tacit understanding, and life became more and more harmonious.
Lin Xuan originally thought that such a peaceful and warm life would continue forever, who knew that her mother-in-law was found to be seriously ill once an ordinary illness.
Zhang Xu, who has not been around his mother-in-law for many years, felt extremely guilty after learning the news, and immediately took his mother-in-law to the big hospital for review, and asked acquaintances to find experts to see a doctor.
After several months of treatment, the mother-in-law's condition was slightly stable.
However, after all, it has reached an advanced stage, and the disease can only be controlled, and cannot be cured. Watching her mother-in-law lose weight day by day, Zhang Xu is restless every day.
What is even more disturbing is that in order to treat her mother-in-law, she and Zhang Xu have given everything. However, the entire 250,000 savings in the family are only a drop in the bucket in the face of the mother-in-law's illness.
The eldest sister-in-law and the little uncle are all married, the family's economic conditions are very general, they earn three or four thousand yuan a month in their hometown, they can only contribute, there is no way to pay.
The couple was desperate and overwhelmed. Seeing that the money in the card had also been brushed away, Zhang Xu proposed to let her borrow money from her mother's family.
Her parents had already given her 20,000 yuan before, and when they saw her speak, they took another 100,000 to her. Parents also know that there is a high probability that this money will not be returned, so they take the initiative to say that they will not pay it back.
Parents also said that they are old, limited ability, can only help here, they also have to plan for their own pension.
Her parents' words made Lin Xuan feel very guilty.
Her parents have helped her a lot, her two children, are raised with the help of their parents, and now her parents have retired, in addition to the pension has no other income, but she still has to eat old.
03. Phoenix man wants to sell his house to save his mother
However, the parents' 100,000 was quickly used up, and it reached the point where they were exhausted.
Zhang Xu also plans to take her mother-in-law to a first-tier city to see a doctor, and even contacted foreign students to arrange for her mother-in-law to receive the latest technical treatment abroad.
That day, Zhang Xu said that he had contacted an authoritative expert and formulated a treatment plan, but it cost a lot of money.
Zhang Xu offered to sell the house to save his mother. Their house is a school district house, which can sell for at least 2 million, part of which can be used to treat the mother-in-law, and part of which can be used to pay another down payment for a house.
Lin Xuan felt inappropriate. Subsequently, Zhang Xu proposed to mortgage the house...
As Wang Xiaobo once said:
"All human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence."
The most painful thing in the world is to watch one's loved ones, lying helplessly in a hospital bed and struggling helplessly, while there is nothing you can do about it.
Zhang Xu's inner pain, Lin Xuan could not empathize, but as a wife, she could understand.
She also knows that the meaning of making money is to improve the quality of life of herself and her relatives, but also to use emergencies, when relatives have difficulties, it is incumbent upon them to take money out for treatment.
But the problem was that this house was not earned by her and Zhang Xu. The money she and Zhang Xu earned has been spent on her mother-in-law, and even her parents have done their best.
There is a saying that helping is the love point, and not helping is the duty.
Everything she and her parents do is to fulfill Zhang Xu's filial piety, all based on love, but Zhang Xu seems to take all this for granted.
04. Leave and leave, I will no longer be as desperate as before
In Zhang Xu's eyes, there was only the presence of his mother-in-law.
The feelings of the wife, the future development of the children, and the long-term interests of the small family are all left out. Lin Xuan weighed it up and rejected all of Zhang Xu's proposals for a house.
She advised Zhang Xu: "Your current identity is not only a son, you are also a husband and father, you can't ruin a big family because of one person." ”
Zhang Xu fidgeted and said, "My mother is suffering now, and I must do my best, otherwise the uneasiness and condemnation of my conscience will accompany me all my life, and you should be for me, okay?" ”
Zhang Xu said that she could have done everything for the future of the two of them before, why can't she now?
Lin Xuan was very helpless, said: "At that time, you were still young, as long as you didn't give up, there were still infinite possibilities, even if you lost, it wouldn't drag anyone down, but now you and I are middle-aged, there are old and young, how can I be desperate?" ”
Zhang Xu saw that she refused to compromise, and her emotions suddenly became excited, saying that she was in the most difficult moment, but she stood by and watched, not close to human feelings, not aware of the general body...
In the end, Zhang Xu even threatened to divorce him.
Lin Xuan was also angry and said, "If you want to leave, leave, I will not be as desperate as before." ”
Zhang Xu slammed the door and left, and in the following days, the two began a cold war. Lin Xuan does not want to divorce, the two children are still underage, and the relationship between husband and wife is still there...
However, she knew that when her mother-in-law left, her marriage might come to an end. How can she save her marriage?
There is a saying: "Sorrow and joy are self-indulgent, and others are difficult to understand." ”
Everyone's life, it is inevitable to encounter some difficult moments, whether it is the suffering of life, or the knot in the heart, you need to rely on yourself to resolve.
Do you think Lin Xuan should agree to Zhang Xu's request to sell the house to save her mother?
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