The British critic David Frost once said: "When you have only one child, you are a parent; when you have two children, you are a referee." ”
However, in China, most parents can only do their duty as a parent, and they can never do the duty of a referee. While accusing the unloved child of not being pampered, but at the same time secretly subsidizing his own pampered child, he cannot do a bowl of water.
Most mothers-in-law have an outsider mentality towards their daughters-in-law. Even if the daughter-in-law is committed to perfection for the sake of her son, she bears the burden of humiliation for her son, and gives up her work, hobbies and life.
Once the daughter-in-law has any wrongdoing, the mother-in-law will blame her. Even if she does not have any help in the life of her son and daughter-in-law, this does not hinder the mother-in-law's high posture.
01, parents a bowl of water uneven
Deng Shangming and his wife have been married for 8 years, and they have watched their wives suffer grievances and heartaches for 8 years, but these grievances and heartaches are still brought by their parents. As a son, he cannot stand on the moral high ground to criticize his parents.
Deng Shangming is the eldest son in the family and has a younger brother who is three years younger than him. Although in the eyes of outsiders, he has been diligent and enterprising since he was a child, and he is countless times stronger than his brother who has achieved nothing and only relied on nibbling on the old man.
But in the eyes of his parents, Deng Shangming is just a son who is silent and will not please his parents. The younger son has a sweet mouth and a lively personality, and is very pleasing to his parents. What's more, since Deng Shangming was admitted to college and left his rural hometown, his younger son has been by his side to accompany his parents. Therefore, parents have much deeper feelings for their younger sons than for their older sons.
Deng Shangming worked hard for several years before he bought a house and a car in the city with the help of his parents-in-law. Looking at Deng Shangming's infinite scenery outside, his parents have also asked Deng Shangming many times to pull his own brother.
But his parents often only see his scenery, but they can't see his private hard work and bitterness. After his wife gave birth to a child, Deng Shangming personally returned to his hometown to pick up his parents, and wanted his parents to help take care of his wife's confinement and children.
However, the parents refused to go on the grounds that they were not in good health, and said that if they helped Deng Shangming with the child, what could the younger brother's children do? In the end, it was the parents-in-law who felt sorry for their daughter and took care of all this.
02, give parents 3,000 pocket money every month
After that, the parents-in-law were not in good health, and Deng Shangming and his wife did not dare to bother their parents-in-law anymore, so they had to let their wives give up their promising jobs and go home full-time with their children. And his wife had no job, Deng Shangming could only take up the burden of the whole family by himself, so it was several years.
It wasn't until the two children of the younger brother's family were older and went to primary school, and their parents were tired of large and small illnesses, that the parents compromised and said that they wanted to help Deng Shangming with the children. Deng Shangming was unwilling, and his parents went on a hunger strike. In the end, he could not refuse, and could only take his parents and let them run into his wife and children for a while.
And the parents came to the house, and there was no ambiguity, directly proposing that they were old, small illnesses and small pains, and there was no savings on their bodies, and they hoped that Deng Shangming would give them three thousand yuan per month for pocket money.
Although three thousand yuan is not much, it is also a lot for Deng Shangming, who only relies on him to support his family. He negotiated with his parents to give 2000, and the parents still lost their temper. In the end, Deng Shangming could only compromise and give his parents 3,000 yuan a month for pocket money.
As a result, when the parents arrived at home, many of them did not like the wife's practices. Either they hate their wives for not working and eating white food, or they hate their wives for being wasteful and do not know how to be diligent and thrifty.
Where his wife had suffered these grievances, she told Deng Shangming as she did. Deng Shangming was helpless and speechless, but his parents who were nitpicking at him had no choice but to persuade his wife to endure.
03, son: either help with the baby, or also subsidize 3,000 per month
What is even more excessive is that the parents took Deng Shangming's 3,000 yuan, not to spend it on themselves, but secretly subsidized it to their younger brother. If deng Shangming had not inadvertently seen his parents' transfer records to his brother, perhaps he would have been kept in the dark.
For the sake of his family and everything, Deng Shangming hid this matter, and even his wife did not tell the truth. But Deng Shangming did not expect that under his repeated tolerance, his parents had repeatedly gained inches.
3,000 yuan can no longer meet their requirements, but also asked to increase to 5,000, saying that they are older, more money on them, in order to have a sense of security. Deng Shangming disagreed and asked his parents to say where the money was spent, but the parents could not say why.
Until the parents saw their full-time wife buy 40 yuan a pound of ribs, they were mad again, and they counted down their wives by this. Saying that his son is tired and tired to earn ten thousand yuan a month, his wife, the loser's wife, eats white rice at home, but spends thousands of dollars a month.
Listening to his parents' accusations against his wife, and then looking at his wife's aggrieved red eyes, Deng Shangming could not bear it any longer. He told his parents directly, either you help with the baby and let your wife go out to work, or you also subsidize us 3,000 yuan a month, just like you subsidize your brother.
Seeing that their subsidized young son was exposed, the parents' faces turned red and white. And until this moment, Deng Shangming also understood that where the parents came to help with the children, it was clear that they had come to rob the rich and help the poor, suck his blood, and squeeze his hard-earned money to subsidize his brother.
Deng Shangming did not wait for his parents to explain, directly helped them pack their bags, and drove them away on the same day. As for how his parents would spread his insult of filial piety in his hometown in the future, Deng Shangming did not care for a long time.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Deng Shangming in sending his parents away?
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