When single, people are always the most dashing and free, without any ties, they can do whatever they want, and they have enough personal time, but after getting married and having children, they have family responsibilities and children's responsibilities, maybe they are not so free before marriage, and they want to do whatever they want to do immediately. Once people have responsibilities, it is absolutely impossible to think only selfishly about themselves, happy families often bear some responsibilities, and only people who always put responsibility on themselves will have a happy life.
Of course, it is not that after getting married and having children, it is completely necessary to abandon personal social activities, there are some activities and parties that should be participated in or can participate, nor do you let yourself be disconnected from society and friends, but you must always pay attention to your own family responsibilities, especially when the children are still young, you must not put them alone in the home, safety is very important.
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Have children
Zhang Zhongyuan and Wang Ziyan two people are considered to be green plum bamboo horses, since junior high school began to know, but did not go to school together in high school, but the two people actually went to the same university, this is also the fate of the two people came back again, or Zhang Zhongyuan took the initiative to greet Wang Ziyan, when Wang Ziyan did not recognize Zhang Zhongyuan at first glance.
The two people began to continue their former love affair from college, and in their sophomore year, the two people began to fall in love, and occasionally recalled the stupid things that the two people did together in junior high school, and once the two people were late for school and were punished by the teacher to stand in the hallway together. It was funny to say, it was really silly to do those things at that time, once two people were walking on the way out of school, Zhang Zhongyuan's shoes were broken, and he could only walk like a cripple.
Later, Zhang Zhongyuan and Wang Ziyan two people in the third year of the year together to fall in love, originally the parents of both sides are also known to each other, know that the two children are in love together, the heart is naturally happy, and especially understand each other, do not worry about their children being wronged, the most important thing is that the two people's homes are particularly close, more than ten minutes away.
Three years after the two people graduated from college, the parents of both sides discussed the marriage for them, of course, the parents of both sides will respect the opinions of the children, but the two children said that all wedding matters are left to the parents to decide, and the two of them only need to go to the wedding ceremony style and wedding photos.
Zhang Zhongyuan and Wang Ziyan's marriage progress is also particularly rapid, half a year after marriage, Wang Ziyan is pregnant, during the pregnancy of Wang Ziyan, Zhang Zhongyuan is meticulously concerned about his daughter-in-law, all the things in the family are handled by Zhang Zhongyuan alone, even the clothes are not allowed to wash Prince Yan, even if it is to throw the clothes into the washing machine and do not let Prince Yan do it.
Wang Ziyan also ridiculed Zhang Zhongyuan that he was pregnant and not crippled, and did not have to think of himself as a person without the ability to live, and later Zhang Zhongyuan was not so exaggerated, and the small things that could be done were handed over to Prince Yan to do a little. In the first three days of Wang Ziyan's due date, Zhang Zhongyuan took leave in advance, although the company only had seven days of maternity leave, but Zhang Zhongyuan still took an extra week's leave.
After Prince Yan gave birth to a child, Zhang Zhongyuan carefully took care of Prince Yan who was confined, so Prince Yan felt that in the process of confinement, she was not as hard as her friends said, and she herself was particularly relaxed, so it was good that she had such a good husband and mother-in-law.
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Look at the kids
Zhang Zhongyuan knows that it is very hard for girls to have children, so before getting married, Zhang Zhongyuan said to Wang Ziyan that he would contract all the things of the children, not to let Prince Yan worry, after Prince Yan gave birth to a child, sure enough, Zhang Zhongyuan was taking care of the child alone, of course, sometimes the parents of both sides will also help with the child, only when breastfeeding is needed, the child will be sent to Prince Yan's side.
Friends say that Prince Yan is married like not married, free, do not worry about anything, this child is born and not born the same, a lot of things do not have to worry about Prince Yan, Prince Yan is also very happy, such a life is really his ideal life, he does not want to be bound because of marriage.
"Husband, you are working hard, and you have to take care of your children every day when you come back from work!"
"This is my own child, of course I have to take care of it, besides, sometimes mom and dad will help us with the child, so there is nothing to be tired of, but after you have a child, you have to rest well and take good care of your body." 」
"It's really happy to have such a good husband like you, and my friends are very envious of me, and asked me what skills I have to find such a good husband." 」
Because Zhang Zhongyuan has also seen about pregnant women, how pregnant women should do to take care of them, first of all, we must care about their feelings, care more about them, pay attention to them, and channel their emotions, so what Prince Yan wants to do, Zhang Zhongyuan will never stop her, but unconditionally support her.
Because after giving birth to a child, there is also most of the maternity leave after the confinement, and things in the family do not have to worry about Prince Yan, so Prince Yan often asks out his friends to go to KTV to sing or go to dinner, or go to amusement parks, play escape rooms or haunted houses. These things have always been what the prince wants to do, but before the friends were busy with their own work, now everyone has a stable job, there is a stable rest time, and finally can come out and get together.
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Only came back in the middle of the night
Zhang Zhongyuan is also to Prince Yan to give birth to a child, pregnancy is very hard, so no matter what Prince Yan does, Zhang Zhongyuan has never stopped her, but recently only gave birth to a child for two months, Prince Yan went out every day to find friends to play, and then slowly went home in the middle of the night, of course, Zhang Zhongyuan did not say that Prince Yan should not go out to play, but a little worried about the safety of Prince Yan, after all, just gave birth to a child, every day so late not to rest is not good for the recovery of the body.
Wang Ziyan said that she used to be busy with work, and then she was busy getting married and having children, and now she is not easy to be free, and she can have her own time to socialize and not let herself be disconnected from her friends. Zhang Zhongyuan also especially understands Wang Ziyan, so he will always indulge her, but recently more and more arrogant, sometimes a day out, the breast milk left at home is not enough for the child to eat, Wang Ziyan's parents said that they should have more time to take care of the child, although Zhang Zhongyuan is watching the child, but this is not his responsibility alone, it is the responsibility of the husband and wife.
"Wife, today you will stay at home to rest, watch the children, I will work overtime today, I will come back a little later, and then my father is sick these days, he has to live in the hospital for two days, my mother is in the hospital with him, so you may work a little harder today!" 」
"Okay, no problem!"
Zhang Zhongyuan went home early in the night shift, saw his son sleeping on the sofa, a wave of anger came up in his heart, this is only three or four months of children, how to put him alone on the sofa to sleep, in case of rolling down, what to do, and then Zhang Zhongyuan found the whole room and did not see Prince Yan, Zhang Zhongyuan called his parents-in-law to "watch the good play".
Then the three of them sat in the living room waiting for Prince Yan to return, and Prince Yan opened the door and came back after a while to find that his parents and husband were sitting in the living room, and their faces were not good-looking: "Parents, how did you come over?" ”
"Where have you been this big night?" It was not good to watch the child throw him alone on the couch! Zhang Zhongyuan did not speak, it was Wang Ziyan's parents who were talking.
"When I went downstairs to throw away the garbage, I happened to meet my former classmates and chatted below for a while. Just forget about this, it's my fault, I'm sorry! ”
"You are all mothers, although ah yuan usually takes care of you again, but you also have to go to the snack!"
"Well, Mommy and Daddy, you've worked hard tonight, and I believe ziyan will definitely change it after that!" Zhang Zhongyuan still spoke for his wife.
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liability
Most people now think of the first time is that the child should be taken care of by the mother, if the child is sick is the mother's fault, in fact, such a thought is wrong, taking care of the child is not only the responsibility of the mother alone, but also the responsibility of the father, do not always think of the child's illness at the first time, the child's responsibility should be borne by the mother alone, the child is the common responsibility of the parents.
Sometimes everyone will also see, for example, when going to the banquet together, if there is a child, it must be the mother who first takes the child to let others finish eating, the mother is always the last to finish eating, and there should be a good share of responsibility between countless things, do not always feel that the child is the responsibility of the single party. As the parents of the child, both parties must assume the responsibility for the child, and indeed should not lose their personal time and their own personal social network because they have a child, but they must not get carried away and leave the child alone at home.
The family itself has a lot of responsibilities, and these responsibilities are jointly borne by the people in the family, as husband and wife is to share and bear together, as a parent also to fulfill their own parenting responsibilities.