If you marry an only child, will you give your parents-in-law a pension in the future? Listen to the truth of the men

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The first batch of only children on the mainland to implement family planning are already 42 years old, and their parents are almost 70 years old, and it is time for them to need their children to provide for them.

However, because an elderly couple has only one child, the two only children have to support four elderly people and their own minor children after marriage.

And these only children were allowed to have two children, so it became a couple who earned money to support about six people. There is a small pressure on the top and the bottom, and just thinking about it can make people collapse.

If both husband and wife have the ability to earn money, it is fine, if they meet

Women who become full-time housewives after marriage have to rely on their husbands to support themselves, and will their parents' pension problems also depend on their husbands in the future? But

The son-in-law does not have the responsibility and obligation to support the parents of the spouse

，

So as an only child, what should I do if I need my husband's help when I give my parents a pension?

Saying goes

A son-in-law is equivalent to half a son

But the situation is different for each family, as the son-in-law of the only daughter-in-law, will you give your in-laws a pension in the future?

01、

Mr. Zhao, 40 years old, wife 37 years old.

Parents are in good condition and don't worry about us

。

"I haven't had such a specific problem right now. My parents-in-law are under 65 and in good health. After my father-in-law retired, the two of them went out with their elderly friends, traveled, or participated in various activities. At the moment they haven't bothered us at all. From their current physical condition, it is estimated that they may not be used until after the age of 75. I am still mentally prepared, the old man is old, really blink of an eye and get old. ”

"However, the two of us are not afraid of the pension problem of the four elderly people in the family, they are all retired from the national unit, the retirement salary is not low, when the time comes to give them both sides to hire a nanny, we can go and take care of it at any time." When they are too old to take care of themselves, they ask for a nurse. Then install surveillance in the home, and we can know everything right away. ”

"Tube, I'm definitely going to manage it. I have been married to my wife for so many years, my parents-in-law are very good to me, my wife is filial piety, and I get along with my parents.

We have a lot of deep feelings, and there is nothing about you or mine

, such a raw statement. Even if they get sick later, their retirement salary can't afford medical expenses and nursing expenses.

We're out of it

。 ”

"I also have only one son, and he will also face the problem of giving us a pension in the future, and I don't want him and his daughter-in-law to become that kind of calculating and indifferent person in the future, of course, I want to set a good example for him." Compare your heart to your heart. ”

02、

Mr. Wu, 38 years old, his wife is the same age as him.

The second-married family is awkward and realistic, and it is okay to contribute, and it is okay to pay for it

。

"This question is more realistic and embarrassing for me, because my wife and I are both second-married. And we are a restructured family of both with children. For the matter of raising children, we have an agreement at the beginning, not to calculate, nor to engage in such a foreign, it is precisely to avoid future troubles, only to spread out the actual things in advance. The problem of restructuring the family is too realistic and must be considered for the future of the child. ”

"We are both daughters, and although there is no pressure of a wedding bride price when the children grow up in the future, we all want to prepare our own house for the children. We are the ones who came over, and we know all too well that girls can't suffer losses. All our efforts now are on saving money for our two children. My ex-wife certainly can't expect how much money she can give her children to buy a house in the future, and my wife's ex-husband, I can't say for sure, I heard that people remarried and had a son. Although he is still very kind to his daughter, people want to leave all the money to their remarried sons, and they have no problem with others. ”

"Parents' pension problem, we have not yet considered that step, it is difficult to solve the problem of children first, take a step to see it." Of course I know that our second marriage is not easy, so in the future

If my wife's parents need help, I will try my best to help, and I can do anything, but

If I had to pay for it, it would be time to see the specific situation

。 ”

"I also have parents to support, their pension is not high, I want to raise children now, there is no extra money to honor them, and when my children work in the future, I will solve the problem of the house for her, I will definitely save some money for my parents, otherwise they have a disease or something, what to do?" 」

"Of course,

I don't expect my wife to take care of my parents in the future, after all, no one is obligated. She can take care of her parents and just don't drag me back

。 I'm not indifferent, I really don't have that much ability. ”

03、

Mr. Liu, aged 29, and his wife, aged 27.

I've already given a bride price when I got married, so don't ask me for money in the future

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"I just got married for a year, and in order to get married, my parents' family was almost hollowed out. The bride price gave their family 266,000, the down payment of the house was 200,000, the decoration was more than 200,000, and the two families were equally shared. There were also weddings, all kinds of miscellaneous expenses, and the little money I had saved in the past few years of work had also been used up. Now I am with my wife to pay off the mortgage, live, but also seize the time to buy a car, and later have children to go out conveniently. ”

"Now her parents have not retired, my parents do some small business themselves, make some pension money." When they first got married, they asked if the bride price could be less, and their family said that this was marriage, not buying vegetables, and also with bargaining. I also want to ask them, when they wanted the bride price, did they not think about asking me to give them a pension in the future? Is it equivalent to marrying a wife and putting myself into it for the rest of my life? ”

“

My parents are not charitable, and they have given them a bride price and will have to give money for the elderly in the future. I have already given the money, and in the future, whether they go to a nursing home or hire a nanny, it is their own business, don't look for me

I have my own parents to raise. ”

"It's not that I'm cruel, they didn't think about my family's situation when they asked for a bride price and a house, they didn't think about my parents!" If it weren't for my wife and me having been in relationship for so many years, she wouldn't have been nice to me, and I really wouldn't have made it so hard for my parents to get married. ”

"The money has been given, the marriage is married, I have nothing to complain about with my wife, it is the two of us who live, not with her parents." Of course, it is still too early for them to need our care, and it will be the case later.

If the two families get along well, they help us with children or something, then they can't move when they are old, and I will also repay this kindness

。 ”

04、

Mr. Chen, aged 31, and his wife aged 33.

The two have a consensus, each in charge of their own parents

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"I haven't even thought about whether or not to have children, at least for now we have no plans to have children."

"My wife and I are both more open-minded and advanced people, and we don't have the old concept of raising children and preventing old age." Our parents were also very enlightened and never mentioned that we would be required to retire in the future. The economic ability of both of us is also good, but our expenses are also quite large, often go out to travel, see what we like to buy, eat and wear as much as possible to pick good, so we did not save much money. We want to enjoy the moment. ”

"I have also considered what to do when I am old, but it seems that there are still decades of time, I don't want to put huge pressure on myself so early, life is not easy, and living well in front of you is the most important." Play for a few more years and talk about saving money. ”

“

Regarding her parents, I didn't think about what I was going to do for them, and to be honest, I didn't even pay my own parents. Her parents didn't raise me, and my parents didn't raise her, so since no one has this obligation, why morally kidnap

？”

"She has to think about her parents, it's her business, I can give advice, but if you ask me to manage, it's not good!" When we got married, we actually talked about these practical issues, and at that time our consensus was that each of us should take care of each other, and no one should owe anyone.

You can help with some small things, visit, polite or have, others don't look for me

。 Need caregivers, have caregivers, have babysitters to cook and do housework,

If you can spend money to do it, don't get in trouble with each other

。 ”

"Even if one day we figure out that we want to have children, I will not take the initiative to ask the parents of either party to help with the children, if they are willing to help, I am very grateful, I will give money, will not let them contribute in vain." 」

"I think most families should be like this, after all, everyone has their own parents, whether they are only children or not, they must also put their own parents first." Can't say I'm cold, I'm just more realistic. In the future, when it is time to save money, I will save a sum of money with my wife for both parents, such as a thousand per person every month. Parents give them when they need them, and if they don't need them, they will leave them for their future pensions. ”

In fact

Whether the son-in-law will give his parents-in-law a pension depends on how much he loves his wife, and the gender is the same

, it has little to do with whether it is an only child or not. If there are only brothers and sisters, the pressure on everyone is not so great. There is no pressure, you can do anything, once you carry the pressure, people must take care of themselves first.

As husband and wife, I believe that most people are not so ruthless to their spouse's parents and treat them as outsiders, unless they have not established a relationship after decades of getting along, or get along like enemies. For example, the strong contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot be resolved for many years; parents who are only interested in profit and constantly ask for their children.

Between people and people, it is the exchange of hearts for hearts.

In-laws or in-laws, they must be good to their children's spouses, do not treat others as outsiders, think more about when they are old, if there is only one child, relying on their own children alone, it is impossible to survive.

When two people are married, they should also try to choose a feeling, suitable object to get married, as long as the person is right, two people, two families can get along well, any problem can be solved together, rather than to calculate each other, you and I are so clear

。 After all, things that are not guaranteed by the law can only be maintained by the feelings between people.

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