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In the years before my sister was born, I was envious of the children who had siblings in the family. He often said that Xiaoming had a younger brother who looked exactly like him, which was really interesting. And Lily, who has a sister who listens to her and listens to her like a living doll, and I want to be a brother too.
The son longs for a younger brother or sister, and the father always smiles and warns him: "Don't regret it, if you have younger siblings, you are not an only child, I am afraid that when the time comes, you will cry your nose and envy others who are only children."
The son swore that he would not envy anyone else, that he wanted a younger brother.
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Will the children of two-child families envy the children of one-child families? I think so. Don't look at the son who is now envious of those children who have younger siblings, wait for a while, or a longer period of time, ten years, twenty years, maybe he will envy those only children.
As a child of a two-child family, I don't have to wait 20 years, and I have been very envious of my only child since I was a child. They can enjoy mom and dad's love alone, and no one will compete for toys, nice clothes, and good snacks.
As we grow older, some of the advantages of the only child become more apparent. Their parents, for example, sent them to expensive private schools in the city when they were in junior high school. If you have two children in your family and you are not a particularly wealthy family, you can't do it. The educational resources enjoyed by only children are much better than ours.
We have a college classmate who is the only daughter of the family, and the family is relatively wealthy. Because she was admitted to a civil servant in the city, her family immediately bought a house there, and her parents would come to accompany her on weekends.
The age of twenty-something is the age of finding a partner and falling in love, and such an only child has their advantages. Girls are only children, the family's house, car, property will be inherited by her in the future, there are many boys who are very fond of only children.
There are also only children boys, girls when looking for a partner, will also prefer their family structure is simpler. In the future, after starting a family, the contradictions in the family will be relatively small. Therefore, marrying an only child is also the goal of many girls.
There are many advantages of being an only child, but I still chose to give birth to a second daughter. Because as I get older, I have experienced more and more things, and I have also encountered some ups and downs, which made me realize that only children have their advantages, and two-child families also have the benefits of two-child families. However, the advantages between the two are manifested in different time periods.
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When the child is young, he hopes to have younger siblings to play with, and when the child grows up twenty years later, the children of the two-child family envy the only child, most of which are in these times:
When a child establishes a small family and needs financial support from his parents, the children of the two-child family will envy the only child
The establishment of every small family is inseparable from the help of parents, whether it is marrying a daughter or a daughter-in-law.
In one-child families, because the parents have only one child, the financial burden is relatively light, and the savings are relatively large. Therefore, parents of one-child families are more generous in their children's financial support when their children start a family.
Parents of two-child families, they raise two children, the financial burden is relatively heavy. When the child starts a family, buys a house or a car for the child, he must also divide his money into two parts. Two children to divide, it will seem a little tight.
When parents help their children with their children, the children of two-child families will also envy their only children
Children are married, and soon the next generation will be born. But young people need to go out to work, and parents become the main force with their children. If you have two children in your family and need your help with the children, will it be difficult for parents to choose? Some parents simply take turns to help with their children for a month or half a month, and the remaining half of the time can only let the children think of their own ways.
However, the only child is different, and the parents are willing to help with the child. I've seen couples who are only children, and their parents are helping to grab the baby, how happy it is!
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Although the only child has the advantage in the first half of life, such good luck does not always accompany them. When we reach middle age and our parents gradually grow old, the only child will gradually change, to envy the children of those two- and three-child families.
When parents need their children to take care of them, only children envy the children of multi-child families.
Parents can not be young forever, raise children to prevent aging, when parents gradually grow old, they need to get the care of their children. If the parents are plagued by diseases, the burden on the children will be very heavy.
If you are an only child, all the money for your parents' medical treatment needs to be borne by yourself, and all the burden of caring for your parents also needs to be borne by yourself.
And those who have siblings, their burden will be much easier. At this time, it is time for the only child to envy the children of the second-child family.
When their parents leave, the lonely only child will also envy the brotherhood.
Parents are the closest people to the child, except for the parents are brothers and sisters. When parents leave this world, the only child is very lonely, in contrast, people with siblings can report to the group to warm up and become the closest people in the world. Therefore, when your parents are gone, those only children will envy you and have brotherhood.
Now, I am also a second-child mother, watching two children grow up happily is very happy, try to give them the best life, give them the most love, let them be a little more lucky.
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